Some time ago, Huo Qigang took a family photo on the social platform.
In the photo, he and two children snuggled up on the sofa and enjoyed the concert on TV.
sharp-eyed netizens found some incongruous details in this warm picture.
The interior decoration of the living room is simple, with ordinary-sized LCD TVs, glass vases everywhere, and even old-fashioned air conditioners with yellow colors.
Looking around, it looks like the decoration style of ordinary families, without a trace of luxury.
You know, they live in a mansion worth hundreds of millions.
Earlier, the media reported that Guo Jingjing's Huo Qigang family now lives in a three-story building facing Repulse Bay Beach.
The mansion is equipped with a private swimming pool and garden, with a total area of thousands of square meters and an estimated market value of HK$ 16 million.
by contrast, the interior of a mansion is really too simple.
However, outside the frugal material life, they live the enviable life.
they work hard.
husband and wife are considerate of each other. She felt sorry for his busy work, and he pitied her for taking care of her family.
They also spend their time with their children, taking them to experience life and reading for them.
As a wealthy family, they are never entangled in material desires and only focus on the life they really want.
Zhou Guoping said? As long as a person is willing to restrain his desires and be satisfied with living a relatively simple life, the territory of life will be wider. ?
I deeply agree.
Restrain unnecessary material desires, make your life less decorated and more ideal, and your life will be more exciting.
If you also want to control your desires and focus on your life, you may be enlightened after reading the following concepts.
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The hungry mouse effect
Liang Shiqiu, a Taiwan Province writer, once had dinner with friends.
when cold dishes were served, Mr. Liang said that he was diabetic and could not eat sweet smoked fish.
when the rock sugar elbow is served, Mr. Liang said that you can't touch it either, because there is rock sugar in it.
when the mixed fried rice is served, Mr. Liang still says that it can't be eaten, because starch will be converted into sugar.
Finally, the waiter served a bowl of eight-treasure rice, and everyone took it for granted that he couldn't move chopsticks, because the eight-treasure rice not only contained sugar but also starch.
but to everyone's surprise, Mr. Liang tasted it with relish.
facing everyone's doubts, he explained: I don't eat in front, because I want to eat more in the back; Because my blood sugar is high, I have to avoid eating, so I must plan and leave that quota to my favorite. ?
this is the hungry mouse effect, that is, proper restraint and good development; Excessive indulgence leads to premature aging and short life.
writer Hemingway said:? In an era of luxury and waste, I hope to show the world that what human beings really need is very little. ?
Only by learning to manage excessive desires and self-control, can we truly control ourselves, not be controlled and manipulated by inner desires, and truly dominate our own lives.
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hyperbolic discount
As we all know, chimpanzees' favorite food is bananas. So the researcher made a rule. He distributed a dried fruit to each chimpanzee.
If a chimpanzee can hold back for 2 minutes without eating the dried fruit in his hand, he can exchange the dried fruit for a banana.
most of these chimpanzees lack patience and greedily eat the dried fruits they have, but only a few chimpanzees have been trying to restrain themselves.
Later, these chimpanzees, who had strong restraint, got a great return and got bananas.
this is hyperbolic discount, also known as irrational discount, which describes people's discount decision, which is similar to hyperbola, meaning that most people would rather have a small amount of immediate reward than a large amount of future reward.
Most chimpanzees give up delicious bananas for the dried fruit in front of them. Only a few chimpanzees made rational decisions and finally got bananas.
Imagine, in real life:
Are you willing to watch a movie immediately to get enough sensory stimulation, or do you want to practice calligraphy for three months for a beautiful hand?
Do you choose to watch a TV play immediately to amuse yourself, or would you rather read a difficult book to get a collision of thoughts?
it is the tendency of most people to indulge their desires and eat, drink, and be merry in time. Therefore, the phenomenon of hyperbolic discount is also very common.
However, only by constantly paying attention to and fighting against our hyperbolic discount tendency can we have a better life.
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Self-realization
Michelle, an American moon lander, looked at the beautiful earth from the universe in the Apollo lunar module and gained a peak experience.
suddenly, he knew? The universe has its own meaning and direction. After that tangible creation, there is a level. The pursuit of human beings must be promoted to the enjoyment of global resources, and the world will be sustainable? .
After Michelle returned to Earth, she gave up her space career and devoted herself to the movement of environment and ecology.
this is the process of self-realization, that is, the individual's various talents and potentials can be brought into full play in a suitable social environment and personal ideals and ambitions can be realized.
Maslow's hierarchy of needs divides the needs from low to high into five levels, of which the highest level is self-realization and self-transcendence.
If the demand for self-realization is not met, even if the income is rich and the worldly success is achieved, you will feel that the meaning of work and life is insufficient and feel empty from time to time.
Therefore, in pursuit of a meaningful life, one should find one's own ideal and strive to realize it.
4
once, Mr. Wang Guowei, a master of Chinese studies during the Republic of China, invited the late Qing emperor Puyi, who had already retired, to be a guest at home.
When he enthusiastically showed Puyi that he had treasured half-life antique calligraphy and painting, stone and jade articles, Puyi was not very interested. Instead, he casually pointed out a few pieces and told Wang Guowei that they were all fakes.
Wang Guowei certainly refuses to accept it. These curios are all selected by him with his own aesthetic and historical attainments. How can they be fakes? Wang Guowei thought, maybe the little emperor didn't look carefully.
After Puyi left, Wang Guowei couldn't wait to find friends with deeper knowledge to help identify them, and went to the antique shop to find experts, but the result was the same: These pieces? Treasures? , is indeed a fake.
after this incident? Master Jinshi? Wang Guowei, for this young but knowledgeable Puyi, was deeply impressed.
When he humbly asked Puyi for the identification method again, Puyi said:? I don't understand the identification methods and techniques you mentioned. I just look at your gadgets, which are different from those at home. ?