Zhangyin calligraphy

Editor's Note: Lin Yao is the parent of a pupil. This article wrote down his confusion and questions about primary education. In the early morning, which was dyed golden by the morning sun, groups of children kept walking towards the gate of the primary school from the small passage separated by the warning line. The figure of a slim little girl has been locked by my eyes. The huge schoolbag on her back forced her to lean forward to keep her balance. This little girl is my six-year-old daughter. A month ago, I firmly sent her to the primary school gate, and used my own breakfast every morning and my first smile at night as gifts to celebrate her important growth in life. However, with the real beginning of primary school life, my firmness is becoming more and more doubtful day by day. I spent six years trying to train my daughter to be "myself", telling her that everyone is "unique" and let her gradually understand that "you have your good, I have my good". In the past month, my ideas have been fundamentally challenged. A few decades ago, I was a primary school student and knew that the biggest rule in school was uniformity. Decades have passed, and our society is full of individuality. It can be inferred that children nowadays are not depressed, if not unassuming. Unexpectedly, only one school tool was prepared, which gave us a duel. After the first parent-teacher conference, the teacher gave a very detailed PPT document, which stipulated in detail what kind of books, pens, stationery bags, dancing shoes, etc. What kind of leather each schoolbag is, how thick it is, where and how to write its name are also clear. That weekend, we rushed to several big supermarkets and wholesale markets near our home to implement them one by one. I didn't expect many children's products to be unqualified, including my daughter. Is it really my fault to compromise the school rules? When I came back that day, my daughter blamed me anxiously: "Why don't you buy me a pair of white dancing shoes?" Because my daughter has been learning to dance, there are several pairs of standard ballet shoes at home. How can it be unqualified? The daughter said, the teacher told me to buy a white one, with a wide elastic band in front instead of a thin shoelace. "Usually used in class, is it necessary to be so unified?" After running for a few days, dancing shoes became a "straw" that crushed me. "Just wear this, don't change it." I said stiffly to my daughter. The daughter made no noise, her eyes were full of tears, and her face was written with anxiety and fear. She whispered, "Some children have been criticized." How can I let my daughter, who has just started school, be blamed for such a trivial matter? How can I make her so helpless? ! I immediately went to the shop recommended by my teacher and bought dancing shoes that met the requirements. My daughter is very calm, but I feel very uncomfortable. I keep asking myself: Am I wrong? Is the educational concept of "three points teaching seven points" correct? What is right? It took me six years to understand that the growth of children is "three points teach seven points", but this month, I have to speed up my pace. Because she understands that preschool children should focus on games, she has always insisted that children should not go to preschool, where they can learn more knowledge. The pen in her hand is more used for drawing than writing. At school, writing has become a compulsory course. Knowing that the child lacks training in this field, I observe her carefully when she writes. Every time she writes a word, she works hard, stroke by stroke, very hard. Although every stroke is crooked and the pages don't look clean, I know that if I look at her so carefully, she will definitely get through this. However, within two days, I received a message from the teacher: "The child's handwriting is very poor, and parents supervise the child to write every word well." Calligraphy needs long-term practice. Is it possible to ask children to be horizontal and vertical and write decently in less than a week after entering primary school? If a child is not a child prodigy, he must start from kindergarten. What I learned about "waiting" is correct? If so, why does it cause more pain to children than others? If not, then what is right? Will it be different for parents to "only obey and not discuss" their children? I spent six years trying to make my daughter understand that the foundation of interpersonal relationship is mutual respect. I also know that children should learn to respect, first of all, they should respect her, and they should not boss her around just because they are parents. But after this month, I have to worry. Now the school is very strict about the management of entering and leaving the school gate. Without special circumstances, it is difficult for parents to see their children at school at ordinary times, and it is also difficult to understand how teachers interact with their children. Since the beginning of school, teachers have established SMS communication channels with parents. Seeing the teacher's long information and detailed requirements, my first thought is that the teacher is very hard, and both parents often feel unable to take care of a child, not to mention that a teacher has to take care of 40 students in the class. After receiving the information, I will reply to the teacher that the information has been received. Thank you very much. Two days later, the teacher sent a message to all parents: I received the teacher's short message, and there was no special explanation that I didn't need to reply. When I received the text message, I suddenly froze, so I took back my thoughts and reread the text message I want every day. I found that although most of the teacher's text messages start with "Hello parents" and end with "Thank you for your cooperation", they are basically all kinds of commands, such as "Be sure to bring them tomorrow". This is a channel with only "publishing" and no "uploading". Teachers seem to be used to the way of "obedience" without "discussion" The communication between teachers and parents is still the same. Will it be different for children? The "Little Red Flag" was bought by parents. What kind of educational view is this? There is another puzzle. It took me six years to make my children understand that gifts are not the motivation to do things. I try not to take gifts as a quid pro quo for my children to do things. However, these days, my daughter has successfully changed two erasers with "small stickers" and changed a lollipop with a few small pieces of paper with patterns. She also accumulated another pile of "small stickers" in a small notebook. It is said that if she saves enough 65,438+00, she can exchange it for a bigger gift. In order to let the children hang more "little red flags" on the class wall, we bought green plants and napkins for the class, sent wall stickers to beautify the wall, and also participated in the design of the class emblem, which should have been the students' own participation ... The education methods sharply opposed to the modern educational concept all happened suddenly after the daughter entered school. Will such a unified daughter become a product on the assembly line? Haven't public opinion been discussing how to cultivate children's creativity all these years? The realistic primary school classroom is: after class, someone will shout, everyone goes to the toilet to drink water; Cross your little hands on the desk in class; Raise your hands as high as you answer questions; All pencils are 2H long, and even the nib should be the same thickness; Even the names on the book cover should be written in the same direction in the same style ... so unified, how can my daughter not be like the products on the assembly line after 6 years? ! I have always believed an educator's famous saying: education is that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul awakens another soul. The purpose of education is to awaken his soul and stimulate her great creativity. I spent six years trying to treat the children around me as a person one size younger than me, and let such a small child grow up along her unique life track. Now I send such a small child to school with great enthusiasm. What kind of child will I have in six years? Now, I'm a little scared.