I saw a news the other day:
In order to prevent her 8-year-old son from losing at the starting line, Ms. Cheng not only attended classes at school normally, but also enrolled her son in remedial classes such as calligraphy, piano, Olympic Mathematics and English.
My son didn't want to attend so many classes at first, but after scolding, he gradually developed the habit of getting up at 6 o'clock every day for self-study, making up lessons at 8 or 9 o'clock in the evening, and then going to bed after finishing his homework.
On this day, my son went home at eight o'clock as usual, took out the Olympic math problem and began to do it. As a result, not long after, Ms. Cheng entered her son's bedroom and saw her son lying on the table. She thought her son was lazy and gave him a push. She barely raised her head and said to her with a nosebleed, "Mom, I'm so tired. I want to sleep for a while, okay?"
At that time, Ms. Cheng felt that something was wrong and quickly sent her son to the hospital. As a result, after three hours of rescue, her son died, and the cause of death was actually fatigue and organ failure.
Surprised, some netizens pointed out:
* This is only a case. There are many children who have died and have not made up for it, which fully shows that there is still a lot of room for improvement in the amount of remedial classes. Never let a child lose at the starting line. If they don't make up lessons now, what will they pay back the mortgage in the future?
* The child is only one and a half years old, and the daughter-in-law has already enrolled her.
Some netizens also said:
* My girl has never enrolled in any extracurricular classes, so her childhood should be naive, happy and carefree.
* Give children a wonderful childhood, don't remind them of their childhood, just want to go to remedial classes.
However, some netizens questioned the authenticity of the news. However, parents are more concerned about what to do than whether it is true or not. Will you sign up for the remedial class?
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The answer may surprise everyone, but I still want to say that the remedial class should be reported!
Murphy once told a story about her daughter's primary school experience. At that time, his daughter was in the first grade, and on the first day of primary school, all her classmates could read except his daughter. The teacher asked strangely, why didn't your child mention going to that preschool? All the children in the class can read. Murphy replied: She is in the first grade of primary school, and she is here to study.
Even so, Murphy finally signed up to his daughter, he explained, because if he doesn't go, at least the teacher will have an evaluation of him:
* Do you depend on family conditions?
* Isn't it amazing that your family is a celebrity?
* Your family just doesn't want to be like ordinary children, right?
So, he quickly reported the remedial class to the child.
Two days ago, I saw a report released by Peking University China Institute of Education and Finance, which showed that the overall participation rate of primary and secondary school students in off-campus training was 48.3%.
Students who participated in off-campus training pointed out that the average annual surplus was about 56 16 yuan. At the same time, geographically, the northeast is the highest, followed by the east. In addition, the average number of students in first-tier cities is 778 1 yuan, that in second-tier cities is 4,863 yuan, and that in other counties and cities is 2,395 yuan.
But what is different from the past is that as soon as the result comes out, netizens generally react: whoever has children knows that the money is small.
Aside from the fact that this report shows a lot of money. In the face of nearly half of the status quo of class registration and the education of the school, the teacher aims at the learning progress of most students in the class. Do you dare not report it?
However, children are children after all, and the physical endurance and mental stress of Huasong people can't be compared. If, like Ms. Cheng, she does not consider the child's own situation and only attends classes blindly, it will not only be detrimental to the child's physical and mental health, but also easily lead to unimaginable consequences.
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Then, in the face of this situation, how should we choose remedial classes for our children?
First, choose the number of remedial classes on the basis of not harming health.
Tao Xingzhi once said: people who ignore health are tantamount to making fun of their own lives.
The selection of the number of remedial classes should be based on the premise of not damaging the healthy growth of children. If the child's physical condition is not very good, it is necessary to take exercise and keep fit. Don't blindly choose remedial classes without losing at the starting line, ignoring children's health.
Second, in the face of academic performance, parents should put a correct attitude, find the root cause first, and then make a choice.
Many parents enroll their children in remedial classes not to make up for their childhood regrets, but to follow the crowd. Actually, this is not right.
I read a news story about a woman who couldn't sleep well because her child's performance in class was always at the middle level. Finally, she accepted the advice of her best friend and reported six remedial classes to her children.
Children are disgusted when they know that they have to attend six remedial classes, but they can't stand their mother's scolding, and finally they have to go to class. As a result, after a period of time, the grades did not improve, but declined.
The puzzled Ms. Liu suspected that the teacher didn't teach well in class and ran to the school to question the teacher. As a result, Ms. Liu realized that since Ms. Liu's children began to attend remedial classes, they often slept in classes, which directly affected normal classes. The children were very exclusive to attending remedial classes and did not study hard in remedial classes, which eventually led to a decline in their grades.
In fact, for the problem of children's academic performance, instead of blindly reporting to the remedial class, it is better to find the specific problems that children encounter in their studies, such as: lack of concentration, poor mathematical calculation ability, poor Chinese writing ability, poor oral English ability and so on. And then carry out targeted family counseling or report to a remedial class.
Third, cultivate interest and remember to follow suit.
In addition to the remedial classes for examination subjects, there is another class that has to be mentioned, that is, interest remedial classes, such as calligraphy classes, painting classes, piano classes, dance classes and so on.
Most parents choose to enroll their children in interest remedial classes because they don't know where their children's interests are and want to cultivate their interests through remedial classes, so most children don't want to learn after studying for a while, and as a result, the money is spent and their interests are not cultivated.
Then how can we know the child's interest direction?
The answer is to take your children to different activities and let them tell you what you like.
Have you seen a celebrity introduction about Yehudi, a famous American violinist? When Mei Niuyin was a child.
When Mei Niuyin was 3 years old, she went to a concert with her parents in the San Francisco Philharmonic Orchestra. At the concert, by Louis? Passinger was deeply moved by his violin playing. After returning home, he repeatedly asked his father to buy himself a violin as a birthday present, and hoped that Passinger would be his teacher. Finally, my father reluctantly agreed.
Unexpectedly, he began to learn violin at the age of 4 and played Mendelssohn's concerto at the solo premiere in San Francisco at the age of 7. By the age of 65,438+00, he had become a world-famous violinist.
We are all ordinary people, and it seems that there is always a lack of comparability to take such a legendary example. But it is not difficult to see that the best way to cultivate interest is not to sign up for various remedial classes, but to take more children to participate in various activities, communicate with them more, let them tell you what they like, and then sign up for classes to study.
Fourth, it is better to look at the brand than the teacher.
Another mistake that parents often make when choosing remedial classes is to look at the brand of remedial classes instead of the situation of tutors. My friend used to be like this.
She chose a well-known dance class when she signed up her children, but because she went a little late when she signed up, all the famous teachers were full, leaving only one young tutor. Because she believed in the brand, she finally signed up.
As a result, she found that the child had studied for more than half a year, and the teacher taught some basic movements in class, while other students in the same period were already arranging programs. Finally, I asked the parents of other classes to know that the teacher didn't teach well at all because of his bad salary and was ready to resign.
Later, she proposed to the remedial class, hoping to transfer her children to other classes. However, because there is too much difference from the previous progress, the teachers in overtime classes are more strict and speak more directly. After the child transferred to another class, he didn't want to go again after a few classes.
Therefore, when choosing a remedial class, you must not blindly look at the brand of the remedial class, but look at the teachers who teach. Are you in charge? How's your temper? What is the teaching method? Do children like this way?
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As parents, facing the current educational situation, it is better to spend more time with children, know more about their situation, choose remedial classes suitable for children in time, and conduct targeted counseling and learning.
Finally, I hope all children can grow up healthily and succeed in their studies.