How to make children obedient

Zheng Yuneng (Guo Jia), a disciple of Bodhisattva's talisman and a professor at the Department of Aeronautics and Astronautics of the National national cheng kung university, described the introduction. Parents' basic mentality, knowledge preparation, and data confirmation in their minds-according to the operation mode of probability and statistics, the basic knowledge, conclusion and introduction of emergency strategies at ordinary times, for the convenience of carrying and reference, this book is given to you in a short document form. I hope this article can help you and your children grow up smoothly. The method introduced in this paper is the daily application of the following words ('three conversions' in the word "three conversions" recited by Buddhists in the morning and evening): Since you have converted to a monk, you should hope that all beings will govern the public and everything will be fine-the principle of treating children. The simple translation of this conversion word is:' After studying Buddhism, I hope to learn how to practice from some accomplished people in the future because of my own efforts, so as to make my body and mind stable. I hope that because of my physical and mental stability, I can influence the body and mind of all living beings around me in tangible and intangible ways, so as to make them stable and peaceful. And I hope that because of their stability and serenity, they can further stabilize and reconcile the people, things, places and things around them, so that they can operate in harmony and everything can go smoothly. The outward influence of such a layer. The more peaceful my heart is, the more levels I can influence. Applied to the relationship with children, that is to say, if my heart can remain stable and serene, children will be influenced by me and feel calm. If I work harder to improve my physical and mental peace, not only my child will benefit now, but also his teachers, classmates and friends will be affected and have a harmonious relationship, thus creating an environment in which children can grow up smoothly. Samadhi in the mirror-attitude towards children. Stealth and secret use, like a fool, but can continue, the name of the Lord is in the Lord-Dongshan is good and square. Its wisdom is within reach, but its stupidity. -make yourself like salt, without showing off, but it is an indispensable member. -step by step, quietly appease the child's heart. The essence of Zen-the way to treat children. Master Cui Wei asked, "How does Master Huang usually teach his disciples?" . Father Lin Ji replied, "Usually in the blink of an eye, or going to a bar for a drink, if there is no news from the professor." . -there is no need for language symbols to go deep into the child's heart. At the beginning of Lin Ji, he was in Huangbai, serving the public. When the hall was first urged to ask questions, the teacher asked how he came from the west, and Huang Berberi beat him. Indeed, he was beaten three times. ... came to Japan, I resigned from Huang Boli, and Huang Boli pointed to the big fool, so I joined the big fool. The fool asked, "Where are you from?" He said, "Huang Bai is coming. A Dai: What can Huang Bai teach? Yue: When I personally asked about the meaning of Buddhism, I was beaten by a monk. If he asks three times, he will be beaten. I don't know where he is. Silly: Berberis amurensis a wife, because you are so sleepy and still looking for a wife. The teacher realized in the words, cloud: Fate comes to Buddhism without children. Motto of daily life. The situation is exhausted: when the situation is exhausted, disaster will come. Happiness cannot be exhausted: when happiness is exhausted, fate is broken. Rules are not feasible: if the rules are exhausted, it will cause trouble. You can't say all the good things: if you say all the good things, it will be dull. Parents' basic mentality: the application of Zen in interaction with children: there is no vegetation under dense trees. Excessive care and seedling damage are the same. Love, patience, playing dumb, but carefully observe everything about children. Turn a blind eye to children's minor injuries and setbacks. In daily life, in addition to teaching truth by language, try to interact with children through body language. Basic mentality: understand that children come to depend on us, not our property. From the process of his growth, we can also learn how to grow. Only you really have the key to solving children's problems. Others can only give advice, and it is difficult for others to help you convince your child. Have the basic concept of setting an example. Treat children as friends, so as not to spoil them too much and be too strict. In many places, let the child feel that we are clumsier than him (her), and he will approach us like a bosom friend without cheating (empathy application). You should always maintain a state of peace of mind and body, so that you can be flexible when you get along with children. Children's absence can also help children to stabilize their emotions. If you can't have peace of mind and body, you will be turned by the karma of both sides, and with the development of karma (it may become an uncontrollable situation). When you have time, do more good deeds, take more religious classes, change your temperament at any time, and let your body and mind get peace. It is difficult for you to know whether your daily words and deeds violate the principle of being a man, and you need to be corrected and discussed by your good friends. Face up to children's problems: children's problems: caused by family, aggravated by school and harmful to society. When different families are together, don't just talk but don't practice. Always pay attention to children's behavior. Children should deal with big things at once (don't pay attention to small things), or they will become problems in the future. An example that may become a big problem-need to communicate with parents immediately: cry after playing with other children-may be that he is not competent enough, or he is not tolerant enough of others. Play a game of kicking stones with other children-the danger of being too wild is not enough. Playing video games for too long-no self-control. How to deal with children playing electronic toys: electronic toys are the product of the times, and it is unlikely that children will not play, and there will be sequelae after playing for more than an hour. There are three chapters to make an agreement with children, stipulating the time of playing video games at ordinary times and during exams (the time cannot be fixed), and the punishment method for violations (defined by the children themselves). Violators will be punished. Help your child switch to a laptop and lock the computer in the cupboard if necessary (during the taxi ride is not allowed). Preparatory knowledge: the memory of the brain: 1. There are infinite memory units in the brain: (when the body and mind are stable, it may include external memory units: memories of past lives and others). 2. Self-adjusting dynamic access:-General information is simplified and then dynamically moved to an easily accessible area. -Unused information is dynamically moved to inaccessible areas. Data input and output of brain: input: eye, ear, nose, tongue and body (tactile) data input; Consciousness (foreign data input in the past and your own ideas) data input. Output-consciousness and body. Data validation of brain-a probabilistic and statistical operation mode: graphic logic recognition system. Left and right brain mutual recognition system-comparison with database. Be sure to refer to the identification system when confirming. Simplify the data in the confirmation process to speed up the comparison. Mind judgment system: check whether there is life danger (self-protection system): including life support system, emergency protection system (escape system) and emergency self-adjustment protection system (contemporary evolution). Whether it is reasonable and feasible, or rules that endanger morality, personal interests and personality (personality, sentiment and seventh sense). Distinguishing whether the system changes at any time or slowly is closely related to the peace of mind. Fuzzy decision-making system (consciousness):-operation mode in accordance with probability and statistics. Mobile adjustment decision system; Weighted decision system; Among them, the weight is determined by the discrimination system and adjusted flexibly. The clock cycle rate of-α, β and γ waves affects the efficiency of brain operation. -when operating with waves, it is equivalent to a state of genius. Brain operation mode: the result of the pattern of graphic logic and mutual confirmation of left and right brains is: 1. Simultaneous comparison of multiple inputs and multiple data. 2. Combine the data you hear (only a few words), the data you see (only a few words or graphic symbols, but strengthen the component of moving graphics) with the data you think, and then compare it with the data in memory after simplification. 3. Peace of mind and body will improve the efficiency of brain operation and enter a state of genius. The key to improving IQ: the baby is full of interest in any problem. When a child encounters difficulties, he often tries to solve them first. If he can't find a solution, he wants to find a book for reference or ask the teacher. Once he can't find it, he will be discouraged. The key to improving intelligence in learning: initiative-facing any problem directly. -Once you find difficulties and face new things, your heart is full of excitement. Microsoft Windows is successfully combined with electric toys, which can get the answer with the click of a mouse, resulting in most children not thinking. The correct reading method is not to think, read more and see more, and understand by intuition, so as to sum up the logical relationship of symbols and know how to apply them. Students with poor grades should use correct reading methods to improve their IQ. Thinking while reading and understanding immediately will make you uncompetitive because of the slow speed of absorbing information. People who can understand and apply the logical relationship between symbols-they are at the top of the future. People who can't understand and apply symbolic logical relations-the lower class in the future. Basic knowledge: coping styles of children and parents: living things have independent genes from home to avoid inbreeding-resistance (the secretion of male and female hormones will start the role of this gene). Rebellious consciousness will interact with the pressure of leaving home, which will interfere with the body (endocrine system) and mind (psychological factors). When interacting with parents, if you start rebellious psychology, it will become a strict barrier and deliberately ignore parents' messages. Information body (body movements, called body language) and language (language) are the main communication channels. Characteristics of communication: the information of' language' is clear, which will immediately activate' resistance gene' to make resistance behavior. The information of' body' is not clear, so it is not easy to start' resistance gene'. The information of' body' corresponds to the child's childhood memory, so it can start the deep memory of his' admiration heart' and offset the role of' resistance gene'. When parents' body and mind are integrated (only when their body and mind are extremely stable), their body, language and spiritual information can directly bypass the' resistance gene and discrimination system'. Characteristics of brain discrimination system: morality, personal interests, personality, etc. (Personality, Sentiment, Seventh Knowledge) The discriminatory system will strongly dominate behavior. Judging whether the system is' changing at any time' (physical and mental anxiety) or' changing slowly' (physical and mental balance) will also affect rebellious psychology and its luck. Body language: When I talk to my children, I usually think about how my eyebrows, eyes, eyelashes, nose, lips, face, hands, feet and body move. These are the most mysterious, direct and effective body language between you and your child-every parent-child is different. Practice these movements in peacetime, in case of emergency. Can create new body language. The strongest fuse against genes-inappropriate body language: when children go home depressed (they may bring back bad grades in exams, get into trouble at school or outside school, etc. , is also the most need to comfort), but we send out' hum',' tut',' oh',' alas' and other unhappy, impatient or dissatisfied voices. -make a helpless expression, or the expression of the end of the world. The reason why children are disobedient: they can't be confident for a long time. Determine that the system is out of order (unstable). The discrimination system is a bit unstable, and rebellious psychology has played a role. Signs of children becoming disobedient: weak willpower, lack of self-confidence and patience, and even bad hobbies (drug abuse, racing, gathering people to make trouble, stealing property, gambling, conflicts with teachers and classmates, etc. ). Emotions become unstable, and the frequency of quarreling with family members increases. The number of lies has increased, and people often make promises about things they can't do. Go home late. Playing video games at home often becomes unrestrained. Usually: communicate with children frequently-strengthen the stability of children's discrimination system. Maintain physical and mental stability at all times. Tangible communication: Always have a heart-to-heart talk (no matter how long it takes), encourage him to express his troubles and exchange views with him. If you are wrong, you must be punished, but stand by him in a pinch. His achievements must be praised or rewarded. Invisible communication: express opinions with body language. Only when no one is watching, can we have close contact such as holding hands and hugging shoulders. After sleeping, gently touch your forehead and cheeks with your hands. Enhance children's sense of accomplishment-strengthen the stability of children's discrimination system. Help children improve their IQ and pursue reading efficiency: refer to the book Correct Reading Method or Master Heng Sheng's book From Failure to First Choice. -improving children's reading ability or IQ can make him easily affirm himself and avoid the cause of deterioration. Take one's own performance as the standard, don't set too high a standard, and moderately affirm the children's achievements —— refer to the book Appreciating Your Children (by Isabella Chow). Spend more time with your children, but don't do things on the computer alone, watch TV or make phone calls. Let the children study together, let them be pickets, and encourage them to report themselves. The way to keep yourself stable: you can quietly stabilize your child's mood at the same time. Do more good deeds in secret and make good relationships. There are fixed religious ceremonies every day. Practice the correct reading method and relax the article. Talk to someone about your depression. Practice taboo words and body language frequently, so that you can habitually stop talking in front of children. Have a series of daydreams every day. Other precautions: never nag and talk too much. Playing the fool and letting your child help you can relax your child and bring the feelings between parents and children closer. Tell your daydream (fake) to the children. Observe your child's behavior and encourage him to talk about school or classmates, but don't comment casually. Unless the child asks your opinion, or his ideas are seriously lacking, you can only follow his words. Body language should correspond to wisdom and try not to change principles. If you have any dissatisfaction, don't say it in words, but when you need to punish him, say why you should punish him. If you have any encouragement or request for your child, you can pass it on to him with a note. When I have time, I occasionally take my children to the nursery to take care of orphans who have lost their parents and inspire their compassion for the weak inside. Encourage children to work and rest normally, eat normally and not be partial to food. Emergency strategy: 1. Correct attitude of parents when children have problems or are disobedient: According to the principle that Dean Isabella Chow appreciates children, ask yourself if you have made excessive demands. Don't you see him from the perspective of being his friend? Review your attitude:-Did you use inappropriate body language? -Do you often have an impatient attitude? -Do you talk too much? All the effective solutions came out when I was emotionally stable. Others can only give us advice. If he goes beyond his position, he is likely to have other intentions, or at least owe him a favor. The method of eliminating disasters can stabilize the mood and inspire people. -Never ask God for advice or rely on others everywhere, which will make you flustered and lose the opportunity to remedy in time. When the body and mind are at peace, it is possible to get information and inspiration from the surrounding sentient beings and ruthless sentient beings. 2. There is something wrong with the child's discrimination system, how to communicate effectively with the child. Don't say anything, or at least don't say anything unnecessary. When the child is not present, insist on doing simple religious lessons, so that the body and mind can enter a stable and super-strong state, which is convenient for quick wits and helps him invisibly with stable brain waves. Try to communicate with children only by body language. 3. There is something wrong with the child's discrimination system, how to make the child still listen to us. Only when you are extremely calm physically and mentally can you give instructions to your child with body language, which may have certain effects. After doing good deeds in the name of children, language instructions may have some effect. After the child goes to bed and before getting up, quietly doing a short religious lesson for a period of time, stroking the child's forehead or cheek, and quietly and gently repeating short requests can also play a certain role. 4. How to repair the discrimination system in which children have problems? Children will play chanting machines or monotonous music in a low voice all night before getting up. While quietly doing a short religious lesson, gently touch the child's forehead, cheeks, body and limbs that are not afraid of itching. Encourage children to tell their troubles and be silly as spectators. They can only make short comments or gently nod or shake their heads or answer yes, oh and so on. Let children go home to play video games, and accompany them when they have time (ask them to play, but try to be stupid and reduce the time they really play), and even allow them to take their classmates home to play together, but the time must be limited. Do big and small things in the name of children and never ask for anything in return. Do religious lessons without desire every day. Often take children to nurseries to take care of orphans, and encourage children to make various contributions to these orphans, and use the opportunity when compassion is triggered to repair inner wounds. Get rid of all your bad habits and behaviors (discuss with friends those bad habits and behaviors that you are not aware of). Conclusion There is no vegetation under the dense trees. It is unreasonable to care too much and too little. Always digest the knowledge and methods you have learned, constantly try and adjust them into methods suitable for your own use, so as to improve your ability and make your children obey. Thanks to the feast master and guru Puli for their teaching of Buddhism, which enabled the author to apply it to his life, thus contributing to the Fu Zi of this article. In addition, the author would like to sincerely thank the professors and professors of our department for their valuable information, and the colleagues of the publishing house for proofreading this article in their busy schedules.