In this era of Weibo, WeChat and various social apps, it's really easy to fall in love. It only takes three days, one day to know each other, one day to have sex, and one day to break up.
There is a classic line in the forest of Chongqing: When we were closest, the distance between us was only 0.0 1 cm. 57 hours later, I fell in love with this woman. Six hours later, she fell in love with another man.
Obviously, this triangle relationship ended in three days.
It is too easy for modern people to label a relationship as "love", and everyone is too impatient with love itself.
Traditionally, love is a pious and sincere thing. Generally, it will go through several stages: unrequited love, ambiguity, confession, commitment, holding hands, hugging, kissing and body combination.
In the previous generation's view of love, it probably took most of my life to have a complete view of love.
In this era, it takes only three days to complete all the processes.
Because modern people's treatment of "bad things" is not "maintenance", but "upgrading"
A male friend once complained to me that it took a whole day to eat, go shopping and watch movies with an ambiguous object, but he didn't even hold hands.
I asked him, aren't you going out now just to get to know each other? It's normal that people choose not to hold hands with you.
His answer made me very helpless. "We have learned enough. I talked to her more than anyone these days. "
Do you think there's anything wrong? In modern society, there is a default rule for falling in love. In this rule, everyone is tacitly unaffected by like and love.
They are not in love, they are in love because of loneliness, because time is too tight, so they don't involve the problem of "talking".
Because of loneliness and lonely love, love itself is no longer so sacred, and everyone has lost the ability to love.
When we meet people who are interested in various social apps, we feel that it is not bad, so we speak our minds, but we don't know that understanding a person is judged by words and deeds.
It is still too superficial to establish intimate relationships through language.
We have always believed in the love creed of "love is the only existence without utilitarian heart" and "love only one person in my life". Now, we can cycle fast food love every three days.
We no longer use time to measure a relationship, because we think it is a waste of time.
Fast food love is like ordering take-away. You don't simply like a taste. You can't change sour food into spicy food or spicy food into sweet food. There are too many choices, and the one-to-one relationship becomes one-to-many.
Love is the fastest, simplest and rudest way to make a person grow up.
At this age, we have spared no effort to love someone at all costs. So I don't have the courage to run a relationship with all my strength.
As time goes on, our ability to understand "the loss of something we love" becomes lower. The last person to appear is either "please forgive all the difficulties in your previous life" or "accept all the material conditions".
Yesterday, I saw a friend say: The people you meet in the future are all people who have someone else in mind, just like me.
The person who used to be, got all your innocence and sincerity.