It is not easy to put pen to paper. It's easy to write about others, Pinger. I dare not comment at will. Although Pinger has no surname, she may not even have a name; Although Pinger is just the concubine around Jia Lian, she can't help but admire her generosity in the Grand View Garden.
For example, in the fifty-second episode of A Dream of Red Mansions, Zhui Er, Baoyu's servant girl, stole Wang Xifeng's bracelet, and Pinger found out. Pinger didn't tell Wang Xifeng, but first sent a message to Baoyu, saying that he would cover it up-it was not good for anyone-and it was also for Baoyu's sake. Pinger is not a person around Baoyu, but she can understand the difficulties of others and take care of them everywhere at all times. In contrast, Qingwen around Baoyu will be broken. Even if she has a "explosive" temper, even if she has a "personality", even if she is sick and bored, she should also think about the situation of Baoyu and others, and also think about the "aftermath" of Zhui Er's attack, so that Zhui Er was later driven out-obviously a base servant; After that, it is "making up for illness", not to mention "obsession". Pinger is not like this, no matter to the servant or the boss, it is an attitude, and it is for the consideration of others.
For example, in the later paragraph of A Dream of Red Mansions about poria cocos cream, everyone agreed to let Baoyu hide the stolen goods. However, Wang Xifeng has a firm attitude, because she knows that "Baoyu likes to brag about things" and must "pursue it carefully". Finally, Pinger came out to beat around the bush, helped to speak, and calmed the storm. "Why fuck this heart! Let go when it's time to let go. What's the big deal? I'll be happy if I don't show goodwill. "
Indeed, I'm afraid no one can't understand the universal truth and simple thing of "let go when it's time to let go". However, in our real life, how many people think that "don't let go when it's time to let go"? They believe in "doing it when it's time to do it" and insist on breaking up until they wear a genius. Didn't Qingwen, mentioned earlier, hate people because she was "hands-on" everywhere, and was eventually expelled from the Grand View Garden and died of illness? If we modern people really want to learn to be generous.
However, in Pinger, it's not just that. Still in the process of making poria cocos cream. Because of Wuer, "those who are at odds with his mother and daughter can't wait to get rid of them soon, for fear that things will change the next day." Everyone got up early in the morning and quietly came to buy a flat. " It is normal to say that Pinger was in power at that time and really "perverted the law"-in that year, it was not normal not to "pervert the law by taking bribes". Pinger, on the other hand, has her own calculations, so she didn't say much-so as not to deepen the contradiction-"She replied one by one and sent them away, but she quietly visited people and attacked them" to "investigate" the real situation in private.
I'm really a little embarrassed to comment here. It stands to reason that society is developing and human beings are making progress, but why are some people not as good as a mere concubine in ancient times? For example, Li Changhe a few days ago, if he had read A Dream of Red Mansions, I wonder how he would feel when he saw it. I'm ashamed of myself, right? !
Having said that, what should we learn from Pinger? It is not only her generous attitude towards people, but also her principle of distinguishing between public and private and being healthy and progressive. These are all simple and bad. However, when learning, you really have to work hard. Don't let modern people fail to catch up with ancient people. It's really shameful for ancestors to be under the grave.
Thoughts on Reading A Dream of Red Mansions
I stayed almost half a day after watching Cao Xueqin's Dream of Red Mansions today. The tragic ending of The Daughter of A Dream of Red Mansions makes me extremely sad. The great change of Rongning Building from "full of gold and silver" to "humble room and empty house" made me gasp. It's like "Hulala Building collapsed, and the lights were miserable at dusk."
Think at the beginning, Rong Ning Erfu was full of traffic, busy for a while, extremely luxurious, but in the end it was dilapidated and empty. The characters in Rongning Mansion once owned gold, silver and jewels and lived in gorgeous halls. Who ever wanted to be a pariah and everyone vilified them?
The process of Rongning Building from prosperity to decline made me meditate for a long time. It is people's endless greed and desire, because they don't like their work so much, but how can they expect shackles to carry it? Some people want to get something for nothing, but they are finally sent to prison.
The struggle for power and the darkness of society led to the collapse of the Red Chamber.
In such a feudal society, men and women in the Grand View Garden can't control their own destiny. Although Lin Daiyu was proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, everyone praised her talent and temperament. Finally, she died of depression at a young age. Baochai is steady in everything, knows the main idea, and is proficient in poetry and songs. Originally, it was a golden wedding, but she only saw Mushi Qianmeng, but unfortunately she was a virgin and missed her life. Ying Chun has both talents and looks, but alas, I met the Zhongshan Wolf, blindly extravagant and extravagant, lamenting the gorgeous soul, and walked for a long time. ...
After reading a dream of red mansions: the children of a dream of red mansions are scattered and gone, and the once prosperous life is like a dream!
Baochai
Of the four classic novels, Dream of Red Mansions is probably the one with the deepest memory.
After reading a dream of red mansions, I feel that Lin Daiyu's life is so bleak that I can't bear to see the time when Daiyu burned the manuscript and Baoyu got married.
I think it's enough to know this cruel ending, and I don't have to relive that sadness over and over again. It's really sad to watch Daiyu die of depression. After reading it, I can't help but feel sad. Should people like Xue Baochai and Li Wan be buried in this deserted garden all their lives?
I used to hate Baochai. I think she is selfish and indifferent to others. But now, I feel sorry for her. Come to think of it carefully, her tragedy is actually more tragic than Daiyu.
Thoughts after reading A Dream of Red Mansions: Baochai has read many poetry books since she was a child, and Grandmother Jia always praised her as "quiet and generous". Yes, this is exactly the way she was educated since she was a child, and it is also the most desirable virtue for ancient women. You shouldn't even see the sadness and joy. Otherwise, it is "disrespect". Look at her behavior in the book, almost never beyond this bondage. I remember the part where I hated her most for framing Daiyu under the Bee Waist Bridge, but it's not incomprehensible to think like this.
Baochai grew up in a family of imperial merchants, and this method of "seeking good fortune and avoiding evil" has long been deeply imprinted in her heart. Although her behavior is selfish, in her opinion, she may think that people should take it for granted. Only then did I find out that Xue Baochai was the saddest person. Her life has been dominated by other people's opinions and education. She doesn't know what she wants! She just follows the path of nature. She has never been loved with all her heart, and no one really cares about her. And she thinks the world is like this. It is believed that husband and wife are not sincere feelings but a kind of respect; People think that what exists between mother and daughter is not the affection that blood is thicker than water, but the obedient filial piety.
Such a cold rule turned out to be that she abided by the principles of life, and she continued to be numb and unconscious! Not many things Baochai did were of her own free choice. She is just a submissive. Poor her, though clever and talented, was forced to think that women's reading was useless. Xiangling and Xiangyun were talking about poetry, but she said, "A girl's family talks about serious things with poetry, so that learned people can listen to it. She laughs at her for not keeping her duty";
She is also familiar with drama and traditional Chinese opera, but she thinks that these words can't be known to dignified ladies, so she gently criticizes Baoqin's poems. She yearned for a better life like everyone else, but when her mother married Baoyu because of the power of the Jia family, she just accepted it with tears, because her mother told her that she had promised. It was not until Baoyu finally became a monk that her tragedy reached its climax. Even so, she still can't let her nature do it. Lady Wang said, "It's rare to see Baochai crying, leaving with no dignity at all, but to persuade me!"
After reading: Baochai is so young, she still remembers how her future and life will end. Her pain is definitely not under Dai Yu's burning manuscript! She restrained herself. This is her "respect". So I think, compared with Lin Daiyu, Baochai's life may be more tragic. At least Daiyu pursues her own happiness and gets sincere feelings, and finally dies to get rid of all the pain. However, Baochai has been "ignorant" all her life. According to her personality, I am afraid that the blunt knife of life can only cut off her life bit by bit throughout her life!
Thoughts on Reading A Dream of Red Mansions
I have always thought that the greatness of A Dream of Red Mansions is that it embodies a declining trend, which is rare in China's classical novels and likes happy endings.
I have to thank Gao E, his successor. Although he couldn't keep up with Cao Xueqin's thoughts in many aspects, he at least let Daiyu die. Whether she died or not, at least she left Baoyu, which is very good.
It's not that I'm born cruel and like to watch other people's tragedies, but isn't there a saying? An old frontiersman loses his horse—a blessing in disguise. For a fragile feudal girl like Dai Yu, death is her liberation, the end of all her tragedies and her happiness. When she slept quietly in the ground and watched Baoyu still looking for a way out on earth, I had to say that she was still happy.
Maybe two people are romantic people, and romantic people should not meet each other by nature, because life is not romantic, and life will kill romance completely. Finally, the red rose turned into mosquito blood on the wall, and the white rose turned into white rice stuck to the chest. So, let romance come to an end at the most beautiful time and leave beautiful memories in each other's hearts.
But you might say that Daiyu's death was tragic and not romantic at all. In this respect, I don't approve of Gao E's sequel. Maybe Cao Xueqin didn't mean it. Maybe Daiyu really should shed tears to prove the front. Isn't this better? She was worried about Baoyu and wept bitterly for her bosom friend. After careful consideration, such a death is noble and sacred. However, Gao E did not write this. He finally made Daiyu vulgar, resentful and furious. This is not like the arrogant and self-righteous Daiyu we are familiar with, but like an ordinary woman who is frustrated in love.
Nevertheless, she finally left this trouble spot before Jia Fu collapsed, otherwise, because of her fragility, I'm afraid she couldn't stand such a big stimulus. Baoyu is a dude. He is not a man of indomitable spirit. He can give Daiyu little, let alone protection and comfort. He is still a weak person who needs protection from others, and Daiyu can't be happy around him.
So it is a kind of happiness to leave him memories. Baoyu himself can only give Daiyu a few good words. He's not even obsessed. Looking at Baochai's fate, I have to say that Daiyu is happy. Of course, some people say that Baochai only wants Grandma Bao's throne and doesn't care about Baoyu. Is that so? Is there a woman who naturally likes loneliness? Anyway, it is always painful to live alone. Besides, it is still a question whether she took the so-called grandmother Bao's throne.
If Jia Fu fails, at least Baochai still has a place to live, at least she has no husband and wealth, but isn't that right? Finally, Jia Fu was reduced to the point where the white land was really clean. What is the significance of the title of Grandma Bao Er to Baochai? Without a happy life and the care of her husband, isn't it a greater tragedy to live alone and die alone?
I always suspected that Baoyu didn't leave Jiafu because of Daiyu, otherwise he wouldn't have married Baochai. He was born at last, because his world had undergone earth-shaking changes, his ivory tower collapsed, and he finally understood his struggle. In fact, all his thoughts are on his family, and his family has collapsed, and everything is finished. Without any thoughts and struggles, he had to run away from home, perhaps to avoid disaster.
Imagine, can you imagine Daiyu washing her hands and cooking soup? Dressed in rags and skirts, and even relying on the relief of attacking people, then of course she can no longer be mean and gossip, but can only cry alone, not about love, but about life. When life has put a huge question mark on Baodai's love, can Daiyu still love Baoyu as always? I don't think so. I'm afraid the Longwang Temple will be flooded. Then Baoyu finally couldn't stand the pressure at home and left, which is very possible. He can't afford to live without taking good care of Baochai. The same is true of Daiyu.
Another possibility is that if Jia Fu can regroup and Gui Lanqi lets Dai Baoyu live a happy life, after many years, Baoyu may suddenly find his face wrinkled, then he will find that the attacker around him is like Aunt Zhao, and then love will die in the years, and then Baoyu will recall that round and smooth baby sister.
In fact, love is very short. At least this kind of cross love gives us a lot of beautiful fantasies and expectations, just like Jack to Ross. He is the most beautiful memory in her life, but not the only one.