Li Qingzhao (1084-about 1151): a female poet in the Southern Song Dynasty. No. Yi'an Jushi, a native of Zhangqiu, Qizhou (now part of Shandong). His father, Li Gefei, was a famous scholar at that time, and his husband, Zhao Mingcheng, was an epigraphic expert.
Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng were a rare pair of well-matched and talented talents in ancient times. It is said that Li Qingzhao became famous in the capital while in the boudoir, attracting Zhao Mingcheng, a college student, to dream of lovesickness for her. According to the "Wai Zhuan" quoted in the volume of "The Story of Langniang", Zhao Mingcheng had a dream one day when he was a child. He recited a poem in his dream. When he woke up, he only remembered three sentences: "The words are in harmony with Si, and the clothes have been taken off. Zhifucao Pull it out." I couldn't figure it out, so I asked my father for advice. His father laughed loudly after hearing this: "My son wants a wife who can write poetry." Mingcheng was puzzled. His father said: "'Yan Yu Si He' is the word for 'Ci', and 'On has been taken off' is the word for '女', and 'Chi Fu Cao Pha' is the word for 'the husband'. Together they are 'the husband of the woman of the word'" '. "Although it is a legend, it also shows that Li Qingzhao was very angry at that time and the Zhao family and his son had great admiration for this female poet. Considering the status and background of the two families as well as their talents and looks, marriage has become inevitable.
In this way, when Li Qingzhao was eighteen years old, he married Zhao Mingcheng, a student of the Imperial Academy. Zhao Mingcheng was the son of the prime minister. He loved epigraphy and had high cultural accomplishment. Their love is not like those love stories we are familiar with. It is the kind of sweetness that is only enjoyed after going through all kinds of difficulties and life and death. Zhao Mingcheng is a handsome young man, and the two are literary confidants, and they are in love. Zhao Mingcheng's father was also an official in the court, and the two families were well matched. What's even more rare is that in addition to the general literati's interest in poetry, poetry, music and chess, the two of them also have a more similar career connection point - the study of epigraphy. In the feudal era where free love was not allowed and depended on the words of the matchmaker and the will of the parents, it was truly a God-given match for the two of them to have such a love ending. Please look at this song "Magnolia with Reduced Words":
On the flower seller's basket, I bought a branch that is about to bloom. The tears are stained lightly and evenly, but still have traces of the dawn dew. Pinglang guessed that slave noodles are not as good as flower noodles. The hairpin on the temples is slanted, and the disciple taught him to compare.
This is the sweetness after marriage and the coquettishness of your husband. It can be said that Li Zhao's love is a typical mandarin duck and butterfly love.
Because they both love literature, history, poetry and books, they often sing poems and compare notes with each other, which makes their family life full of laughter and fun. They often play games to enhance their memory skills and broaden their knowledge. Among them, the "Tea Order" game is the most famous.
In order to write "Inscriptions on Gold and Stone", she and Zhao Mingcheng returned to their hometown in Qingzhou (now Yidu County, Shandong). In the process of studying and writing, Li Qingzhao was quite conceited about his memorization and erudition, so he suddenly came up with a whim and implemented a tea order that mainly tested the opponent's knowledge of classics and allusions. The winner could drink a cup of tea first, and the loser could drink later. Tea is very different from the wine journey.
Every time after dinner, the two of them would sit in the "Return Hall", make tea, and then one person would point to the piles of books and ask the other person to tell the number of the book from which a certain allusion came. Volume, page or even line, determine the winner based on whether the answer is correct, and determine who drinks tea first. When the two of them hold tea orders, Li Qingzhao often wins. Once after she won, she raised a cup and laughed, but she got carried away with her joy. She overturned the cup and dumped the full cup of tea into her arms. Not only did she miss the drink, but she also ruined her dress.
Drinking tea, giving orders, enlightening students, exciting people, and talking about books are of great benefit. Zhao Mingcheng finally wrote my country's first archaeological monograph "Gold and Stone Records", which became the history of archaeology. famous figures. This book embodies the couple's twenty years of hard work and is a precious legacy she dedicated to the treasure house of our country's literature.
There is another anecdote about the couple. It is said that when Zhao Mingcheng was studying in college, he could only take leave on the first day of every month and come back. Even though they were in the same city of Bianjing, Li Qingzhao still felt like they were far apart, and the meeting once every half month was regarded as the annual Chinese Valentine's Day.
This day is the Lantern Festival, which happens to be the day when Zhao Mingcheng comes home. Zhao Mingcheng has just sat down in the study when the maid comes to report that there is a young man from the university asking to see him. When the young master walked into the study, he was seen wearing an embroidered Confucian scarf, a lake-colored cotton robe, and pink-soled satin boots. He was handsome and elegant. Zhao Mingcheng quickly stood up and asked his name. The scholar behaved smartly, returned his bow, and replied: "Xiaosheng and my brother have always been classmates.
I haven’t seen you for half a month, why is my brother so forgetful? "Zhao Mingcheng woke up, laughed unconsciously, and grabbed his wife who was disguised as a man. After lunch, Li Qingzhao, who was dressed as a man, took the maid and followed Zhao Mingcheng through the streets and alleys to the center of the city. Daxiangguo Temple. After visiting Daxiangguo Temple, Zhao Mingcheng chose snacks that people in the market were accustomed to eating but that Li Qingzhao had never seen before, and asked Li Qingzhao to try some. I bought some small clay figures and other playthings on the burden of the wandering artist. The first time Li Qingzhao, who was born in a wealthy family, took to the streets, it was very novel and very happy. This story is purely a vivid plot written by some of our romance novel writers. It seems that the romance of the ancients was indeed real.
However, Li Zhao's love was not without hardships. The era they lived in was the late Northern Song Dynasty. Anyone familiar with that era knew that foreign enemies existed. When the country is invaded and the country is not protected, how can the family be safe? The moon waxes and wanes, and people have joys and sorrows. Li Qingzhao's life in troubled times has produced unforgettable pains in his life, that is, the destruction of his family, the death of his husband, and all kinds of disasters. Torture.
In March 1107, Zhao Mingcheng's father, who was serving as prime minister in the imperial court, suddenly died of illness. At this time, the evil prime minister Cai Jing secretly plotted murder and accused Zhao Mingcheng's father of being disloyal to the imperial family. After Cai Jing's slander, he immediately revoked the various gifts and titles he had given to Zhao Mingcheng's father. Zhao Mingcheng's three brothers were all dismissed from their posts due to "father's crime".
Under Cai Jing's persecution, Zhao Mingcheng and Li Qingzhao and his wife had to go back to their hometown of Qingzhou. Due to the strife in the officialdom, Li Qingzhao also suffered this misfortune. One day, he said: "It seems that we and I will grow old together here."
Li Qingzhao smiled and said: "Do you think I am someone who envies glory and wealth? I am not! Our life is a bit bitter, but there is also sweetness in the bitterness." We should be like the sweet-scented osmanthus: quietly hiding among the green leaves, dim and yellow, willing to be lonely. From now on, we should work harder to sort out ancient books, study epigraphy and stone, and recite poems and lyrics to comfort ourselves in our lives.
Zhao Mingcheng nodded thoughtfully, and sighed after a while: "If you don't work as an official, you will have no salary, and you will have nothing to do. Even if you have a simple meal, it is difficult to maintain it for a long time. It is even more difficult to collect calligraphy, painting, and inscriptions." Li Qingzhao said: "When our financial resources are exhausted, we should be frugal in everything. I think that from today on, the food we eat can be reduced from meat; the clothes we wear can be reduced from precious silks. The jadeite on my head, Pearls, gold hairpins, silver hairpins, etc. can all be removed. The gold-coated utensils, valuable furnishings, embroidery, etc. in our home can also be sold off. In short, except for inscriptions, calligraphy and paintings, and hundreds of books and histories, all can be sold off. "
After hearing this, Zhao Mingcheng was deeply moved: "What the good wife said is exactly what I want. It's hard to be with each other, and it's hard to buy the same love as brothers. It's just you and me who are the best friends in the world." It expresses the couple's feelings of adversity and also shows that they truly know and love each other.
Love and marriage are the most important parts of life. Li Qingzhao went from a boy to a young man, from the warm wings of his parents to his confidant and lover Zhao Mingcheng. Although the two knew each other and loved each other, their love Like marriage, it is full of anxiety of expectation, sparks of collision, refreshing warmth, and sadness in troubled times. Therefore, later generations use some words and sentences to infer some love conflicts between the two.
The Zhao and Song dynasties fled south in a hurry in 1127 AD, beginning a chapter of extreme humiliation for the country and the nation in Chinese history. Li Qingzhao's love nest in Qingzhou, Shandong Province fell apart and the family began to live a wandering life. A few years later, Zhao Mingcheng moved to Huzhou to take office. Qingzhou was plundered, and Li Qingzhao left his hometown and reunited with his husband with his cultural relics. However, Zhao Mingcheng was framed and died in a foreign land... In order to clear up his husband's injustice, Li Qingzhao hired a boat to carry his belongings and chased the court to Wuzhou, where all the antiques were deceived...
The country was destroyed, the family was destroyed, and the husband was Mourning, losing everything, Li Qingzhao fell into pain and disaster... It seems that since ancient times, God has always been jealous of beauty, and it is always so difficult to have a perfect and long-term love. Despite this, we still yearn for the love legend of Li and Zhao. .
Perhaps, the sadness of parting and the inseparability of parting, the deeper the love and the deeper the longing, are the unavoidable characteristics of love. In the end, let us chew on their love legend and listen to this song Let me end this article with a song that has been sung through the ages. The fragrance of red lotus roots lingers in the jade mat in autumn. I undress my clothes lightly and get on an orchid boat alone. Who in the clouds sent a brocade book? When the wild goose returned, the moon was full on the west tower. The flowers are floating and the water is flowing, a kind of lovesickness, and two places of leisurely sorrow. There is no way to eliminate this feeling, so I just frown, but it is in my heart.
It is often said that love stories that end in tragedy are often more soul-stirring. However, no one wants such a love tragedy to happen to them. Therefore, while we are nostalgic for the love stories of the ancients, we must not forget to cherish the close lovers around us. After all, saying "I love you" does not mean easy.
The romantic first encounter between Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng:
This year, Li Qingzhao was seventeen years old and it had been two years since he came to Bianjing. Her father, Li Gefei, was not unaware of her thoughts, but he just thought about it and didn't know what to do. The daughter's mind is bound to a certain moment that he is not aware of, and it must also be solved at another moment that he is not aware of. Li Gefei knew that the fate between his daughter and him on the other side of time was not enough, and the energy was not enough. The time of loneliness needs to last longer. It is easy to find priceless treasures, but it is rare to find a thoughtful man.
If a woman is too harsh on herself, the result will either be that the iron tree blooms, or she will be trapped alone in the illusion she created. Li Qingzhao is such a woman, harsh on love and harsh on life. But this does not mean that such a woman has the ability to identify the essence of a man. She knew that a man she wanted to love needed to possess many qualities: talented, handsome, chivalrous and tender, and upright. After she met Zhao Mingcheng, she definitely thought so about him. But this is just what she thought.
She reminds me of Zhang Ailing. Zhao Mingcheng is to Li Qingzhao as Hu Lancheng is to Zhang Ailing. The difference is that Zhao Mingcheng gave much more to Li Qingzhao than Hu Lancheng gave to Zhang Ailing. However, in the end, they just regarded them as the one in their own illusions, so as to achieve self-deception and perfection. Zhang Ailing never did this well, but Li Qingzhao did.
Loneliness brings more fear to people than disappointment in love. Disappointment in love has nothing to do with love itself. Sometimes love and love are not even connected. Loneliness is an abyss. Before being shattered into pieces, the betrayal of love is so unwilling to be considered. It is a dangerous thing in itself, and we cannot refuse love because we are afraid of being hurt.
Li Qingzhao is generally lucky. Although Zhao Mingcheng kept concubines and singers when he was the magistrate of Laizhou and was somewhat indifferent to Li Qingzhao, in the end, these bumpy roads were insignificant in the face of the decades of time and energy that Zhao Mingcheng and Li Qingzhao spent together. We are meant to fall in love with love itself. So, all is well. Seventeen-year-old Li Qingzhao waited for Zhao Mingcheng with full enthusiasm, regardless of it, as if rushing to a blissful ceremony.
This reminds me of Li Qingzhao in the period after Zhao Mingcheng passed away, homeless and lonely. At that time, Li Qingzhao certainly did not forget the pure and honest heart, the heart of a girl, waiting in the boudoir. This place and the other side reflect each other. It seems to have penetrated the life of this graceful and graceful woman.
Smell the green plums
Stop playing on the swing and get up to straighten your slender hands.
The dew is thick and the flowers are thin, and the sweat is thin and the clothes are light.
When I see someone coming, my gold hairpin slips out of my socks.
He walked away in shame, leaning against the door and looking back, sniffing the green plums.
——Li Qingzhao's "Red Lips"
On this day, the sun is abundant. She was swinging alone in the courtyard, playing a game by herself, without noticing the movement of her palm prints. A few hours disappeared in the blink of an eye. She heard a human voice in a trance, gentle and sincere, as if coming from the other side of her heart. She was shocked. Because the sound reached her ears in an instant and was able to warm her heart. So she stopped playing on the swing, got up and walked around in search of the sound. The fragrant sweat penetrated the thin Luo Yi. Outside the body is thick dew and thin, but in the heart there is silence and tenderness.
Unexpectedly, someone came and she dropped the gold hairpin in her hurry, revealing her timid attitude. This is the reserve in a girl's nature, and it will be reflected at all times. Some are deliberate seductions, and some are natural shyness.
No matter which one, it requires emotion, abundant emotion as inducement. Helpless, there was an undercurrent in her heart, but she still looked back at the Fengshen who secretly glanced at the young man. Beneath the silent appearance of leaning against the door and sniffing the plum blossoms is an undercurrent.
I always believe in fate. There is a destined connection between people. Man, woman, that pair of people. He may not be the first one to appear, but he must be the one who happens to appear. Your energy is just right, his magnetic field is just right, and your sexual vibration is just right. So, that's how it happened. All right. But it was difficult, very difficult, but Li Qingzhao encountered it. Time has been kind to her.
Of course, a big book about love and life can be written about the fate of these two people. The numerology of the two people is extremely clear in this love affair. At that time, Li Qingzhao was famous for his poetry, and his excellent works were widely circulated among scholar-bureaucrats. Zhao Mingcheng, who was still a student at the time, was naturally aware of Li Qingzhao's talent. Time is a good matchmaker, and every word is profound and elegant. As the saying goes, "Art is like the person it is", Zhao Mingcheng imprinted this talented, gentle and beautiful little girl in his heart without knowing it.
Later, Zhao Mingcheng understood one thing, that is, he confirmed that his love for Li Qingzhao was pure and clear, and he had no hesitation. Zhao Mingcheng's admiration for Li Qingzhao at that time had already been revealed in ancient records. There is a story about Zhao Mingcheng recorded in "The Story of Langhuan" written by Yi Shizhen in the Yuan Dynasty, which is euphemistically called "Zhifu's Dream".
When Zhao Mingcheng was young, his father would choose a wife. Mingcheng took a nap during the day and dreamed of reciting a book. When he woke up, he could only recall three sentences, which said: "The words are in harmony with Si, and they have been taken off, and the seeds and grass have been pulled out." He told his father, and his father explained: "You are waiting for it. A woman who can write and write poems, the word "sihe" is the word "word", the word "an" is "female", and the word "zhifucaoba" is the word "husband". It doesn't mean that you are the husband of the word girl."
It’s a dose of lies. His, about her. Ours, about what’s in our minds. It's all about love. Zhao Mingcheng did it, he made lies more touching than legends. He even turned it into a constant light, so that reading it here and now still makes me feel romantic and warm.
Although the truth of the story cannot be verified, it is not groundless. The reason why it is spread naturally has its own reason, and it must have its origin. And here, Zhao Mingcheng's admiration for Li Qingzhao can be seen clearly. It was precisely because of this that Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng met for the first time. Meeting the right person at the right time is a blessing in life, and the brilliance it brings is enough to illuminate the length and hope for the rest of your life. They have become the darlings of time at this moment.
Since ancient times, Chinese people have said that they should match each other, and the idea of ??matching is still flourishing today. It's just that the meaning of matching is no longer simply "well-matched."
Zhao Mingcheng's father, Zhao Tingzhi, was the minister of the Ministry of Civil Affairs at that time, and he was in the third rank. Because of his outstanding political talents, Zhao Tingzhi had outstanding political achievements when he was a local official, so he was promoted quickly. At this time, Li Qingzhao's father, Li Gefei, was in the sixth rank and served as a minister of etiquette in the imperial court. He was imprisoned in Jingdong. Although Li Gefei was not as high-ranking as Zhao Tingzhi, he was still an important official in the court. Therefore, regardless of the beginning caused by the old and new party struggles, the two families are already considered a "match".
More importantly, Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng have similar interests and matching talents. Although Zhao Mingcheng was the third son of Zhao Tingzhi, a high-ranking official of the current dynasty, he was not at all ungrateful and talented. He also loved to search for and collect gold and stone inscriptions, cultural relics, calligraphy and paintings from the previous dynasty. After Li Qingzhao married Zhao Mingcheng, the couple worked together on the search and collection of stone inscriptions and cultural relics, calligraphy and paintings. This has also become the most solemn event in the married life of the couple, like an endless grand ceremony.
Although the statement of "well-matched" cannot be frankly recognized by the world, we can never deny the necessity of a deeper "matched". Although affection in a strange place is always more likely to win the sympathy of the world, its rarity, contingency and unrepresentativeness are an indisputable fact in this noisy world.
"You won't understand some moods. Sometimes after five minutes, the mood is completely different. For many things in life, if you miss one hour, you may miss a lifetime. At that time, I I just did it without knowing the truth. After all these years, I finally understood that just like today, you live in this hotel, which is exactly where I serve.
If you don’t order coffee, or the head waiter doesn’t ask me to deliver it, or you don’t call me when I turn around, we can’t meet again, that’s how life is.”
These are Lin Qingxuan’s words. I always think this is A man with no dust on his body. He seems to always be able to stand in a clean and transparent space and realize the most profound yet simple principles in life. So at this time, I thought of this passage. Just like the first meeting between Li Qingzhao and Zhao Mingcheng, it seems to have a sense of fate.
If you still want to think about it at the end of your life, I am afraid you must have responded to Nalan Xingde's words, "If life is just like this." "First meeting".
Thousands of strands of sorrow
Lonely in the boudoir, every inch of the soft intestine is filled with sorrow.
Cherish the spring when spring is gone, and it will rain at some time.
Leaning on the railings, there is no emotion.
Where are the people? The grass is dying, and I can’t see the way back. ——Li Qingzhao’s "Red Lips"