Not everyone is a genius, daughter, you are not a genius. But everyone can be a happy person, and we think you can do it, daughter.
It’s the beginning of the school year, and a letter written by a father to his daughter who has entered junior high school has flooded the circle of friends. You may not have the strength of ancient times, but I want you to have love and perseverance. This family letter triggered a big discussion among netizens about ordinary people.
Letters are his special way of communication
This father is from Chengdu, because his daughter’s school homework has a topic that requires parents to draw portraits of their children. So I wanted to use words to draw a three-dimensional image, but I didn't expect it would receive so much attention. Jiang Yong (pseudonym) said that writing this article is actually to reduce stress for children and relieve parents. There are unlimited children from other people's families, but you only have one child. If you always compare other people's children to your own, you will never be able to finish the comparison.
Jiang Yong is a writer. Letters are a special way for him to communicate with his daughter. This letter to my daughter, who is in the first grade of junior high school, is 4,000 words long.
As early as when his daughter was in third grade, Jiang Yong had written letters to his daughter. The longest letter had more than 20,000 words. At that time, I didn’t expect her to understand it. I just intercepted some snippets and told them to her. The reason why I wrote letters was because some letters can be written in the present and some in the future. I hope that my children can write them at that time and in the future. You can always watch it from now on.
He can face the ordinaryness of his children
This is the sincere psychology of an ordinary student and an ordinary parent, who hopes that his children will grow up, become adults, and become talents. Amidst all the entanglements, entanglements, and anguish about their children's education, Jiang Yong and his wife finally reached a consensus.
Daughter, we have had high expectations for you for a long time, but then we had to reach an educational consciousness: we cannot make excessive demands on our daughter that exceed her cognitive qualifications. , her excellence should not necessarily be compared with her peers, but should be compared with her own past.
In this long letter, Jiang Yong recalled the difficult process of the couple, like parents all over the world, in raising their daughter. In order to test their extraordinary daughter, the couple enrolled their daughter in various training classes from the age of three or four: dance, taekwondo, piano, art, small host and other specialty training, but they failed to persist. The only thing that persisted was calligraphy.
After year after year and trial after trial, the couple had to admit: their daughter is just an ordinary girl
Let her daughter become a happy ordinary person
Today, when there are other people’s children everywhere, and when parents do everything possible to measure their children with the ruler of genius, this father told his daughter frankly: Face your ordinaryness, but we We are willing to use extraordinary methods to help you become a self-reliant, confident, happy, peaceful and kind-hearted ordinary person who is also beneficial to society.
Being a happy ordinary person is Jiang Yong’s expectation for his daughter. How to become a happy and happy person? The father gave his daughter a prescription:
1st grade
Although grades are not the most important, only if you do not lag behind your classmates in homework will you have enough psychological advantages to maintain Emotional joy happiness. As far as your daughter is concerned, extraordinary dedication may be your magic weapon to win.
2 Specialties
My daughter has ranked among the best in Chinese in several exams. The father encouraged his daughter to make Chinese language her dominant subject.
Daughter, you can learn Chinese better. Chinese is far more than just a lesson. It condenses the mysteries of the world, the wisdom of life and the warmth of civilization. It carries truth, goodness and beauty, and also embodies Eternal human dreams and emotions. In other words, our initial understanding and concern for society begin with language, and language maintains and protects our entire lives.
3 Friends
Junior high school is the early spring of life, with lush vegetation and all things growing. Perhaps lifelong good friends appear at this stage. Dad encourages his daughter to make lifelong friends.
Real good friends are those who appreciate each other, take care of each other, have endless things to say when we are together, and still miss each other when we are not together, learn and play together, think about each other, and care about each other. share.
4. Cheerful
Talking about personality, the loving father hopes that his daughter will be more cheerful and generous.
You must be a good girl that everyone loves. You are quiet, don't speak, don't defend, don't object; you smile and are as well-behaved as a spring breeze in classical poetry. But my dear daughter, your advantage is that you are quiet, but your disadvantage is that you are too quiet. I hope you will be carefree, indifferent to everything, and don't take many unworthy things to heart. I hope you will be quick to speak, express your opinions bravely, and don't care too much about other people's feelings and the situation afterwards. You can speak without restraint.
5 Health
Compared to your body, academic performance, honors, university, money, including your future future, are not the most important. The body is most important. Love your body as much as you love your parents. Love your body as much as you love eating and sleeping.
In the Internet era, electronic letters have replaced paper letters and become a new way of communication between parents and children. Compared with oral communication, letters are more formal, meticulous, in-depth, and comprehensive, and can be read and saved over and over again. At such a meaningful juncture in the new school year, many parents have written letters of encouragement and family affection.
For Chinese-style parents who are always accustomed to preaching and are afraid to talk, they really need a piece of letter to express their feelings to themselves.
Let go of the authority of your father and the majesty of your mother, have a conversation with a long letter, and touch your heart with the power of words.