The love expressed in this passage is broad, beautiful and somewhat abstract. Only those who have lost their loved ones can feel the pain of death in the death of their loved ones. A year full of whimsy is about the pain of losing a husband.
Joan Didion, a famous American novelist and essayist, was born in 1934. He worked as a journalist and editor when he was young. She and her husband, john gregory Dunn, started out as media professionals and later became freelancers. They make a living by writing. They are left-handed and right-handed, life partners, business partners, and this half and the other half of the soul. Simply put, they live together, you write for me and you publish for me. They walked from a humble newlywed couple with two pens for half a century.
In 2003, Joan Didion was 70 years old, and her daughter Quintana was hospitalized with flu. On the fifth day of her hospitalization, her husband john gregory Dunn died of a heart attack while eating.
Joan Didion acts like a piece of glass, with an unusually strong appearance. She calmly handled her husband's affairs and took care of her daughter as usual until her daughter recovered and was discharged from the hospital. But in fact, she is very fragile inside and often recalls the details of her life with her husband. She often goes to poetry and seeks sustenance in literary works. She doesn't want to admit that her husband has left forever. The answering machine at home still has her husband's voice and her slippers at home. Maybe one day he will come back. ...
In 2004, Joan Didion took good care of her daughter and started a new life. At this time, her husband john gregory Dunn had left her for 65,438+00 months, and she began to recall her husband and her sadness.
In Joan Didion's memory, there is not much pen and ink about her husband. She pays more attention to her sadness. Like scientists and journalists, she calmly and objectively described her daughter's illness, her husband's death and their past time, interspersed with a lot of psychological and psychoanalysis. She wants to know what happened to her husband's death and her sadness.
"Life changes quickly. Life changes instantly. You sit down to eat, and life as you know it is over. The problem of self-pity. " These are a few words she wrote at the beginning of her husband's death. Then these words, running through the book, flashed in memory like a camera.
Joan Didion's bereavement is the pain of sobriety, the pain of reason, and the pain of trying to overcome it. But under her calm tone and plain language, there is an irresistible undercurrent of pain. Some people describe her book as the American version of The Three of us, but in fact, apart from the similar writing reasons and family demographic structure, the expression and emotional trend of the two books are very different. Jiang Yang's expression is a gentle stream of sadness, which has been flowing quietly, touching and flowing downstream.
Joan Didion is better at zero emotion, calm and self-awakening. In addition to soothing grief, she also took mourning as a life proposition to solve. She believes that mourning is actually self-mourning. "Sooner or later, we will abandon the dead, let them go and let them die." She also repeatedly quoted two poems by gerald manly Hopkins as proof: "Margaret, are you mourning for Jin Ye" and "This is the innate fate of mankind/are you mourning for Margaret".
This conclusion is somewhat cruel, although it may be close to the truth. In addition, comparing the level of funeral words is also a kind of heartless cruelty.