1. Encourage children not to cherish the fruits of their parents' labor. Children don't go to work, and primary and middle school students in China seldom earn money by working on their own. Money for birthday parties can only come from parents. It is not easy for parents to make money, after all, it is the result of parents' labor. It is legitimate and understandable for the public to use this achievement to do necessary things, such as going to school, reading, paying tuition fees and buying good books. Use this money to do unnecessary things, and some people think that the bigger the banquet, the better. For their own face, this obviously lacks understanding and understanding for their parents. If this psychological spread of not cherishing the fruits of parents' labor grows, it will not cherish the fruits of their own and others' labor and become irresponsible to themselves and others.
Time is a constant. The more time you spend on birthday parties, the less time you spend on self-development. Some middle school students are so excited that they can't sleep well for several days in order to prepare for their birthday party and contact the students who attend the party. They are often absent-minded in class, and the motivation to celebrate their birthdays has become an obstacle to their study.
3. The space of the brain is also a constant. There are more brain cells thinking about eating, drinking and having fun, and naturally there are fewer brain cells learning to learn sports. Students planted such seeds in their minds when they were young. Once they take root and sprout in the heart of the field, they often spread to the point where it is difficult to clean up. Everyone who farms knows that crops and vegetables will not grow well if there are weeds in the fields. Crops and vegetables need care to grow; Weeds grow quickly by accident. If it grows, it must be uprooted in time, otherwise it will endanger the growth of crops and vegetables. The same is true in the field of mind. Some good ideological qualities of students, like crops and vegetables, must be cultivated, sown and cared for to grow. And those lazy and selfish thoughts are like weeds, which often grow inexplicably without sowing and nursing. If it grows out and is not uprooted in time, it will invade the site of crops and vegetables and seize the nutrition of crops and vegetables. We are afraid that we can't eradicate some weeds in our hearts, so how can we water and fertilize them?
The most harmful thing is the bad atmosphere caused by comparison. China's feudal society lasted for a long time, and the feudal society did not allow ordinary people to have independent rights, which cultivated people's conformity consciousness from the upper level. When something happens, we don't distinguish right from wrong independently, but we often watch what everyone does. As long as you keep up with everyone, you have no responsibility for your mistakes and feel at ease. This kind of conformity and comparison psychology is also very strong among students. Therefore, among the students, idolize style, idolize style, San Mao style, Qiong Yao style, Jin Yong style, and wearing famous brands are popular ... Some people who don't have the hot conditions at all foolishly follow others to become hot, preferring to lose their own specialties, abandon their own characteristics, and even join the trend of chasing the wind by illegal means. This is obviously harmful to the growth of students.
In a word, holding a birthday party does more harm than good. Over the years, I have not allowed students in our class to hold birthday parties. Not only that, the students in our class also agreed not to send birthday presents or birthday cards. The students discussed the problem at the class meeting. They think that even sending birthday cards will do more harm than good. There are more than 60 students in a class, and it is not good to send you without him. I sent them all over, more than 60 times a year. What I bought and wrote was more expensive than the size of a greeting card. Making them run around will often deviate from the meaning of encouraging progress on birthdays, become cumbersome and vulgar, and sometimes produce some disharmony and unhappiness. In the end, everyone decided unanimously that there would be no banquets, gifts and greeting cards on birthdays.
The child is clamouring for a birthday party. Parents can tell him that you should not violate the decision made at the class opening meeting. Tell him again that the teacher didn't do his advice. Don't compare with other rich people in society. If we save the time to attend the party and use the money to help out-of-school children, we will live more valuable and proud.
There is no banquet for foreigners. At home, some people should celebrate. But I advocate not focusing on eating. China people have been hungry for a long time, so if there is anything to celebrate, the first signal in their minds is to eat. In fact, besides eating, there are many meaningful ways to celebrate.
1. Hold a family poetry recital. Children had better write a poem and a song in advance and recite it to their parents on their birthdays.
2. Hold a family concert. You can enjoy world famous songs, let your family play musical instruments alone, or sing karaoke alone. Of course, the theme of the concert song is to congratulate the children on their birthdays.
If children like sketching, they can hold a family sketching party. Instruct children to write and sketch, and parents can be his employees and listen to his instructions.
4. Hold a family story meeting. Parents can tell their own birthday stories, the birthday stories of the previous generation. Children can tell birthday stories of great men, celebrities and scientists.
5. Hold a family art exhibition. If it is a family that loves painting, children's paintings over the years will be concentrated and hung up for the whole family to appreciate and evaluate.
6. Children write a composition for their own birthdays, and parents can also write a joint or separate article for their children's birthdays, and the whole family can read their own articles together. If you write such articles every year, get together for more than ten years, read this year's articles this year, and appreciate the articles last year, the year before last, and more than ten years ago, this kind of birthday spiritual life will be very rich. Every year's birthday supplies are kept by parents. When the child reaches the age of 18, it will be bound into a book and given to the child for preservation. It would be great if children continue to accumulate future birthday compositions. In addition, diary exhibitions can be held.
7. Hold a family calligraphy exhibition. If you are a child who loves calligraphy, you can sort out his crooked works when he began to learn to write as a child and his works that will be improved step by step year after year, so that children can see their growth footprints and sum up their experiences and lessons.
8. Let the children organize a family quiz or a family quiz party. When children are masters, they will become more confident and smarter.
9. Guide children to do one thing for their parents and make both parents feel happy. Parents can give their children hints in advance, and then compare their feelings for their parents, whether they have deeper feelings for their mothers or their fathers. Guide children to learn to be considerate of their parents in jokes and develop a good quality of bringing happiness to others as their own happiness.
10. Hold a family discussion on "What I have grown since yesterday". See what knowledge, abilities, specialties and good habits you have added. How much weight have you gained? How many centimeters have you increased in height? How much have the scores of running, jumping and throwing improved respectively? The most important thing is to guide children to discover what hobbies and specialties they have grown up.
1 1. Children can design a family birthday celebration ceremony. The ceremony procedure includes the host announcing the start of the ceremony, telling the matters needing attention in the ceremony, giving parents small gifts on their birthdays, thanking their parents for their kindness, sending souvenirs to encourage their children to make progress, and reading a birthday speech at the birthday party to tell parents what they expect of their children. Relatives can also have elders to speak and give speeches to their peers.
12. Hold a family sports competition. For example, after dinner, parents and children play table tennis and badminton, and father and son wrestle and jump. It would be better if the children's birthdays and weekends coincide. The whole family can go for an outing, climb mountains and visit museums together. You can also play some games designed by children.
These birthday ways are more meaningful than eating a meal, which will leave beautiful memories in children's hearts, deepen family feelings and inspire children to make progress.