Calligrapher Zhao Mengfu had the idea of concubinage, and wrote a poem "Concubine Poetry" to test his wife's reaction. There were not many loving couples in ancient times, but there were even fewer talented couples like Zhao Mengfu and Guan Daosheng who shared the same interests and loved each other all their lives. Zhao Mengfu's calligraphy is similar to her husband's, but his talent is not only calligraphy, but also painting. At the same time, his poems and songs are also well studied. The most famous is that Zhao Mengfu wants to take a concubine, and Guan Daosheng is relished by people with a poem "I Nong Ci" as a reply.
Zhao Mengfu moved the mind of concubinage in middle age. He made no secret of the idea. He wrote a letter directly to his wife Guan Daosheng, which probably meant that three wives and four concubines were the most common things in ancient men. For example, Wang Xianzhi and Su Dongpo had concubines, and several of them were normal. As long as their wives are over 40, they can take charge.
Guan Daosheng dismissed her husband's idea of marrying another wife with a sincere poem "My Poem on Agriculture". What kind of way will most women take when they find that their husbands have a heart for other women? Maybe many women will cry and hang themselves, which will not only have no effect, but will hurt both sides. In ancient times, smart women, such as Li Huixian, the wife of Liang Qichao, a famous educator, and Guan Daosheng, the wife of Zhao Mengfu, a great calligrapher in the Yuan Dynasty, solved the problem with only one letter.
It is conceivable that when Guan Daosheng saw this letter, his inner sadness and grievances welled up in his heart. But after all, he is not a weak woman, but a famous calligrapher and writer as well as her husband. He has knowledge and self-restraint, so he wrote a poem "I Nong Ci", which vividly describes the loyal love of "living with the same pain and dying with the same point". Zhao Mengfu was very ashamed after reading it, and finally gave up the idea of concubinage.
Zhao Mengfu loves only one person all his life, and he has been in love with Guan Daosheng all his life. In fact, Zhao Mengfu didn't make up his mind to take a concubine, and he couldn't give up his feelings with his wife. Seeing Guan Daosheng's words of blood and tears, the chagrin and regret at that time naturally welled up in my heart. From then on, Zhao Mengfu never mentioned concubinage again. The husband and wife also posted this poem next to the book case as a warning and joked about it from time to time.
A good marriage needs to be maintained and managed by two people. If it is now, it is indeed nonsense for a woman to try to repel mistress with a poem, but it is in this unique way and atmosphere that Guan Daosheng overwhelmed her opponent with calm and calm behavior, without going too far and giving her face. Write your inner thoughts on paper. Everything is up to the other party. In fact, you have already released malicious words. If you dare to do so, you can try. It can be seen that Guan Daosheng is really full of aura, and the real marriage world is a state close to balance. Hello, I'm fine, too. If one side exceeds the other too much, it will break this balance and it will be unbalanced.
Because it is rare to give up the idea of concubinage, Zhao Mengfu is not only because of his wife's sincere poems, but more importantly, his love for his wife and the fate of husband and wife. This kind of love between Zhao Mengfu and Guan Daosheng was very rare in the feudal era of polygamy at that time. Whether ancient or modern, it is the dream of many couples to live in harmony with their other half. If they want to have an equal relationship between husband and wife, they need to be evenly matched in soul and ability, just like Guan Daosheng.