The psychological impression formed by two strangers when they meet for the first time is called "first impression". There is always a first time in interpersonal communication. A good first impression is an invisible key to open the door to communication. It can be said that a good beginning is half the battle. Because the first impression often affects the judgment and evaluation of others in the future, and also directly affects the continuation of communication. Therefore, it is not an exaggeration to call the first impression "the best passport" and "the most authoritative letter of introduction".
The first impression is the first revelation of a person's inner world and inner cultivation. I don't know if you have noticed this situation: when you meet a complete relative, a stranger comes to your home, or introduces you to a new friend, and goes to a new job to meet the leader, what is your first impression? First impression. Since the first impression is a person's "facade" and a wonderful letter of introduction, we can't help but pay attention to our own gfd and self-image building in our communication activities.
In our daily life, love at first sight is the result of the first impression. Many good stories have been passed down to this day.
The love story between Sima Xiangru and Zhuo Wenjun is a much-told story in ancient literary circles. Although Sima Xiangru was born in a poor family in his early years, he was studious and brilliant, but his knowledge was not known until he met Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty. On one occasion, Sima Xiangru went to Lin Qiong County to be a friend of the county magistrate. When the local rich heard that the friends of the county magistrate were coming, they gave a banquet at the home of the rich man Zhuo Wangsun. During the dinner, Sima Xiangru played the piano very well and everyone appreciated it. Zhuo Wenjun, the daughter of Zhuo Wangsun, heard the wonderful piano music and saw the gentle Sima Xiangru through the curtains, which made her admire. Sima Xiangru had long heard that Zhuo Wenjun was beautiful and intelligent, so he deliberately used the piano to express his feelings for Zhuo Wenjun. The sound of the piano is a thread that connects two people's hearts. One night a few days later, they finally met, fell in love at first sight, and then went to other places.
The story of "Peach Blossom Face" is also a much-told story in ancient literary circles. Legend has it that one year in Tomb-Sweeping Day, Cui Hu, a poet of the Tang Dynasty, traveled alone and came to a farmhouse. He saw peach blossoms in full bloom and the scenery was charming. He knocked at the door for water to quench his thirst. The door opened and a girl brought tea. As soon as they hit it off, they immediately developed friendship. When the girl saw Cui Hu's graceful demeanor, Cui Hu saw that the girl was beautiful and gentle, so she left each other affectionately. The following year in Tomb-Sweeping Day, Cuihu missed the girl and revisited the old place. I didn't expect the peach blossom to still be there, but I didn't see the girl. My heart is full of nostalgia and melancholy, so I wrote a poem to express my friendship: "Today last year, in this door, peach blossoms set each other off." People don't know where to go, and peach blossoms are still smiling in the spring breeze. " However, the girl was not married, but was ill in bed because she missed Cui Hu. Later, they finally met and got married.
There are many examples of love at first sight in real life. Such as the combination of Napoleon and Josephine in France; The combination of Elizabeth Barrett and/kloc-Browning, a famous English poet in the 0/9th century; The combination of Feng Yuxiang, a famous general and patriotic democrat in China's modern history, and Li Dequan is full of romance at first sight.
What is the mystery of love at first sight? Love at first sight between young men and women, at first, is mainly the physiological reflection of perception at work, gorgeous and charming appearance, gentle manners, brilliant knowledge, different vulgar conversation and so on. , aroused mutual admiration, followed by the collision of two hearts, lit the flame of love.
First impressions are important not only in life, but also in work.
According to a psychological survey of personnel managers in enterprises and institutions on 108, the "first impression" of job seekers will have an impact on the hiring decision of enterprise personnel managers, especially those who are untidy.
Since September, 2003, the Department of Social Psychology of East China Normal University has interviewed 108 personnel directors in various industries through face-to-face or telephone interviews. The respondents' work units are mainly foreign-funded and joint ventures, and their ages are mainly between 20 and 39.
According to the survey, most personnel managers will form a "first impression" on candidates within ten minutes. Besides, 97? 2% of HR directors admit that a candidate's "first impression" may or will definitely have an impact on his hiring decision. Hair plays an important role in the "first impression" formed by the personnel manager. Bald men are even worse than those with long hair when trying to impress the personnel manager.
A well-qualified marketing expert earnestly warned colleagues involved in the marketing field: in the marketing industry, those who know the packaging image and give people a good first impression will always be winners. People are "feelings", and the first impression often determines the future development relationship. If you leave a negative first impression when the two sides meet for the first time, even if your major is strong and your personality or ability is good, it is difficult to prove it again. On the contrary, if you make a good first impression on your customers, you will have a chance to display your talents.
As the saying goes, "Clothes make the man, but a horse depends on the saddle." A person's dress can directly reflect his accomplishment, temperament and sentiment. You can often show who you are before others know about you or your talent. Therefore, if you want to get twice the result with half the effort, you must work hard in this respect when you meet for the first time.
The formation of the first impression, if the cow has a biased effect, will greatly affect the evaluation of others in the future.
In our daily life and interpersonal communication, beautiful things are always pleasing to the eye and can stimulate people's goodwill, while ugly things are always annoying and disgusting. This different feeling of beauty and ugliness has both physiological and social factors. It can be seen that beautiful appearance and manners can give people a good first impression and let the other party know that this is the mystery of love at first sight.
The formation of the first impression will give people a special psychological and emotional set, thus attributing some personal qualities that he has not shown or that you have not understood to him, regardless of whether this person really has these qualities. This is the so-called "prejudice effect".
Since the first impression is so important, how can we make a good first impression? The following points deserve your attention:
Dignified appearance
Appearance generally refers to a person's appearance and appearance modification. Although people all know the truth that "judge a person by his appearance, and miss a chance", in public, everyone wants to be with a well-dressed and generous person, and no one wants to get along with a sloppy person.
Looks natural.
Expression can not only fully show one's personality and self-cultivation, but also make up for one's congenital deficiency. In the first communication with people, we must relax ourselves psychologically and have a natural expression.
Speak politely.
When talking with others, you should pay attention to each other's conversation, nod if you agree, smile if you are funny, and don't interrupt others at will, but you can ask questions to show that you are listening carefully. Don't ask, know what you don't need to know and what others don't want to say.
Moderate behavior
Behavior is the expression of a person's inner temperament and accomplishment. Pay attention to civility and politeness in action, don't be rash, arrogant, pretend to understand, arrogant and give orders; Don't sneeze or cough at people; Don't sit crooked, cross your legs, dance and spit when you speak; Don't cut your nails, pick your nose or pinch your feet in public.
Be honest with others.
In life, everyone is willing to associate with warm and sincere people, while keeping a certain distance from hypocritical and selfish people. Therefore, if you want to get a good first impression, you must communicate with others sincerely and care about others, so that people feel that life is better because of your existence.
Be knowledgeable.
If a person has rich knowledge, or wonderful speeches, or skillful cooking, or handsome calligraphy and painting, or beautiful sports skills, or humorous program sketches, etc. , will also leave a good first impression.
Therefore, no matter when, where and under what circumstances, we should pay attention to our first impression on others and be a beautiful jade with both internal and external cultivation.