Shen Jun passed away quietly.
This is her style, her personality. She is generous when others need help, but she refuses to disturb others anyway. I know the news of her death. Five days have passed, and her body has been cremated. I can't see her again at last.
One thing can reflect Ding Furen's character. At that time, Mr. Ding was still alive, but he was in a wheelchair. Mrs. Ding, who is over eighty years old, often goes to the hospital to get medicine by bike, and then goes home to take care of Mr. Ding's daily life. That day, she went to the hospital by bike. She didn't want to rush out of a car, which knocked Mrs. Ding into the air and landed firmly on the ground. Probably the boss on the bus, get off and give things to the driver. After the accident, the driver was too scared to speak and didn't know what kind of situation he would face. When Mrs. Ding fell, her feet landed first, so her mind was still clear. She called the driver and said, "Don't be afraid, take me to the hospital first." The hospital is not far. After the examination, it was diagnosed as a fracture of the foot bone and was cast. Seeing the frightened driver, Shen Jun comforted him and said, "I have medical insurance. I won't lie to you. But there are patients at home, so you can't leave people. You can neither be hospitalized nor ride a bike now. Starting today, you have to take me to the hospital every day, treat me all the time, and then send me back until I can act on my own. " When the driver heard that he didn't want compensation, he was overjoyed and grateful. Sure enough, he came to pick him up on time every day. However, more than half a month later, Mrs. Ding Canfu was on crutches, so she no longer needed him to pick her up. Until the end, the driver didn't know that the old lady he knocked down was the wife of the famous cartoonist Ding Cong.
It is also important to blame yourself for a few weeks, and it is also light to treat people. Although she is anxious and sharp-tongued, she really has a bodhisattva heart.
When Mr. Ding was alive, he called her a "parent", and when friends got together, Mr. Ding respectfully called her a parent. People who don't know the inside story think that Mr. Ding is really because of this "tracheitis" (henpecked wife). In addition, Shen Jun likes to be in charge of everything when friends get together, commanding and dispatching, giving people a strong impression, as if he really has the bearing of a little lion roaring. In fact, everyone in the circle of friends knows that Mr. Ding has always been taken care of by his husband and wife, but he is "working hard". Seven things to open the door, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, all made by her, the paper for painting tools that Teacher Ding needs, the collection, sorting, copying and mailing of Teacher Ding's paintings, the editing and publishing of Teacher Ding's works, and the preparation of Teacher Ding's art exhibition. She's in charge, too.
There are two paintings of Huang Yongyu hanging in Ding's house. One of them shows Mr. Ding sleeping with a pillow, and there are seven or eight stones of different sizes scattered around him. The inscription is untrue, to the effect that people worship stones, and this person worships him with stones. I asked Mr. Ding, "Are you car-scrapping?" Mr. Ding said with a smile: "That's because I got kidney calculi's disease and took out eight or nine stones, big and small." Another picture is a parrot with the caption: "Birds are good birds, but they talk a lot." I smiled and said to Mrs. Ding, "Who are you talking about?" Mrs. Ding immediately argued, "It wasn't me. This is what I'm talking about. Yufeng didn't want it, so I took it. " The famous painter Ryan is the wife of calligrapher and art historian Huang Miaozi. Both families are good friends of Huang Yongyu. In fact, Ryan and Mrs Ding have many similarities. They are all cool and talkative. Huang Miaozi and Ding Cong also have great similarities. They are both so quiet and modest. There seems to be no need to verify which lady the parrot was originally sent to. Mr. Yong is also called "good at joking, not for abuse", which is very funny.
I know Mr. Ding well, so I can speak casually. Some tricks between them are also understandable. For example, Mr. Ding's blood sugar is high, but he likes sweets. Ding Furen should limit it; Mr. Ding has a high blood lipid, but he prefers to eat meat. Of course, he is subject to some restrictions. So as long as there are guests, Mr. Ding will ask for something to eat in the name of a friend. However, Mrs. Ding knew all about these little tricks, so she flatly refused, or said, "He can, but you can't." . At this time, Mr. Ding will make a face and whisper, "If you are fierce, you must listen to Edgar." But every time I see Mr. Ding's food, I always admire Ding Furen's forbearance and restraint. There are sweets, meat and delicious food, but not too much.
When she knew that she would come to the end of her life, she wrote an "epitaph". She told me, but she didn't show me. She just said it was not appropriate to go public now. I didn't know until after her death that the second year after she finished writing, knowing that there was nothing she could do, she gave it to Mr. Ding in Fengjing. Ding Cong's graveyard is in Fengjing, and the fallen leaves return to their roots. At that time, she said at the grave, "I will accompany you in a few years." "Epitaph" to Feng Jing also means to honor the promise.
The full text of Shen Jun's "epitaph" is as follows:
There is a couple (Ding Cong and Shen Jun) who are regarded as very loving and enviable by their friends. In fact, they have never been grateful or loved, but they have just lived a bumpy life, just like boiled water, which has no taste at all, but is full of indispensable elements of love for the human body. This may be a sentence: plain is true. No matter whether adversity is good or bad, they treat everything with innocence, not losing to themselves or others.
If we must ask, how can loving couples grow old together? Let me tell you, the trick is: don't try to change each other, let them do what they like, and be tolerant. Smile at each other several times a day, touch his face, rub his hands, or say something that seems to be critical but actually praises. Use humor to resolve conflicts, and don't make a scene. That's it, isn't it simple!
The book of Shen Jun, the fierce wife.
201May 26th, April
Note: Ding Cong preaches the ferocity of his wife everywhere. Will a really good person tolerate being publicized all day?
So, for Ding Cong, if he has a fierce wife, does he dare to talk about her fierceness in front of her? This kind of talk contains love and maybe show off.
Mrs. Ding passed away and returned to her husband, leading a normal loving life. Over the years, the spring breeze willow, autumn leaves and phoenix tree. If you go to Fengjing, there will be an "epitaph" next to Mr. Ding's statue. Don't cry or be sad before they mourn. Listening to a piece of music and playing a piece of Beijing Hu together is the best commemoration for them.
May they love each other forever.