He answered in five words: Know yourself.
When people reach a certain age, they must learn to look at themselves and cultivate themselves in order to become better.
You must try the Three Realms of Self-improvement recommended by People's Daily.
1. Only by understanding yourself and recognizing yourself can we straighten out our lives.
Socrates, a famous philosopher, said: An unexamined life is not worth living.
If a person can always reflect on himself and look at himself from the perspective of a bystander, life will not be too bad.
Earlier, Chen accepted an interview with Yang Lan.
At that time, he had nearly 30 years of experience as an artist, but he only focused on filming.
Usually, actors at his stage will choose to be directors and producers.
So Yang Lan asked him curiously why he didn't want to try to be a director like everyone else.
Chen explained that many people actually asked him to be a director, but he refused.
Because he knows his own advantages and disadvantages, he feels that his personality is not suitable for being a director and is not good at communicating with people.
In order to avoid embarrassing others and himself, he refused many temptations.
Ji Xianlin said: "It is not easy for a nation and a person to know themselves. The great China is no exception.
Before the Opium War, we didn't know ourselves at all, nor did we know the general trend of the world. We are ignorant and arrogant, pretending that we are a big country in China, the king of yelang and the frog in the well, and that's all. "
A person's greatest sorrow is not that there is something wrong with him, but that he is ill and doesn't know it.
Mr. Jin Weichun, the author of There is only one thing in life, tells us that there are shortcuts in life.
The shortcut is to admit your mistakes and reflect on yourself. You need to know your own problems, and you need to know that you need to improve.
I like a sentence in The Little Prince very much: It is much harder to judge yourself than to judge others. If you successfully judge yourself correctly, then you are a real wise man.
2. Please yourself and accept yourself, then you can shine in live high.
Zhou said to him, "You can't live without friends. Among all your friends, you can't miss the most important one, that is yourself.
Without this friend, even if a person has friends all over the world, it is only superficial excitement. In fact, he is very empty. "
Pleasing oneself is a person's greatest ability.
As Yi Shu said: "Life is only a few decades, and the most important thing is to satisfy yourself, not to please others."
In life, people who are too generous are always used to pleasing others and live without a bottom line.
When a person lives without principles, he will not be respected.
Will you always have such people around you? I don't feel valued when I return a message. ...
You are talking about your point of view, and he always feels that you are targeting him. ...
This is mostly a reflection of the lack of sense of value in the heart, accustomed to please, which is also the source of self-confidence.
How to change this situation? Please force yourself to develop the following three methods.
Learn to keep a diary of success. Little things that have a sense of accomplishment every day. Looking at it when you are unhappy can help you ignite your confidence.
Remind yourself that adults don't need to let others decide your value.
Let yourself do something more valuable and you will be more confident.
Jiang said: "The people who really appreciate you are those who appreciate your pride, not those who pretend to be cute and humble."
We are only a small part of the world. Only by studying yourself and paying attention to your own needs can you live well.
Life is short, and trying to live a wonderful life is the best way to repay time.
3. Beyond yourself, beyond yourself, the future can only be expected.
Hemingway said: true nobility is not superior to others, but to oneself in the past.
If you have to define success, it is "to live a life with a continuous sense of accomplishment."
Someone asked Charles Munger how he became so rich, and his answer was simple:
"When I get up every day, I try to be smarter than before.
This progress is not necessarily rapid. But you can lay a good foundation for rapid progress in this way.
Move forward slowly every day. Finally, if you live long enough, most people get what they deserve. "
Cai Kangyong once wrote a Weibo: "When you were 15 years old, you found it difficult to swim, so you gave up swimming. At the age of 65,438+08, when you meet someone you like and ask you to go swimming, you have to say' I can't'.
18 years old, found English difficult and gave up English. At the age of 28, there is a great job that requires English, so you have to say' I can't'. "
The more troublesome my early life is, the lazier I am to study, and the easier it is to miss the people and things I am interested in and the new scenery later.
A person's greatest enemy is actually himself.
Faced with their own shortcomings and bad habits, many people will turn a blind eye, and some will be difficult to correct even if they realize it.
For example, people who love to sleep late will force themselves to get up early, and people who like to gossip will force themselves not to gossip. A person can only be truly powerful if he conquers himself.
Charles Munger said: "If you don't destroy at least one of your favorite ideas within a year, then you have lived a year in vain."
The gap between people does not come from age, not from experience, but from constant experience summary, constantly surpassing the past.
Write to the end
I like a passage by Mr. Wang Zengqi:
"Live, you must do something. The most important thing is to have a wider interest in life. Wherever you go, you have to have some fun. "
You can't set limits for yourself, but you should be curious and explore more fields, so that life will be more colorful and interesting.
Only by understanding yourself and recognizing yourself can we straighten out our lives;
Only by pleasing yourself and accepting yourself can live high shine;
Beyond yourself, beyond yourself, the future can be expected.
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