Those guys who are written in the history books are basically addicts.
Addiction is a rather extreme psychological quality, which is not good or bad for the addict himself: it can create a big boss that all beings look forward to, or it may harvest a worthless rotten person; The only difference is what you are addicted to.
However, for the relatives of addicts, high probability addiction is an abominable virtue, which affects the happiness of life.
Some people are addicted to lying on a beautiful woman's knee and wake up to the power of the world: Li Shimin killed his brother and forced his father to destroy his son, while his sister-in-law and young mother did everything. However, when he is glib and flattering, he is still an emperor.
Some people are addicted to Wang Ba's Millennium plan: Yang Guang ignored the grass and people's livelihood, built roads and canals, conquered North Korea and wooed Turks ... Even if his reputation deteriorated into Emperor Yang, a canal was enjoyed by future generations for thousands of years.
Some people are obsessed with making contributions to the country and the people: Wang Anshi is bent on the great cause of political reform. It is said that he doesn't like taking a bath, changing clothes and being absent-minded when eating. It's a pity that he didn't play well and became bad karma's "xianggong".
Some people are addicted to great rivers and mountains. I want to see: Xu Xiake traveled all over Qian Shan and wrote many beautiful articles.
Some people are addicted to saving the world and people: Li Shizhen collected and compiled the Compendium of Materia Medica all over the country.
Some people are addicted to the art of calligraphy: Wang Xizhi dipped his steamed bread in ink, and he wrote a wonderful inscription.
Some people are addicted to scientific research: Gauss only loves mathematics, and Newton doesn't want to get married.
As for those who are addicted to money, wealth and food, there is no need to give examples, they are all around you.
No matter whether you slip away or fail, this kind of person is not suitable for being a relative: Uncle Li won't talk or dare to touch; If Mrs. Wang has modern ideas, it is estimated that if she does not divorce, she will have to get grandpa some green hats. Think about it, the delicious food they have worked so hard to make will be eaten as pig food. What's more, with Uncle Wang's urine, it is estimated that we can do something that is inconvenient for husband and wife to say, and the task of carrying on the family line will be completed in three or two times. If you think of his great cause of reform or artistic inspiration on the way, you can run away in your pants. Is it hard for anyone?
Xu Xiake doesn't go home all the year round. Li Shizhen drills in the mountains every day. Where are his wife and children?
Such people have one thing in common: in their minds, their wives and children have no status or can only stand aside (after becoming famous, they may say with their mouths that they are sorry for their wives and children).
This kind of people are more addicted to unknown things: mahjong, online games, chatting, novels, news, film and television dramas, weapons, American decay and stupidity ..... and nothing will turn into a rotten person in the end; However, sex is still there. In their minds, wives and children still have no place or can only stand aside.
Selfish people are not necessarily addicted, but most addicted people are selfish. Even if they are addicted to making peace for the world, their essence is still selfish.
All addicts are unlovable, even if they achieve great things; Even if he happens to be addicted to loving you for 10 thousand years, he is still not cute. His love is not only touching, but also probably uncomfortable.
Personal opinion: infatuation with excitement (scientific name is sense of accomplishment) is one of human instincts; If the source of cool is highly concentrated, addiction is a high probability event; The factors that affect the source of coolness are half congenital and half education.
To prevent addiction through education, my family's method is to nip in the bud, and prevention is the top priority!
In all these projects, parents can't let their children play by themselves, learn by themselves, or throw them into training classes even after learning; Parents should learn relevant teaching skills, carefully observe their children's learning process, provide correct help in time, and let their children achieve something-the sign is that children are at least in the upper-middle position, preferably in the forefront; Only when learning is successful will the feeling of learning become stronger and stronger, and only when all or most of the projects are successful will the feelings of children become more and more dispersed.
When the above items are cool enough, strong enough and scattered enough, parents can provide their children with dangerous goods such as mobile phones, computers and online games.
As soon as possible, try to get it done before junior high school, and don't try to keep your child out of contact forever; For children in China, high school and college addiction are the most unfavorable opportunities; Because, different periods of life, the same length of time, the value of life is different.
Personally, ordinary children are likely to indulge in it for a short time. After all, these things are designed by real psychologists. However, because there are a large number of other projects to provide a sense of coolness, it is still possible for children to break free with the help of their parents, which is only a matter of time.
My children have been addicted for more than two years. Because it involves privacy, I need to ask my child's permission (it is estimated that the probability of disagreement is very high), so it is not convenient to say details here. I'm really sorry.
Let's talk about the principle first: stand with the child, stand in the position of the child, and help after providing help! Help is provided only with the consent of the child.
To prevent addiction and cultivate a child who is good at managing a happy life, we should start multi-threaded, all-round and three-factor (physical, commercial and family) family education from an early age.
Be greedy, not eager for quick success.
You don't have to win every study, but you must not lose. Losing will not make you feel good, nor will it hurt your appetite.
Don't wait to be completely addicted to the project where you don't want to catch children.
Don't actively push children to indulge in anything, even your favorite project: math, English art …
Even if he was addicted to saving the world, he did save the world. This person is still not cute.
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