Would you do the same?
I have many such friends around me.
For example, D, during college, not only considered buying a house and a car after marriage, but also looked forward to a bright future and acted like an expert in his major.
Because D has been to my home and seen my calligraphy works, I always hope to introduce him to my tutor!
D said confidently, Do you know? I am at home, in the dormitory, and practice when I have time. They all say I'm talented!
I asked: Who? Who are they?
He said, all my family and friends.
Me: So you believe it?
He is justified: why can't you believe it?
D, a self-disciplined friend, I admire him very much. He is sincere, kind and steady, and always does beautifully! However, when his self-discipline meets the future, it will disappear immediately. He always feels that the future is infinite! The stage is as big as the heart. I signed up for various courses that day, and after studying for a few days, I began to plan to be a photographer, fitness coach, personal brand founder, micro-marketing and so on.
Because I am a friend, I have been embarrassed to break his dream, but I just insist on praising his dress in my circle of friends every day!
Before taking him to see the tutor, I repeatedly reminded the teacher that he is a beginner, and even if his calligraphy is average, he can speak something nice! The teacher smiled at me: Don't worry! I know what to say!
On the day of the visit, D didn't know how to open the pen, so he dipped in ink and went straight to the pen! Scrape a few books and complete a "masterpiece"! Then ask with anticipation: teacher, I want to learn calligraphy from you? How's it going? I have made a good plan. Take the exam after one year of study, and then start to hold exhibitions. ...
The teacher smiled and walked out of the rows of tables and chairs. I've been staring at him. He hesitated for a long time and said, in fact, calligraphy is just an interest. I am in my twenties, so just write casually. I don't have to ask too much.
As soon as my heart cooled, I predicted that there would be one less friend returning to the address book!
D's face fell and he said loudly in that masculine voice, everyone said I was talented and well written!
The teacher still smiled: Are they all acquaintances? That's polite, but it's not their own. They don't care if the lies are nice and the truth is sad!
I seem to have rushed up, but I still stopped to listen to the teacher's analysis.
D endured that anger and continued to ask: Why can I conclude that I have no talent just by a few words? It's a rash!
The teacher said earnestly: I have been writing for forty years, and I have met countless parents and children who want to change their children's fate. I know what talent is like. Didn't you come here today to recognize my ability?
In addition, I also write from ugly to positive, and I know it can't be done soon!
D has been unable to maintain his gentlemanly demeanor, and roared off angrily. ...
Embarrassed, I turned to the teacher and said, isn't that a little direct?
The teacher tidied up the pen and ink, and slowly replied, I thought for a long time before I said it. Because you said he was your good friend, I said what I thought, and it was a euphemism. More directly, he is a mess. At first glance, it means three days of fishing and two days of drying nets. Pretend to send friends to take pictures every day! I don't imitate everyone's handwriting, I just follow my own preferences. You can tell at a glance when you enter the door, and you can't say anything nice!
I can't be polite to a kind person!
The teacher went on to say: I have brought so many students, and they have many hopes to change their writing style during a holiday, contribute to the entrance examination for senior high school entrance examination, and are busy planning the brilliant tomorrow that good handwriting can bring! However, is it wrong to interpret art in this way from the beginning? Art needs not only hard practice, but also talent, which most people don't agree with. How many children have I met who have passed the whole grade exam and still don't know the calligraphy genre? ...
Even, don't you think most people have this common problem? Overplanning the future will spread like a virus with the approach of winter vacation and Spring Festival. My own, my partner's and my children's future all hope to be reborn and make a big leap in the next year. In fact, many people think too much!
Why don't I think I've met too many people who plan the future too much? ...
Someone asked me: If I want to be a sharer, how can I make a vivid speech with tens of thousands of fans? I asked: How many times have you shared it? She said it hasn't started yet. I won't start until my pronunciation is good! I said: You'd better start sharing now! I have shared my pronunciation while practicing it!
Someone asked me: Which is better, continuing the college entrance examination or being a professional athlete? I asked him: Is it from the provincial team? He said: if you want to understand this problem, I will learn the ball! I said, you'd better practice the ball and go to school first. After practicing for at least one year, you can consider the balance between professional athletes and college students.
Someone asked: I'm quitting! But what if it doesn't suit me? I asked her: What do you think is the best for you to do? She said: I'm not particularly good at it, and I haven't found anything good! It is not appropriate to change six jobs in three years. I said we should stick to one thing for three years and a career for three years, and then struggle about what is appropriate!
A senior asked me: How to find a good job after graduating from college? I asked her: How old? She said: I am in high school! I said: do your homework first, get into a good university, and don't think about work all day!
They asked me loudly: aren't we planning our goals? No future orientation? How come...
I smiled: over-planning the future is a curable disease! I used to have it, just like you! I can't see the cards in my hand or the road under my feet, but I always believe that the lights in the future will be more beautiful than tonight. That's not a dream, that's a fantasy, that's not looking forward to the future, that's a fantasy!
They left smiling. ...
Yes, dear you, I understand that life has financial freedom and a monthly income of one million, as well as poetry and distance. I also understand that today's life is still one step at a time. Countless beautiful women in the future are decorated with a down-to-earth "now", and few people fly into the sky and go straight to the sky!
Next year, unless you accumulate a lot of money or the world changes suddenly, you will not be much better or much worse than now. Success and failure are from quantitative change to qualitative change, step by step, daydreaming is meaningless!
Don't hit today's face with tomorrow's hand, do what you should do. The most useless thing for people is fantasy, and action changes everything. Tomorrow you will encounter different problems from what you think, the solution will be more mature, and your ability is not comparable to today. Have a good day today, and tomorrow will not be too bad!
So I appreciate what the calligraphy teacher said to my friends. This is another kind of education! Even if I went back to look at the address book, there was room, but not long after the weekend, D borrowed some basic calligraphy books from me! Going back is also taking time to practice every day, and the circle of friends is much less!
You and I, no matter who we are, have grown up step by step, and have a painful but complete process.
Dreams are unconstrained and unconstrained, and reality is integrated with knowledge and action. From control to letting go, from tension to relaxation, it is also a contest with yourself.