Look at three years old, and look at seven years old?

In the process of raising children, once the child's performance is contrary to the parents' "expectation of teaching children", Zuo may disappoint the parents who hate iron to produce steel. However, you might as well look at Balzac's story. After Balzac became famous, he gave a speech on "Early Education and Success" in a university. He said: "From an early age, you can judge whether a child has a future by watching his homework. If the homework is serious and the handwriting is neat, then the child will have a good future, otherwise there will be no future. " Balzac's speech won warm applause. When he stepped down from the podium, a white-haired old lady greeted him, handed him a crumpled exercise book and slowly opened it: "Great writer, please look. How is the child's handwriting? " Does he have a future? "The great writer flipped through his exercise book and said without thinking," Old man, with all due respect, this child's handwriting is scrawled and there are too many typos, so I'm afraid it's hard to achieve anything in the future. "The old lady slowly closed her exercise book:" Great writer, please take a closer look at whose exercise book this is? " Balzac took it and looked at it carefully. He was surprised. His name is clearly written in the exercise book. Isn't this his childhood exercise book? He looked at the old man in front of him carefully and suddenly shouted excitedly, "Teacher, you ..." The old man said calmly, "Nothing, I have kept it for you for more than 30 years, and I will return it to you today." This story proves that the saying that "I look at you at the age of three, and I look at the old at the age of seven" may not be reliable. However, our parents in China believe this statement more than Balzac. I have a friend who teaches in a university. She asked her to learn calligraphy when she was 3 years old, and forced her to learn piano and keep a diary when she was 4 years old. But the active daughter doesn't seem to understand: pour ink on the floor to draw; Tap the piano keys with your toes when adults are away; Tear off the diary page by page and fold all kinds of small animals ... My friend was very depressed and decided that his daughter could not be made, "rotten wood cannot be carved." In my life, there are many parents who are similar to my friends. They firmly believe that the earlier the child develops, the better, but the child's development may not be the case. Balzac's case shows that parents had better not blindly impose their godchild expectations on their children, and blind early development may disappoint their children. The key to educating children is to "suit the right medicine", see where the advantages of children are, and then guide their development purposefully, and children will naturally be useful.