Tell me two poems.
Jianjia
Jianjia is green, and the white dew is like frost. The so-called beauty is on the side of the water.
If you follow it for backtracking, the road is blocked and long. If you follow it for backtracking, it will be in the middle of the water.
The flowers are luxuriant and the dew is still white. The so-called beauty is on the water's edge.
If you follow it when you follow it, you will be able to get through it when the road is blocked. If you follow it when you follow it, you will wander in the water.
When you are picking jianjia, the white dew has not stopped. The so-called beauty is in the stream of water.
If you follow it when you trace back, the road is blocked and turn to the right. If you follow it when you trace back, you will wander in the water.
Guan Ju
Guan Guan Jujiu, in the river continent. A graceful lady, a gentleman is fond of quarrels.
Scattered waterlilies flow left and right. A graceful lady, I long for her.
I can’t get what I want, so I sleep hard and think about it. Leisurely leisurely, tossing and turning.
Pick the waterlilies from left to right. A graceful lady, she is a friend of the piano and the harp.
There are different kinds of waterlilies, which are sprouted on the left and right sides. The fair lady is played with bells and drums.
From these two poems, we can read that the freedom and romance of ancient people pursuing love are still very similar to today's. The joy of wooing a girl and the pain of not wanting it are both reflected.
Of course, there were many wars in ancient times and communication was underdeveloped. Men all hoped to become officials, and separation was a common thing. For example,
Bu Shuzi-Li Zhiyi (he was a man)
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I live at the head of the Yangtze River, and you live at the end of the Yangtze River. I miss you every day without seeing you, and drink water from the Yangtze River every day. When will this water stop, and when will this hatred end? I only hope that your heart will be like mine, and I will live up to my love.
Including some poems by Li Qingzhao, it shows that love is still very sacred in the hearts of gentlemen despite its literary background. It is something that both sides want to protect and pursue.
Of course, I have seen some TV dramas that say "parents' orders, matchmaker's words", etc., these are no longer part of the concept of love. To put it bluntly, as it is said now, the opposite sex is the offspring, and the same sex is true love (that's what it means, don't get it wrong). And it was not easy for women in ancient times to go out. As Bai Juyi said in the song of Everlasting Sorrow, "The Yang family has a daughter who has just grown up, and raised People don’t know each other in purdah.” So the environment at that time created the marriage policy at that time, but it does not mean that people at that time did not have a normal view of love. If you use your imagination wider, you can think of getting married first and then falling in love (wrong!)
However, those who have been educated in feudal ideas since childhood are a different matter. Film and television works cannot be trusted as they are all exaggerated.
I believe that no matter what the era and environment is, the yearning and pursuit of love are the same and belong to human nature. Thank you!