1, silent education In ancient times, there was an old Zen master. One night, while walking in the Buddhist temple, he saw a chair by the courtyard wall. He immediately understood that it was a monk who violated the temple rules and went out over the wall. The old Zen master didn't say a word, quietly walked to the wall, moved the chair and squatted down on the spot.
In less than half an hour, there was a noise outside the wall, and a young monk jumped over the wall in the dark and jumped into the yard on the back of the old Zen master. When he stood firm, he realized that he had just stepped on the master instead of the chair. The young monk panicked, was tongue-tied, and stood where he was, waiting for the master to punish him. To the little monk's surprise, the master did not sharply scold him, but said in a calm tone, "It's cold at night, so you should put on more clothes."
Sometimes, tolerance and care are far better than punishment.
2. shine on you is better than blue-Wang Xizhi, a famous calligrapher in the Eastern Jin Dynasty, whose calligraphy is a must in Chinese history, not only has a unique style, but also really reaches the realm of flying at the same time. He is quick-witted, knowledgeable, and a master of all kinds of calligraphy, and finally becomes a well-known generation of calligraphy masters. His apprentice, his son Wang Xianzhi, is also quite famous in Chinese history. Wang Xianzhi was strong and intelligent, so under the guidance of his father, he practiced his calligraphy diligently, even if he was frozen for three feet, without interruption. He didn't really learn calligraphy until he finished writing Twenty Tanks of Mohist Classics, and surpassed his father Wang Xizhi, making him famous all over the world.
Sublimate one's own life value in suffering. Shi Tiesheng's fate is often unfair. Shi Tiesheng's legs were paralyzed for some reason, and later he got kidney disease and developed into uremia. He lives on dialysis three times a week. He rocked his wheelchair and wandered around the abandoned altar. He thought of the past, the reality, his mother, life, the struggle of desire, survival, despair, cowardice and reluctance. In the end, he wrote his feelings and life with the pen in his hand, and made philosophical thinking and answers to such questions as "what is life", "why should we live" and "how to live", and wrote the most intelligent words with his incomplete life, which became a bright light in our hearts. Later, he served as a member of the National Committee of Chinese Writers Association, vice chairman of Beijing Writers Association and vice chairman of China Disabled Persons' Federation.
4. In adversity, open-minded and free-spirited. During Su Shi's exile in Huangzhou, he went boating on Chibi in the bleak wind and bitter rain, transcended frustration and sadness in the cool breeze and bright moon, and grasped the dialectics of water and moon, catching that "if we look at it from its own changes, heaven and earth can't be in an instant; From its unchanging point of view, things are infinite to me. Finally, you have a thorough insight into the true meaning of life. Su Shi, who jumped out of spiritual purgatory, began to enjoy the "cool breeze and bright moon" ..... Su Shi was not depressed because of political persecution, but pinned his lofty sentiments on mountains and rivers and his thoughts on nature. Open-minded and free in adversity, conform to fate, get rid of the uncertainty of life and treat life rationally. In the face of ups and downs in life, we should also be optimistic to dispel the haze, interpret setbacks with an open mind, and always remain rational and optimistic.
5. Jie Jun is resilient. In 494 BC, the King of Yue defeated Wu. Gou Jian, the King of Yue, had to make peace with Wu with "courtesy" and wait for a comeback. Gou Jian first bribed the prince of Wu and his ministers with beautiful women, gold, silver and jewels, and also held his wife hostage to be a groom for the prince himself. Gou Jian also sent tea and rice to the king of Wu, and finally won the trust of the king of Wu and was released. After returning home from a narrow escape, Gou Jian tried his best to pay tribute to Wu while withdrawing troops and training. In the end, he led tens of thousands of elite soldiers, completely defeated the State of Wu, and realized his desire to wash away the humiliation and revitalize the country.
Wang Yanan studied hard and became a genius. Wang Yanan sleeps in a three-legged bed. When Wang Yanan was a child, he was ambitious and loved reading. When he was in middle school, in order to gain more time to study, he deliberately sawed off one foot of his wooden bed and turned it into a three-legged bed. I read until late at night every day. I went to bed when I was tired, and then I turned over in a daze. The bed leans in the direction of short feet. He woke up suddenly, got out of bed at once and read at night. Every day, without interruption. As a result, he achieved excellent results every year and was regarded as one of the three outstanding figures in his class. Because he studied hard as a teenager, he eventually became an outstanding economist in China.
7. During the Warring States Period, Su Qin was so tired that he studied day and night that he stabbed himself in the leg with an awl to keep his head clear. In order to prevent him from falling asleep while studying, Sun Jing of the Han Dynasty tied his hair to the beam with a rope, and when he fell asleep, he would be awakened. This is the story of "stabbing the stock and hanging the beam" in history.
8, Wen Yiduo drunk books Wen Yiduo is addicted to reading, and he is "drunk" at first glance. On his wedding day, the bridal chamber was decorated with lights and colorful, and it was very lively. Early in the morning, relatives and friends came to congratulate each other. Until the bride's sedan chair arrived home, people still couldn't find the groom anywhere. I was so anxious that everyone looked everywhere and found him in the study. He was still wearing an old robe and was fascinated by a book in his hand. No wonder some people say that he can't read, and he will be "drunk" at first sight.
9. Respect is more important than care. There is a story about a child whose parents died in a certain country, and he was lucky to get the support of a rich man. Since then, he has been well-fed and successfully completed his studies. In the process of its growth, it is often reported by the media, and the deeds funded by the rich are often seen in newspapers. Shortly after graduating from college, another reporter interviewed him and asked him how he was going to thank his benefactor. Unexpectedly, this man startled four people: "No, I don't thank him. Poverty is the most shameful thing. He exchanged my poverty for honor, and we exchanged it for equivalence. "
At first glance, I feel that this person's words seem ungrateful, but when I think about it carefully, I can't help but give birth to some respect. One cannot lose self-esteem because of poverty. Of course, children's success is due to the care and help of the rich. However, how many people can understand and appreciate that this child who grew up in media reports was deeply hurt because of poverty, because he was often forced to expose this shy poverty to the public?
10, respecting children's American culture, new things in America emerge one after another, which is based on Americans' innovative ability. Cultivating innovative ability begins with children. To do this, you don't need profound skills, just grasp one thing: respect children. The "paper-eating" computer that Bill Gates and his classmates played in middle school was donated by community parents. Bill Gates' first company was just a company founded by two young people. Others are willing to deal with him. Although they have their own business needs, it is more important to respect creative people and not care too much about their age.
An important feature of American culture is respect for individuality. They respect children's rights and treat them equally, which includes respect for their interests. Knowing American culture, you won't be surprised that Jobs started his business in the garage and got the support of venture capital, and you won't be puzzled that his parents let Gates play computer games by himself.