My idol once said, "I live in a world with many rules, reasonable or absurd, wise or stupid, dogmatic, vivid, clear or potential." What impressed me most was the opposition between persistence and compromise. "When to insist and when to compromise must trouble many people. Because the world we live in is too complicated, there are always people against you. Your persistence is considered stubborn, and your compromise is considered weak. In any case, there will always be those who support and those who oppose.
I think it's important to stick to yourself. Because ego is a person's personality, and it is a distinctive label. Going with the flow will only soak the label, make it irrelevant, and make you feel like you are someone else, not yourself. What I think is like this, but what I show others is like that. Living like this is fake and tiring. There is a saying: Go your own way and let others talk. This is the so-called persistence, going in the direction you think is right and you want. Even if you suddenly find that the road is rugged, your heart will be happy, because it is your choice, and you have no hesitation. There may be a huge treasure buried at the end of this rugged road. Therefore, many people insist that they have succeeded. Sometimes, sticking to your own path will attract abuse, opposition and disdain, but in contrast, it will also attract applause, encouragement and support. People are different, it is impossible to say that the whole world is against you, and it is impossible for the whole world to support you. In the face of rumors, it is most important to stick to yourself.
As for compromise, it is often a helpless and wise way. Compromise will calm you down for a while, and then you will have more time to think about how to stick to your own path in the future. Compromise can avoid a quarrel and even win more support, but the premise of compromise is that it will not bring you a lot of unhappiness. You can compromise in this respect and find another opportunity to stick to it according to your own wishes later. As the saying goes, calm down for a while, take a step back. This is the advantage of compromise. Just like a stock that has always made a steady profit, it will bring you income. On the other hand, persistence is like a stock that goes up and down. If there is a risk, you will either make a big profit or lose money, or you will not make a profit or lose money, just like starting over.
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If you listen to your inner voice and don't compromise, what will happen depends on the situation. If you are boyfriend and girlfriend, don't compromise, maybe you will just be friends in the future. If it's a job, if you don't compromise, maybe you will be laid off. Many things cannot be generalized. To distinguish between scenes, I hope to adopt it. Thank you.
How to improve your inner reading? First, borrow books from the library and attend classes in the library. Whether you like it or not, you must go. Gradually, you will like reading more and more, which is meaningful for young artists.
Then read some books about world literature or history, not those romantic novels!
After that, it is estimated that your heart will completely calm down and you can read some books on philosophy and psychology!
Finally, it is suggested that the landlord practice hard pen calligraphy, which can especially increase self-restraint and have a low threshold. Buy a copybook and practice!
Have a foundation and then get in touch with music and painting or something!
It is a kind of mood to live according to the vivid composition in your heart! The world was simple, but it was complicated by us. Writing makes the mind live well. People suffer because you don't live the way you like. Most people live according to the requirements of others, deliberately change, and go against their own inner thoughts, so it's miserable! Give yourself a hope every day, that is, give yourself a goal and a little confidence. What is hope? It is the fuse to detonate the potential of life and the catalyst to stimulate life. Give yourself a hope every day, and we will live a life full of vitality and passion. Where can we find time to sigh and grieve and waste our lives on some boring little things? Life is limited, but hope is infinite. As long as we don't forget to give ourselves a hope every day, we will certainly have a colorful life. As long as you are a down-to-earth person, as long as you stick to your dreams, you don't have to be afraid of the cynicism of these people, let your dreams stay firmly in the manor of your heart, and don't be afraid of being stolen by others. The composition of the second day of junior high school makes your heart flexible and good. And all the dream thieves pour cold water on you, which is enough to irrigate the seeds of your dreams and make them grow into towering trees. You can thank them for throwing cold water. You really appreciate it. Because when your dreams come true, you will share them with them. The Oxford motto says, "If we just want to be happy, it is easy to achieve. But if we want to be happier than others, it will be difficult to achieve, because our imagination of others' happiness always exceeds the actual situation. "Everyone has his own advantages and disadvantages. We can neither specialize in our own strengths nor be shorter than others. We should not be longer than others because we are too short. Many troubles in life stem from our blind comparison with others and forgetting to enjoy our own life. Most of the troubles in life are caused by ourselves, because they only exist in our own imagination and never appear at all. Trouble is like an invisible net, hidden in people's hearts. If we are not careful, it will come out and take away our happiness and good mood, so don't bother yourself and don't worry about it tomorrow.
How to understand your own mentality? Since you are destined to talk to your heart, you should keep a trusting attitude towards each other instead of suspecting this and that all day. No amount of trust will be erased by your doubts. The trust between two people is the foundation of the beginning of love.
How does a person plan his life? Set yourself a goal in life and work towards it. Refine the target and complete it in stages. What to do and accomplish during this time.
How can a person improve his self-confidence! To improve a person's self-confidence, we need to complement each other with the outside world in order to achieve our goal effectively. If a person doesn't have self-confidence, then no matter what he or she does or does, it can't change his or her subjective initiative, can it?
So, although some methods look old-fashioned, they are practical. Here are a few that can help you solve the problem:
First of all, from the inside, don't encounter anything. The first thing that comes to mind is to say "no!" People who lack self-confidence should say this word most. When your friend is in trouble, say to yourself three times first, "I can do it!" " "I can do it!" Then ask yourself, "How can I solve it? "Instead of asking others this question! You can't improve your self-confidence by relying on others for everything.
Then, determination is the most important part. As the old saying goes, "When you meet in a narrow road, the brave win." Make yourself determined to accomplish one thing, no matter what you sacrifice, even if it is only a small thing.
This seems ordinary, but it is not so easy to do. The above two points fully exercise a person's inner perseverance (insist on saying "I can do it!") ) 1 week or more is difficult), one's own potential (self-questioning and self-answering) and firm determination (this is the key to success or failure)
Secondly, as his (her) friends, all we can help outside is guidance. Don't persuade him in everything, look on coldly. When he is really confused, a little guidance can inspire his thinking.
Try not to hit him, even if he makes a little progress, give him support and encouragement (but don't exaggerate, people with low self-esteem are usually suspicious, and if they go too far, they will think you are satirizing him). Be firm in his determination, and when he starts to waver, always remind him not to let him turn back into a long-headed grass.
Find out what he is good at and encourage him to study more. Then accompany him to your familiar place, take him to the door, and let him understand. In fact, even if you just learn to ride a bike and swim, these seemingly simple exercises can help a person improve his self-confidence. He will never attend the meeting. It's a growing process from half-baked to proficient.
In a word, your attitude is the most important. If you are really determined to improve your self-confidence, a positive attitude will certainly help. A good friend who never gives up and is humble is also a very important street lamp!
Follow the lively composition 800 in your heart. There is a problem in itself! Simple grammatical ambiguity: why people live and why people live. It can also be said that one is meaning and the other is purpose.
The so-called meaning should be objective and natural I'm talking about people, not one person, so the so-called dedication theory doesn't make sense. For the vast and eternal universe, human beings are not even rubbish. Man only lives for himself. When we say that protecting the environment is just protecting the environment suitable for our own survival. With the development of science and the breakthrough of evolution theory, human beings are more and more aware of their position-the product of nature. You didn't decide to come into this world, not even when you left this world. Human beings are small, at best, only a negligible part of the metabolism of the universe. Is there a difference between sesame and rice? This is not pessimism, it is the fact. But on the other hand, other parts of the world are equally ordinary, and people are still the spirit of everything. You don't like to hear that you are "inferior to pigs and dogs", which is enough to make people proud. Natural selection, survival of the fittest, at least on earth, human beings are the overlord of all things.
A single person, from a macro point of view, is even less meaningful. We exist naturally, although it is meaningless, but survival is our right, at least no one has the right to deprive us of this right. If it is meaningful, it should refer to relative meaning, and it is to create meaning instead of looking for meaning. On a small scale, we repay our parents, raise our children and please others; In a big way, we may have helped some people, contributed to society and contributed to the development of mankind, thus going down in history. This is also the mainstream consciousness of society. But I want to emphasize that people have no obligations. You can choose not to do anything if you can survive. The reason why we want to do better is nothing more than to live better and better. This is our purpose.
Life is human existence, all for survival (Darwinian language), better survival. The most fundamental nature of human beings is not good or evil, but the pursuit of happiness and avoidance of pain. This is natural selection, and no living thing seems to be an exception.
Looking back at this question, you won't be surprised that people are serious about living, but you can't answer the question "why are people alive?" Because everything is natural, who is not living close to happiness? I remember that the mantra of Hunter (an old American film) is "God arranged it", and I think this is also a good American humorous answer. Of course, the God of mankind is nature.
Here I want to emphasize one word, which is "justice". The so-called justice is justice, which conforms to the laws of nature. Selfless dedication and selfishness are not natural outlook on life. Why? Because people's understanding and
How to listen to your heart and prepare a recording, and then record what you want to say to yourself or what you have been wronged or happy recently. You will feel different after listening to it for a while.
How to get along with your heart? Listen to your inner voice, whether it is good or bad, don't resist, because people are changeable.