Are there really contented people? People who have no worries and resentment are not called people.
Confucius was called a saint, but he also had suspicion and resentment in his heart. On one occasion, Confucius was very angry when he saw Yan Hui eat a mouthful of rice, so he asked him why he ate first regardless of his age.
Yan Hui replied: There is black ash on the rice. I was afraid that my teacher would get sick, so I ate rice mixed with black ash.
Confucius was ashamed to hear that.
In fact, contentment is a state of mind. You can always use these words to remind yourself not to have too many desires.
How to live a contented life is often thinking about being good to yourself, such as buying a car, although it is not a luxury car, but I like it. There is a house, not a mansion, but it is warm. There is a companion, not a high value, but a good temperament.
I want to be a contented person ~ communicate with her, that is, the actual situation of others has nothing to do with her. Praising others can discover their advantages and dig deep into the reasons for success, which is also good for her. If libel is necessary, please tell her the reason for libel. Or often give her moderate praise, depending on the actual situation. Besides, she is three years younger than you, so don't expect too much of her. By the way, it's best not to let Aunt Lin often complain in front of her daughter, so as not to aggravate his inferiority complex.
You can also find an opportunity to tell him that you have never looked down on him because of his parents, and comforted her when he was weak or something. Give her some small gifts that he likes on her birthday. Be calm, but don't nag too much.
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He is contented and never cares about gains or losses.
There is no pie in the sky in the zodiac of contentment. If you fight for it, you must work hard. Don't force what you can't do, you can only know that you can't do it. For everything, we must do our best, do our best, and look at God's will. As long as you do it wholeheartedly, no matter whether you succeed or fail, you must enjoy it. Only in this way can we have no regrets and can we call it contentment. If it is to covet enjoyment and avoid responsibility, it is just a reason to be happy and satisfied with everything. If you don't work hard, you will be decadent and unwilling to make progress.
The source of the allusion: Chapter 44 of the Tao Te Ching, "Therefore, knowing enough is not humiliating, and contentment can last a long time". Chapter 46, "contentment is always a pleasure".
Today's myth: knowing that satisfaction is always happy. The biggest feature is to be content with the status quo.
The root of this misunderstanding is the misunderstanding of Tao Te Ching, which is caused by historical reasons. There is no need to deliberately correct it, but we must understand its true meaning, so that people will not take this sentence as a negative reason. In Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu's "Tao" is to teach people not to be complacent. The water in the cup is full, so it can't be put in. "Full of shame and humility"? Why does this sentence teach people to "know how to be content"? It can be seen that future generations are wrong and do harm to people. Ah Q is excellent. It is also the reason why later generations criticized the Tao Te Ching without understanding it.
Truth: Knowledge is always happy.
Chapter 46 of Tao Te Ching says: "There is a Tao in the world, but it is a waste of time. There is no way in the world, and the suburbs have horses. Misfortune outweighs discontent; Blame is greater than desire. So the contented are always happy. " There is a saying in the world, it is called returning to the horse to plow the field. There is no way in the world, and military forces gallop in the suburbs. There is no greater disaster than not knowing how to use troops, and there is no greater mistake than luring the enemy. Therefore, sufficient knowledge is the constant foot. "Sun Tzu said:" Therefore, those who are good at moving the enemy will follow; Give it and the enemy will take it away. Use it and wait for it. "This is evidence.
An example of contentment is Hu, a native of Jinxi in the Ming Dynasty. His family is poor. He works hard while teaching, and he can only eat and wear.
Every evening, Hu will burn incense at the door of his house and make nine obeisances to heaven, thanking God for giving him a happy day. His wife smiled and said to him, "We have porridge for three meals a day. How can we be happy? " Nonsense: "First of all, I am glad that I was born in an era of peace and prosperity, and there was no war disaster. I am also glad that our family can have food and clothing, so as not to be hungry and cold. The third thing is that there are no patients in the bed at home and no prisoners in the prison. If this is not a happy life, what is it?
The problem of contentment. "contentment is always happy" means: contentment is always happy, and life is not humiliating; Zhi Zhi often stops, and he is never ashamed. It means: knowing that satisfaction is always happy. Describe your satisfaction with the benefits and status you have gained. Contentment is a state of being a man. It is not so difficult for people to get satisfaction and happiness. The key is to look at the mental state of people. The meaning of happiness is difficult to determine. No one can guarantee that American millionaires can live a happier life than rural farmers in China. The reason lies in who can be satisfied. Contentment is related to happiness, because after contentment, the mood can be peaceful, people can be kind, and smiles can be natural. Although you have three meals a day, you can enjoy the family happiness of life. This kind of life realm is unimaginable for people who are immersed in prosperity all day and will never feel satisfied. A contented person certainly knows how to live. Accept my fate. The so-called know life is never greedy, knowing that enough is enough, and closing it when it is good; The so-called resignation is to admit and accept the reality and never fight. Therefore, all misfortunes and sufferings are inevitable for those who are satisfied, and there is no need to cry. On the contrary, people who are satisfied with many things can "enjoy Tao Tao". Having a piano and a book is a pleasure to play and recite. It's a pleasure to have friends from afar, even if you don't know how drunk you are. The sky is high and the clouds are light, and the breeze is blowing. Watching the moon and climbing mountains is a pleasure. Walking and coming back after the excitement can also be a kind of enjoyment; It is a pleasure for a good man to aim at all directions and travel around the world. It is also a pleasure to meet an old friend in a foreign land and return to your hometown when you are lonely ... As long as your mind can relax, tighten and stretch, you can understand everything and find reasons for satisfaction and happiness everywhere. The most important magic weapon to be content with life is to "take a step back and think about it". The so-called "step back" is a vast highland in Putian, where the mystery of life is exquisitely played.
The first sentence of contentment is the way to cultivate one's morality and cultivate one's nature. In life, we can see that under the same difficult conditions, some people are devastated, while others are catching up, because determination plays an important role. Ambition is that people constantly improve their self-cultivation. A person with firm faith and lofty aspirations will think about the whole meaning of life. Is to make unremitting efforts for your own ideals. If you don't devote yourself to this world, you will accomplish nothing. Changle is impossible.
The second is the way to become a talent and the way to learn. Knowledge is always admirable. It is precisely because of their insatiable knowledge that Confucius, Du Fu and Gu never stopped studying and achieved success, and Einstein never stopped studying science.
I always enjoy life. Shouldn't insatiable people always have fun? Therefore, our view is that contentment is not enough.
Children often say, "The contented are always happy". It means that people who are easily satisfied are always happy. However, I think that in the continuous development of human society, only those who are not satisfied will be happy forever.
If you want to live a happy material life, you must be "unsatisfied". Imagine if primitive people were so satisfied with life, they could only stay at the level of eating and drinking blood, slash and burn, and digging holes in the soil. Why bother? If people are satisfied with the status quo, oil lamps will not be replaced by electric lights, folding fans will not be replaced by electric fans, and cars will not replace animal power. If life is not improved, society will stagnate. Where does happiness come from? Where did human civilization and progress come from? It can be seen that contented people are not always happy. On the contrary, it is the spirit of dissatisfaction that promotes the development of productive forces; It promotes the progress of science and technology and the increasing accumulation of social wealth; It has promoted the continuous leap of human civilization and made people happy!
For the goal of life, people who are not satisfied enjoy it even more. Gorky said: "The higher a person pursues, the faster his talents will develop and the more beneficial it will be to society." An enterprising person is never satisfied with his work and study, so that he can make continuous progress, succeed and become a person who is beneficial to society. And these are not the basic conditions for a person to be truly happy? The spirit of discontent, this invisible motive force, promotes the progress of mankind, the development of civilization and society, and makes everyone who is dissatisfied happy forever. Of course, dissatisfied people are always happy, not unsure of success, nor insatiable for self-interest, but dissatisfied with existing achievements and the status quo. Everything is constantly changing and developing. If you are satisfied without development, you will be eliminated.
Only when we are not satisfied can we develop and progress, conform to nature and enjoy ourselves!
"Oh, let a man with spirit take risks where he likes, and never point his golden cup at the moon empty!" Drink to drown your sorrows and take drunkenness as your pleasure. What about when you wake up? Will fall into endless sorrow again ... the contented will have a good time. "Fighting with the sky is fun; Fighting the ground is endless fun. " Dissatisfied people are always happy. ""climb the east mountain and be small, climb Mount Tai and be smaller than the world. "If you are content to climb Dongshan, you will see a limited land. How can we have a panoramic view of the world and be extremely broad-minded like climbing the top of Mount Tai? Dissatisfaction is a persistent pursuit of challenging life and a consistent belief in life.
"full of losses, modest benefits." Qin Shihuang unified China because of numerous disappointments, so he made numerous reforms and improvements. If you are satisfied all the time, you may slash and burn today. The process of pursuing is happy. Although there are ups and downs, we are always moving forward without regrets. In the world, no great achievement will fall from the sky, and no life can be smooth sailing. Xunzi said, "You don't know the height of the sky unless you climb the mountain." Don't face the deep stream, I don't know the thickness of the ground. "Only with an insatiable heart and unremitting pursuit can we be happy.
Jia Dao recited poems and deliberated repeatedly. Ouyang Xiu wrote, "It's cold in the middle of the night when a word is steady". It is because of dissatisfaction that I have been tirelessly honing for a long time, and I have a swan song that has been sung until now. Edison had 1000 inventions in his life. It is because you are not satisfied that you keep learning and succeed. An Olympic track and field veteran, after ten years of hard training, only speeded up 1 sec. For the contented, this insignificant 1 second is nothing at all. But it made a champion. A second on the runway was honed by ten years of dissatisfaction. Don't stop pursuing, don't put out the lamp of progress. Things are human beings, things are human beings, there are mountains outside the mountain, and there are buildings outside the building. Only by never being satisfied can the wheel of history roll forward.
Contented people are short-sighted; Satisfied people are complacent. Content makes people dull, kills morale, and brings people "constant worries" instead of "constant happiness". Aren't Lu Xun's Pride, Frog at the Well and Ah Q all "contented people"? It is this "contentment" that makes a big mistake. Life can only be surpassed if it is not satisfied; Only when the soul is not satisfied can it reach a height and enter a realm.