How to develop advantages and overcome disadvantages in junior high school?

Carrying forward the advantages and correcting the shortcomings is the fundamental way for people to grow and progress. We say that a student is excellent only because he has many advantages and is good at continuous development, but at the same time he is good at correcting. On the contrary, we say that a student is backward only because he has few advantages, is not good at developing, has many shortcomings and is not good at correcting. Perfect people with only advantages and no disadvantages can only be found in some novels and film and television works that are divorced from reality, and there is no such thing as undesirable people. No matter logically or in real life, everyone can make progress no matter what the current situation is, as long as he sacrifices the eight-character mantra of "developing advantages and correcting shortcomings", parents who want their children to succeed, and teachers trained by Pei Long and Yu Feng will tirelessly ask their children and students to carry forward and correct again and again. However, the reality ruthlessly proves that their wishes can only be unrealistic dreams, and the hope of realizing them is extremely slim. No matter how hard-hearted, pure and tempting you are, what the children were and what they are now. The advantages are not extensive, but the disadvantages are increasing day by day. Why is this happening? Is it because the child is too young to understand? Or is it because parents and teachers don't care and help their children enough? Or is there something wrong with the eight-character mantra itself? Actually, it's not. It is easy to carry forward the advantages and correct the shortcomings, but it is not easy to put them into practice. We might as well take ourselves as an example and make a simple discussion. Imagine, which parents and teachers in the world don't know their own shortcomings and advantages? But have our advantages been carried forward? Have the shortcomings been corrected? Don't! Even if there is, what is the effect? I'm afraid most of them are not ideal. Is it because we don't know the truth? Because we don't want to improve? So what is the crux of the problem? In short, it is too big to be appropriate, the quotation is unclear, there is no method, and it is just empty talk. The hardest thing in the world is to challenge yourself and surpass yourself. Our parents and teachers are still like this, not to mention those growing children. At this point, writing seems to give people a sense of disillusionment. In this way, our good wishes and good expectations for our children will not come to nothing? There is no need to be so pessimistic. As long as you master scientific methods and give children strict and specific guidance according to the methods, all problems will be solved. Take "correcting shortcomings" as an example, and introduce the specific operation method step by step. I hope you can draw inferences from others, carefully understand the similarities and differences of "giving full play to your advantages" and sum up the operation methods that suit you. The first step is to find your own shortcomings. To correct shortcomings, we must first guide children to understand what shortcomings they have and be targeted. This can be sought from others, and you can also understand your image in everyone's mind. Of course, more often, children should be guided to rely on serious introspection to realize self-discovery of shortcomings. After all, we should not give up this great opportunity to cultivate children's reflective ability, thinking ability and self-control ability. In the specific operation, we need to create a quiet environment for our children, prepare pens and paper, and then seriously think about all our shortcomings and record them all. The second step is to determine the goal. Help children choose the shortcomings that are most in urgent need of correction or the most harmful according to their own situation, such as carelessness and carelessness (take this shortcoming as an example below), copy it on a piece of white paper with a red pen and read it aloud several times. The third step is the scenario imagination about the serious harm of shortcomings. Guide children to recall all the lessons and losses they have suffered because of carelessness. The clearer the scene, the better the content, and then record it in the simplest language. Then guide the children to make the following assumptions: if the shortcomings of carelessness are not corrected in time now, what serious consequences will be caused if they continue to develop. Possible scenarios need to be visualized and recorded. The fourth step is to imagine the scene after correcting the shortcomings. Guide children to fully and concretely imagine what benefits they will get after correcting their shortcomings. What progress will you make in your study? What improvements will there be in life? How will others change themselves? Imagine the specific situation and record the main points. The fifth step is to make a correction plan. We can help children make plans to correct their shortcomings according to their personality and habits, such as practicing calligraphy, picking beans, psychological hints, etc. Every day, and then let the children personally write the plans on a big piece of paper and stick them on the bedside, living room and other places, and read them several times every morning and evening. Step six, carry out the plan and write down the correction diary. . Supervise the children to strictly implement the planned plan anytime and anywhere, and truthfully record the shortcomings and corrections. For example, what I did seriously in one day, what are the benefits, what I was careless about, why I was careless, what was the result, and how to correct similar problems in the future.