Observe children's changes, help and educate children in the right way, and let them grow up in a healthy and upward direction.
My daughter is in the fourth grade now. Our family has a harmonious relationship and good communication. Our children are healthy, lively and thrive. Parents are very happy to see their children's good academic performance. The following is my experience in educating children.
First of all, we should set an example.
Children have strong imitation ability. They are often influenced by their surroundings and imitate people or things around them. Therefore, the living environment of the family and the example of parents are all a kind of "silent education".
Second, actively cooperate with teacher education.
When children are studying, the role of teachers is quite great. Fortunately, my daughter's teacher is a very responsible and good teacher with rich teaching experience and is very popular with students. As parents, we should contact teachers more, care about children's performance in school, discuss children's bad habits with teachers, and correct mistakes in time. In this way, teachers can understand your child more comprehensively, which is more conducive to teachers to find more suitable educational methods for this child from his personality. Because of this, we should always educate our children to respect their teachers and listen to them carefully. "One day as a teacher, life as a father" is the greatness of teachers.
Third, cultivate the ability to live.
Nowadays, most children live a life of reaching for clothes and making ends meet, let alone being grateful. At home, we consciously let our daughter do what she can, such as letting her sleep in a room alone when she is seven years old; When I was eight years old, I would wash my hair and take a bath. Stay at home alone at night, watch TV for a while after finishing homework, and sleep by yourself when the time comes; Will take the initiative to help wash the dishes ... except for the normal pocket money, we rarely give her money, because she has not had the habit of eating snacks since she was a child, and she will ask our permission in advance to buy anything. Sometimes, intentionally or unintentionally, we will tell our children how hard it is for adults to work outside the home and how difficult it is to make money, so that children can naturally appreciate and appreciate it. In addition, when cleaning, you can let her clean the room herself, and adults in other places are responsible. On the one hand, it makes her feel the hardship of her parents, on the other hand, it also cultivates her ability to live independently, so that she can win the respect of her children and cherish everything she has done for her.
Fourth, don't put too much pressure on it.
As a parent, there is no extra homework for her to study, and there is no rule on how high she will take the exam. Instead, we should start with cultivating good study habits and remind her to listen carefully in class and not be disturbed by classmates. After school, you should first finish your homework independently. If you have any questions, look it up in the dictionary first, and don't rely on parents' guidance. We fully respect children's nature, tap their potential and do what we like. We took our daughter to learn calligraphy, and she has been studying hard until now.
Five, communication, appropriate rewards and punishments.
Fan wener
Each of our parents hopes that our children will succeed in the future. Perhaps from the birth of a child, I feel that he (she) is excellent in all aspects, and parents' hopes are always good. However, due to the different psychological characteristics of children of different ages and grades, the ways and methods of education can vary from time to time. Below, combined with my own experience and the experience of my colleagues, I would like to talk about a little superficial understanding:
The first is to learn from family education experience. As the saying goes, "Educators must be taught first". We can't apply the old methods our parents taught us to us. Usually, I learn some methods by reading books, surfing the Internet and consulting my successful colleagues. I feel that there are many parenting methods for us to choose from nowadays. However, whether we see Montessori education abroad or the story of three moves in ancient Meng Mu, we can only get some enlightenment from it and learn from it in our own parenting education, because every child is different.
The second is to maintain a healthy attitude. If we want our children to have a healthy psychology, we parents should overcome the phenomena of impatience and quick success, strive to maintain a normal mind, not only pay attention to children's scores, but also care about their hearts, "crouch down" and make friends with children. If something goes wrong, parents' qualities such as calmness, patience and perseverance will often infect their children subtly. In fact, many of our parents have already had it.
The third is to pay attention to cultivating habits. I think it is necessary for children to develop good study habits and living habits from an early age. There is an English proverb: "Action forms habit, habit forms character, and character determines fate." It can be seen that habits play an important role in people's life. I mainly give guidance and supervision in time arrangement, neat handwriting, independent thinking and introspection. At the same time, use various opportunities to teach children to use knowledge flexibly, don't memorize it by rote, and learn to draw inferences from others.
The fourth is to insist on encouragement. I once asked myself, a child's mind is like a blank sheet of paper, how can I draw the most beautiful picture on it? In the face of parents' reprimand and punishment, children's vacant eyes and dull movements not only make us feel helpless, but sometimes a little incompetence passes through our hearts. Experts put it well, "children are so boastful!" Every child's progress needs encouragement. I feel that every time parents approve, their eyes are a booster for their children's progress, and sincere praise is a stone to increase his confidence.
Fan Wensan
Being a tutor is a part-time job that every college student yearns for at school. The following is my experience in the process of tutoring: if you want to be a tutor, you must find it yourself and fight for everything yourself. You can look outside, but don't believe those advertisements posted on the road casually. Find a well-known and honest tutor network. They have a good social image, but also some parents' last accidents in the process of tutoring. They will also help you deal with it and give you a good answer. Contact your parents. Be polite, modest and confident when talking. When it comes to salary, you should have a number in mind. When your parents ask you, you should give a simple answer, of course, not ask you for a price. You have proper limit. I don't think this is the main problem in the process of tutoring. Fight if you can, but don't spend too much time on it. You should be more concerned about how to be a good mentor. I believe the salary will not be too bad.
Interview, interview is also a trial lecture. Get to know the learning situation of some students through parents' contact. After understanding, you must make some preparations. When trying to talk, you should keep a normal attitude, be confident and not exaggerated, dress neatly, and be polite in words and deeds. Parents usually ask you some questions or some materials to test you. If your parents ask you (don't be afraid), you can answer truthfully. As long as you can take over, you can generally solve it, express your views on learning, and point out the main problems (usually from a paper) by looking at the papers that students have taken, and how to solve them, from easy to difficult. If something unexpected happens in the process of counseling (it's not your fault), parents say that counseling stops for some reason, which is why you should simply answer with a smile: it doesn't matter. Because as long as you have the ability, parents will not stop tutoring for no reason, and there are some unexpected reasons in the process of tutoring that make it impossible. You can talk to an intermediary. You shouldn't feel uncomfortable or even have conflicts, so it's meaningless even if you continue.
As for teaching methods, teaching methods are of course teaching students in accordance with their aptitude. Almost any student is in the process of weak basic knowledge, complex learning methods from abstract to concrete, simple problem-solving ideas from chaos to simplification, and problem-solving skills from scarcity to richness. After finding out where the students are, it will be easy. Also, after understanding the students' position, that is, the students' situation, don't forget to combine the knowledge points and exercises in the teaching materials or materials. When talking about knowledge points: we should emphasize the main knowledge and methods of the content, mainly the subjects that are often tested in the back exercises or other papers, and also link all knowledge points; It is necessary to find some difficult sentences from the later exercises. Students will be particularly impressed by you after listening to it. When students do exercises, they will immediately think of what you said and will do, so that the main ones will be consolidated and they will immediately think of related problems in the future. Don't miss the secondary, that is to say, don't miss the knowledge, highlight the key points and explain the secondary ones. As long as students don't use the main method when doing problems, they will naturally think of secondary ones.
About learning methods. Because every tutor is unlikely to go on for a long time, and the short-term effect is not easy to be obvious, but as long as your teaching method conforms to the students, it will be effective. In this way, it is very important for you to teach students learning methods and improve their autonomous learning ability. After teaching students learning methods and improving their autonomous learning ability, you will be conscientious, because the later study is still very long. If there is no learning method, you still can't start new content. Ideas for solving problems. Learning is mainly about understanding and memorizing knowledge, problem-solving methods and skills and using them flexibly. It is painful to remember that knowledge cannot be used. How to accurately transfer the knowledge learned over the years to this problem? This involves the problem of problem-solving thinking. When commenting, especially when students make mistakes, we should tell them step by step with problem-solving thinking, so that problem-solving thinking can not only be consolidated, but also believe in the universality of problem-solving thinking. When encountering some problems, they will talk about skills, but don't forget the ordinary methods. You are like a small team with students and parents. You should communicate with each other and think about how to make students understand you from the perspective of students when giving lectures. "After-sales service" is similar to commercial after-sales service. Don't think that the tutor is finished. You should give students some new suggestions to help them solve their future study problems and so on.
In short, you should be honest, responsible and patient. After receiving tutoring, we should focus on how to teach students well. The progress of students is my happiness and harvest. I believe everyone has done a good job.