December 13th, 22nd year of Daoguang
Shao's friends criticized Zeng Guofan. The thing is this: Zeng Guofan's grandparents celebrated their birthdays, so they invited Wu Jiabin of that year to write a birthday composition, and invited He, a famous Hunan, to write a second birthday composition. I wish I had written a birthday composition. Zeng Guofan invited two friends to write together, not out of filial piety, but out of secular form. Not only that, Zeng Guofan felt that He's Shouwen was not very good, and he had to change it himself. It's a bit arrogant to change friends' articles without authorization, especially those of celebrity He. Shao criticized Zeng Guofan for making mistakes again and again because of secular blindness. Zeng Guofan immediately became alert, and then he found that Wu Jiabin's article was actually well written. So Zeng Guofan made two longevity articles and used them at the same time.
This makes me think, how to criticize and how to accept criticism? The Road Few People Walk is an important book to change my attitude towards life. It said: "There are usually two ways to criticize others: one is to believe that you are right by intuition; The other is to reflect and confirm that you may be right. A basic premise of self-reflection is honesty and modesty. " On the contrary, when we are criticized by others, should we stop and not react immediately? Stop and think about whether the other party's criticism is only based on his subjective speculation. If so, and his attitude is arrogant and rude, then let's not get angry and ignore it. However, when criticized, we should actively reflect on whether we have any improper behavior anyway. "Xunzi-Persuade Learning" said, "Therefore, if you speak at your own peril, you will do bring disgrace to oneself, and a gentleman will be careful what he stands for."
Supplement:
He, a Hunan celebrity contemporary of Zeng Guofan, was 12 years older than Zeng, but died later. He's father He and his three brothers are calligraphers, and He is the best calligrapher among them. When I was in Changsha, I was lucky enough to visit the "Personality-Calligraphy Exhibition of Hunan Celebrities" in Changsha Museum. Where does the personality come from? Here is also a picture, let's enjoy it ~