First, I apologize to my ex-boyfriend. He is from ENTJ. We are completely opposite. We always thought that he could only draw pancakes, which was more radical. Now that I think about it, I seem to have misjudged him because of my personality. Sometimes TJ's speech is so humiliating that my heart breaks. But when I think about it later, I hit the nail on the head, and my admiration and admiration soared, but I couldn't help it.
My mother is FJ, and everything she does seems to be in a hurry to complete the tasks on her list. When I am urged to do something, I feel that life is not good.
To sum up, ES and I can play well from the beginning, but we can't talk about the depths of our souls. Friends and colleagues who get along with each other are basically F, which is more comfortable. I'm more resistant to n saying what to do in the future from time to time, because I feel a little empty, so I'd better do it now.
I have been asking myself a question recently. Who am I?
Thanks to Yu Jie, let me know myself better. I hope I can finally break through the barriers and find my true self, so that I can be truly happy. My hobbies are calligraphy, piano, organizing people to go to KTV, werewolf killing and yoga, but I hurt my back and it is easy to relapse.
After reading the letter of ISFP Kite Girl, I feel that I will always live in fear under strong pressure. When I think of something, I will change. Along the way, I found that I was not good at analyzing and handling complex affairs, and I couldn't find a way out when I met a dead end. I have accumulated negative emotions, and I like to escape rather than face problems directly.
The answer to the last article solved many of my questions. I still have a decision to ask Sister Yu, should I change my city or go back to my previous industry? I hope Sister Yu Can can give me some advice. Thank you very much.
My major is basic medicine, and I graduated in June 14.
During my master's degree, my teacher wanted me to change my major. My idea is to work quickly, because I feel that if I make a product, my efforts can get immediate feedback-making my work available to HP Volkswagen, which is my core motivation. But what is particularly sad is that there is a big time difference between scientific research and this goal, and I will soon lose interest without waiting for feedback.
Although the salary is not high, for professional counterparts, the platform is good and the city is attractive. So I worked in Shenzhen for a year and a half after graduation, and I had to use rigorous and rational thinking in scientific research for technical posts in public institutions. When I first went, I showed great enthusiasm and was quickly recognized by my colleagues and group leaders. The evaluation is that I learn quickly and have a good attitude.
But because I was not interested in scientific research, I transferred to a department where I could have direct contact with products. Although I still do technology, I can be closer to products.
The days after changing groups are the most missed happy times. I have a job I love, a potential industry, a promising future, intimate girlfriends, NTJ think tanks, and friends teased by ESFP. My life is rich and colorful, and I am full of vitality every day. Most of my colleagues around me are excellent and interesting. Communicating with different people can find the cut-in angles of various problems. It is a wonderful thing to share ideas and broaden your mind in communication.
Later, I gradually found that the company could not meet my inner needs-the product technical position was a bit like an assembly line. Although I appreciated every task as much as a work, the evaluation of the harvest was only serious and responsible, which made me very lost.
If you want to be excellent in life and work, you must improve your comprehensive quality and ability to communicate with others. I still have many shortcomings. So, I don't want to make things so difficult anymore. In addition, the pressure of marriage and love, the pressure of the only child, and the desire to make money and enjoy a quality life were also influenced by their families, and they finally decided to return to the north for development.
I position myself as technical support and realize transformation with my own technical advantages.
But the process is not smooth, because technical support is to guide sales through technology, but I have no sales thinking and don't want to force others. Therefore, after many interviews and failures, I had to go back to technology and received some quotations.
I once went to a small company to talk with my boss about the development of the industry, which was recognized by my boss. At that time, I said that I was given a rare opportunity to be independent, but I felt that I was unable to grasp it. So I chose a company with a slightly larger platform and continued to be a technical post at the product end.
I have been in the technical post for more than a year, and I like the super enthusiasm of the leaders. What I don't like is that subordinates are also workaholics, with strong desire for control and no room for display.
Because of this strange city, I can't adapt to this environment. There is a gap in working and living environment, and the key is that there are no friends to exchange concerns with. I have also thought that it is meaningless to continue to be a technical post, and I can't convince myself, which leads to no passion in my work.
Later, the leader asked me to do management and training work in the technical group. Helping others grow up is the only thing that makes me happy.
But in the end, I chose to leave, because I don't like to maintain complicated interpersonal relationships carefully. I don't like quick success and instant benefit. I think feelings are more important than interests.
The platform is good and the industry is not far away. It is also a fresh start from the grassroots. The leader repeatedly confirmed in the interview that I really want to? Because she recognized my confidence and love for my previous industry. I really don't know what to say.
After working for a while, the problem came again. Not enthusiastic about your own industry or position, can't find a new position. The fast-paced city life exhausted me physically and mentally.
I'm thinking, should I change cities? Change jobs? Change places? Going to study for a doctorate? Still have a boyfriend? I felt a little sick and hurried to the hospital. I don't know what to do to change my present state and get on the right track.
Hello, Sang Ni:
ISFP is also called "caring" personality type, that is, caring for the needs of others, being ready to help others, and being willing to provide tangible (visible) services to meet the needs of others, so as to obtain sincere professional satisfaction from others.
This kind of personality preference is in line with your professional interest of "don't like scientific research, want to make real products, HP Volkswagen". This instant feedback has become your core motivation-career satisfaction.
The first talent, emotional function Fi, on the one hand, makes ISFP (and INFP) pay great attention to the expression of their own values, which is what you call "feelings are more important than interests". On the other hand, Fi makes you attach great importance to a harmonious working environment, and at the same time, you want to be closer to people around you and love emotional companionship.
The longest board-"perceptual judgment", its opposite is of course "rational thinking"-the shortest short board-ISFP. So Fi was not born for technical work.
The employment of basic medicine is very narrow, mainly scientific research, which you neither like nor are suitable for. Generally speaking, I'll give you three general suggestions:
One way is to continue studying for a doctorate and become a university teacher in the future.
The second way is the civil service system, and you can also make full use of your spare time to develop sideline business.
I mainly recommend the third way, avoiding purely technical posts, being a sales engineer, that is, technical support, and constantly contacting the market with sales. Then slowly, from technology to sales. Of course, you will refuse to sell, but it can help you meet different types of people and fully develop your extroverted hobbies.
With strong sales skills, the road becomes clear.
Explain that you have both professional skills and sales skills. Such compound talents have won the trust of bosses and customers wherever they go, and can even start their own businesses.
For the hobby of making money, yoga and fitness are good choices for ISFP. Please refer to the 3 1 year-old ISFP kite girl who broke the line.
For boyfriends, try to choose boys with ISFJ personality. They not only take care of people, but also are traditional, practical and responsible, and can give you a sense of security of 100. If you are pragmatic, you can also choose ESFJ personality type, but you can't be too controlling, for fear that you can't stand it. If you want to be romantic, you can choose INFJ personality type, but they may not like your lack of emotional appeal.
If you still worship NT-type boys, you'd better fully develop your emotional preference. Those who don't beat around the bush, forget it, will make ISFP people feel cold.
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