It takes time and process for people to know their own needs.
In the special edition of "Round Table School" on March 8th, Xu Jinglei, 42, and Jiang Fangzhou, 27, were invited to have a confrontation with Dou Wen Tao and Liang Wendao to talk about gender relations and marriage.
There is a sharp contrast between the two talented women in the eyes of the public under the camera. Lao Xu slowly answer, is already a pair of forty don't confused. Jiang Fangzhou, 15 years younger than her, was in her prime, but she was in a state of uncertainty.
In the program, the two men sitting in the room both cast an admiring look on Lao Xu, but showed incomprehension and disdain for Jiang Fangzhou's panic. At that moment, the two old men forgot what they looked like when they were young, as if Xu Jinglei was like this when she was in her twenties.
When talking about Jiang Fangzhou's question about what men think of Xu Jinglei's "talented woman" label, she said, "I hope I am a particularly talented woman, but I really don't feel very talented ... I am not modest for such an arrogant person."
With Lao Xu's character, he may not be modest. But in fact, the reason why Jiang Fangzhou in the literary circle is abruptly compared with Xu Jinglei, the queen of an idol drama in the entertainment circle, is not because Lao Xu is labeled as a talented woman, but why not compare with Fan Bingbing.
When talking about other people's opinions, Lao Xu said, "I don't care what men think, whatever they like ..." When talking about marriage, it is even more surprising. "If it is necessary to insist on getting married, I think it is a good reason to have children and register. "
Hearing this, I have given Lao Xu 1, praises, free and easy personality, and I have lived my life as a model for women in the new era.
But she can live such a free and easy life because of her natural beauty and slim figure. Since she was a child, she has been given a green light in the world of men, and people praised everything she talked about (see Dou Wen Tao's live performance), which gave her endless confidence and confidence.
just think, if these words were spoken from Xifeng's mouth, what would be the effect? I'm afraid it will be regarded as ugly by the public.
Talent is often inferior to beauty. Only by combining the two can a man be qualified to listen to you.
Good-looking women are not too unlucky, and they are more likely to win the support of the public. For example, Dong Qing's beauty and talent suddenly became idols, and Fu Ying's elegance, beauty and Excellence are all kinds of praises. However, no matter how inspirational Xifeng is, she can't squeeze into the mainstream vision.
Jiang Fangzhou's panic and anxiety are related to his age and experience, but he is not mature enough. It takes time and process for people to know their own needs. We can't expect her to reach Lao Xu's 4-year-old age in her twenties.
Xu Jinglei has already read all the world's prosperity, catered to it, hurt it, cried it, and finally realized it, so she is now calm and comfortable.
Marriage is a process of balanced conditions and game between men and women
I admire Lao Xu's natural and unrestrained, but I also admire Jiang Fangzhou, who dares to face his fears and shows enough truth and courage.
she said, "I'm in a state of being selected in the marriage and love market."
such a successful young mature woman in the eyes of the world actually said that she was the chosen one in the gender market. What age is 27? It's almost past the golden period of traditional women's choice of marriage partners. In her words, she can feel her anxiety and helplessness about being left behind.
In the marriage and love market, it is a process of equilibrium and game between men and women in all aspects. Everyone says that love will not happen for no reason. Age, height, appearance, education, occupation, income, health status, family background, etc. are all elements of mate selection. The person with the highest comprehensive score becomes a hot commodity.
Generally speaking, men pay more attention to appearance and age when choosing a woman. No matter how well a man puts it, it is impossible not to pay attention to a woman's appearance. The elite pays attention to appearance and wisdom. Even men with poor conditions want to eat a swan meat.
Jiang Fangzhou's hatred of marriage is related to her appearance and age, even though she has enough independent wealth. Lao Xu is beautiful all the way. The older she gets, the better her temperament. Age does not pose a threat to her. Jiang Fangzhou's beauty is not obvious, and getting old is worse.
Some people say that Liu Yu once said, "When I think that a woman over 3 feels inferior for her age is essentially catering to men's world outlook and aesthetics, I feel even more that I can't let them succeed." I like Liu Yu very much, but this sentence is self-satisfaction. At present, it is a patriarchal society, and you can't change it even if you say it. Don't cater to it, but also look good and exquisite for your own pleasure?
no one has the obligation to discover your excellent inner self through the sloppy appearance that you don't even care about yourself. A person's image is a business card. Dressing appropriately and looking dignified is a sign of respect for others and self-maturity. Image is always ahead of ability, and you must be exquisite to get everything.
it's much easier for a woman to be recognized if she has a good skin and a full mind.
However, the better the person, the higher the entry threshold for marriage. The more girls read, the richer their thoughts, and the farther they go on their own path, the more difficult it is to find a marriage partner. They want to enter the marriage hall, but they never meet the right person and wander helplessly outside the marriage. This is also the reason why a large number of high-quality leftover women are constantly emerging.
I take a long breath to hide my tears, mourning how difficult it is for my daughter to have a baby.
Jiang Fangzhou is the truth of life, and Xu Jinglei is a poem and a distant place.
People are the only animals that can accept hints, and everyone is deeply influenced by the surrounding environment and people. People can get rid of the influence of some regional cultures through education and self-improvement, but they can't get rid of them completely.
Xu Jinglei was born in Chaoyang, Beijing. She has heard a lot from her childhood and is well-informed. In her personality, she is frank and free and easy, which is unique to Beijing girls.
Jiang Fangzhou was born in Xiangyang, Hubei Province. Although he became famous as a teenager, Xu Jinglei's atmosphere and self-confidence were lacking due to the limited living environment, age and experience.
Xu Jinglei's alias is Lao Xu, and Jiang Fangzhou's alias is Chairman Jiang (who was the chairman of the China Young Writers Association). Their self-confidence level can be seen.
how many people can really get rid of the secular influence? Xu Jinglei is a person with independent thinking and self-reliance ability. She perfectly shows the unique charm of a mature woman and the ideal appearance of women in the new era. Of course, all this is based on a strong economic foundation, independence and self-confidence, and good luck.
Xu Jinglei has made herself the queen of chicken soup. Who doesn't want to be a woman like her? However, Jiang Fangzhou is the truth of life, and Xu Jinglei is the poem and distance you yearn for. Without her luck, strength and confidence, I'm afraid I can't learn easily.