How important is fatherly love to the growth of a daughter?

Sixteen-year-old, dragging my suitcase, with a frivolous heart, waved goodbye to my family at the Hong Kong airport and flew to a strange Oceania to study. Why do you stay away from your parents and hometown to live and study in an unaccompanied place in the lush years? Escape from my father's strict control. It's really appropriate to say escape. My father is a simple country man. He grew up poor and suffered. From elementary school to high school, he worked odd jobs to earn money to pay tuition fees, and also took his siblings to help his family with farm work. Growing up under grandpa's strict control, he developed a solid traditional patriarchy and had absolute authority at home. At that time, my rebellious youth hit my father's youthful vitality. He tied my wings of yearning for freedom and independence with the rope of my father's authority, and asked me to be an obedient girl, go to school on time and go home on time. Once I go shopping and watch movies with my classmates after school, my study will be poor. I can't paint my nails, lipstick or high heels. Pity my mother caught in the middle, like a hen can't protect a chick, we are in a dilemma and anxious. On the one hand, I resisted the pressure of my father, on the other hand, I eased my restless heart in her gentle maternal love. My mother took me on a trip to Hong Kong. She took me to visit my grandmother's distant relative, Sister Lin, who works as a flight attendant in Cathay Pacific. Sister Lin took us to visit Victoria Harbour, ate western food in the famous Hong Kong Peak Restaurant, and encouraged me to study abroad, broaden my horizons and see the world. In this way, it suddenly dawned on me that I could choose my own life path instead of being pushed around by my parents in the direction they specified.

I am very grateful to my mother for her support and persuading my father to let the little girl travel alone. After six years away from home, I can only go home for more than ten days on holiday every year to reunite with my family and make up for my homesickness. During this period, I grew up and began to understand my father's strictness. He never learned how to be a father, nor did he know how to love his children. Like thousands of rural people in China, he shouldered the burden and responsibility of being a father when he grew up and had children. It's just that I inherited the concept of filial piety from my parents. This will not work for us after 1990. You beat her away, and you have to go all over the world begging her to go home. I am glad that the confrontation with my father didn't come to this, but the father and daughter are always respectful and not intimate.

Until last year, I met a senior who graduated from studying abroad and has been working here. She took me to her home to meet her father, which completely gave me a new understanding of the role of father. Her father is very gentle to her, spoiling her like a little princess, talking and laughing as close as a good friend. She also educated her daughter rationally and led her to a self-reliant life, and a high degree of education and emotional intelligence earned her a well-paid job. Teach her daughter to learn to invest in real estate agents to make money, buy a house and a car by herself, hire people, live in a small villa by herself, keep two big dogs as companions, and live a colorful and fulfilling life. Senior sister attributed all this to her having a good father like a life mentor to teach and accompany her. The difference between her and other girls is that people want to find a boyfriend as a backer, and she is a beautiful mountain to look up to. Influenced by her, I also want to learn to invest, so I opened a micro shop on the Internet to sell fruit tea from my own farm. Through the recommendation of a friend's business card, I met my present (father) Master Zhou. When I first became friends, I was attracted by the photos and poetic poems in his circle of friends, and I thought this man was an elegant person. Love to drink tea, meditate, play guqin, practice calligraphy, and stop for dinner. He should be a Confucian who knows life well, pays attention to quality and advocates spiritual pursuit. In this way, with good feelings and appreciation, I gradually became a WeChat friend at the end of the year. Adult Zhou's job requires night shift. We often talk more and more, and everyone opens their hearts. He told an interesting story about being a soldier, his love for cross-country and his deep love for this pure land of Tibet. Take a car with your lover to walk freely in Tibet's no-man's land, enjoy the beauty of nature and meet Tibetan herders. Their peace of mind is because they want nothing, and their eyes are clear because they want nothing. Let your secular soul experience the washing of holy water, and feel clear and ethereal instantly. Things outside the body will neither bring death nor life. At this moment, all is silent. Only the lover will live and die, holding your hand and growing old with your son. Epiphany. Since then, I don't know how many levels my life has risen. I also shared the joys and sorrows of my family with him one by one, as well as studying abroad. He always said: it is difficult for you to be a good boy. I really feel sorry for you when you leave your parents to live alone at such a young age. Ya ya, you are just like my daughter. I have one more hope now, that is, I hope you are well. I watch over you, grow up with you, give you warmth, and make you feel so lonely in a foreign country. My child, being a father is your warm harbor. I want you to know that there are always disappointments in life. Ignore those masks. You go to work and help the family do micro-marketing. Those are your highlights. The person who laughs at you must be a person without quality, depth, connotation, family education and heart. But you have me, and I will be a stepping stone to your growth. The attitude towards luxury goods depends on seeing, using and experiencing, and cannot be pursued endlessly. Those things are not essential to life. Only when you are good enough will you understand what kind of life is noticeable, followed and looked up to. Yaya, I've talked too much tonight. Chewing slowly will benefit you a lot. You are not a straw bag, you just put on a straw bag coat, and you can't attract people with your quality. That's why I suggest you change your values with plain face. I'm afraid you can't accept some words that are too heavy for ya ya, so let's give an example, but anything with connotation and baby level must be plain in appearance. On the contrary, all the worthless things in the straw bag are thieves. Can you understand? Remember, everyone and everything you meet in life is for you, to make you grow and make you strong. For example, if you encounter any unhappy situation again, you will silently say to yourself that it is all for me. That will reduce the degree of injury. I say so much because I want you to live a happy life. In this way, I listened to the inculcation of adults last week with my mobile phone. At that moment, my indifferent heart was melted by this warm father's love, and tears flowed freely. I just want to be his daughter, regardless of this life and the next. I wrote five words on the screen of my mobile phone with trembling fingertips: Dad, I love you! I think it's too common to call him dad. He should be a well-deserved father in Yaya's heart.

Since then, great changes have taken place in my life, because that fatherly love has penetrated into my dry heart like the spring rain in March. Let me learn to love everyone around me. Over the years, I have been treated in a host family as follows: two or three pieces of bread and a glass of milk every day. Bathing is not allowed for more than five minutes, and washing your hair every day is not allowed to waste water. You have to turn off the power and stop the WLAN on time at 10 at night, and forget to turn off the light and pay the overtime fine for taking a shower, which makes me feel very tired to live in haggle over every ounce. People who don't love in their hearts can't love and don't know how to love. I finally understand the true meaning of love incompetence written by Qu Weiwei, that is, losing the ability to love. I like the lyrics of the song "Warmth" sung by Xu Wei, which was given to me by Teacher Zhou: What's the warmth in my heart? I miss you today, and you make my long and heavy heart lighter than ever. Share with unmarried girls here: the person you are looking for is not only your husband, but also the father of your child. I once read a book about campus confession in my youth. The man said to the woman: If the father of your child is not me in the future, tell him to be careful on the way after school. Ha ha ha ha, it's up to you to find a father for your child. But fatherly love is very important for a child's growth? I use the kindness I have experienced to remind those male groups who have become fathers not to let your daughter become an incompetent person. This time she is fighting for her father. Finally, we borrow the proverbs of beloved Mother Teresa and everyone's encouragement: We think poverty is hunger and clothing, but the greatest poverty is not needed, not loved and not cared for. Only love is passed down from generation to generation.