As soon as his three-year-old son became sensible, Xiao Baiyou prepared rattan and feather dusters at home
In 1964, Xiao Baiyou was born in a traditional family in Guangzhou. Xiao's mother has never read a book and only believes in an ancient saying: If you don't study hard, you will be beaten!
Therefore, from elementary school to middle school, Xiao Baiyou spent his time under the stick of his mother. The mother's sticks are extremely "horrifying": if she fails to get a full score, she will be beaten 10 times by 1 point; she will be punished by staying in court for 1 minute and will be struck once; when she returns home late, she will be struck once by 1 minute; if she fights, she will be struck no matter whether it is right or wrong. 20 times; for lying, beat him until his mouth bleeds...
On the day he was beaten, he was not allowed to eat dinner; no matter how he was beaten, he was not allowed to cry. Moreover, whenever you are beaten, you must draw a circle yourself, take the initiative to hand the stick to your mother, and do not move when being beaten.
Under his mother's stick, Xiao Baiyou became an out-and-out good student and filial son. His mother likes to eat wonton noodles, so he often uses his salary to buy wonton noodles for her after work.
When his child was born, Xiao Baiyou was determined to educate his child in a strict way like his mother.
Because his wife Huang Tianshu is from Hong Kong, Xiao Baiyou and his wife raised four children. In order not to violate domestic fertility policies, the first two children were born in Hong Kong, and the last two were born in the United States. Advocating the traditional Chinese culture, he named his four children respectively: Yao, Jun, Xiao, and Bing. On them, Xiao Baiyou’s hope for success and educational dream rested.
In 1992, when his 3-year-old eldest son Xiao Yao had just become sensible, Xiao Baiyou sent him to kindergarten and prepared rattan and feather dusters for "tutoring" at home.
He believes that "three years old determines eighty". The temperament and habits of children in early childhood determine their subsequent lives. At this time, kindergarten teachers can only teach them games and some basic knowledge, so it is necessary to Strictly guide children through tutoring, defining their character, temperament, norms, etiquette, reverence, good and evil, beauty and ugliness, and right and wrong.
Xiao Baiyou found the ancient enlightenment book "Three Character Classic", marked it with pinyin, and took Xiao Yao to read it. If Xiao Yao loses his temper and fails to memorize the Three Character Classic, Xiao Baiyou will pick up a cane and beat his palms.
Huang Tianshu snatched her husband's cane and said: "He is still so young, how can he be beaten like this!"
Xiao Baiyou said: "It is because he is still young that he must be disciplined well." ! If we let it go now, we will have no choice but to beat ourselves up!" After that, he forced the child to continue to endorse.
Huang Tianshu couldn't convince her husband, so she had to make a "bet" with Xiao Baiyou. She would use his method to discipline the child for a month. If it worked, she would unconditionally support and cooperate with him in the future; otherwise, Xiao Baiyou would not be able to spank the child casually in the future. Upon hearing this, Xiao Baiyou immediately agreed with confidence.
At the beginning of the "bet", Xiao Yao did not work hard or seriously when he endorsed, and he kept crying. Every time he was beaten, he deliberately cried loudly and went to find his mother. However, because Huang Tianshu had an appointment with her husband, although she felt distressed, she could not show it.
Later, Xiao Yao knew that asking his mother for help would not work, so he had to study hard. Half a month later, he became more and more fluent in reciting the text, and actually liked reciting. Every night during the inspection, he would take the initiative to stand in front of Xiao Baiyou and endorse it.
Huang Tianshu was a virtuous woman who was influenced by traditional culture. She was very happy to see her son making such progress, so she agreed to her husband's education method. Because her husband was busy at work and her children were young, she quit her beloved translation job and became a full-time housewife.
After Xiao Baiyou got his wife's cooperation, he began to implement his "stick education method" with great fanfare. First, he formulated the "Three Laws of Education": supervision, reprimand, and punishment. That is to say, assign tasks and supervise them regularly; if they do not complete the task well, they will be reprimanded; after the reprimand, they will be served with a stick. Several "no-nos" have been set up, such as not allowed to watch TV or play games. Only after completing the prescribed learning tasks can you rest, otherwise you will be beaten severely.
He checks his homework recitation every night, even during holidays.
Under his strict discipline, Xiao Yao memorized famous classics such as "Three Character Classic", "Enlightenment of Rhythm", "Preface to Prince Teng's Pavilion" and "Shi Shi Biao" in kindergarten. These classical cultures nourished the child's heart, cultivated his gentlemanly character of being gentle, courteous, thrifty and tolerant, and also enabled his father's Chinese-style education to proceed smoothly.
Xiao Baiyou plausibly said: "What is democracy? You are the people and I am the Lord. This is democracy!"
After Xiao Yao entered elementary school, Xiao Jun and Xiao Xiao entered the kindergarten one after another. And Xiao Bing, also under the strict supervision of his father, began to recite "Three Character Classic", "Hundred Family Surnames" and "Enlightenment of Rhythm". In order to ensure that the pure hearts of his children would not be polluted by idle books, Xiao Baiyou also carefully selected their reading materials, and they were not allowed to read books without his permission.
One night, Xiao Baiyou found a comic book on Xiao Yao's bedside and became furious. He immediately called Xiao Yao over and tore the book to pieces in front of him. Xiao Yao was so wronged that he cried all night.
When Xiao Xiao was in the third grade of elementary school, she failed in English once. Xiao Baiyou was so angry that he was trembling all over. He picked up the feather duster and slapped you, and then said: "From today on, you must remember that you must be among the top five in the class in every exam, otherwise don't blame me for beating you again!" Xiao Xiao was beaten! I was beaten until I burst into tears.
Even though Huang Tianshu felt pain in her heart, she could not object to her husband. She could only give her daughter medicine and encourage her to study hard.
When Xiao Baiyou spanks his children, he does not just hit them and forget about it. Before each spanking, he will explain clearly to the children what went wrong and why he wants to spank them. After the spanking, he also asked the child who made the mistake to write a "reflection statement". The content must include: when the mistake was made, what happened, why it was wrong, where the mistake was, and what to do in the future.
In order to prevent children from learning bad things, Xiao Baiyou implemented "social control" on them. If anyone wants to visit a classmate's house, he must go through a cumbersome application and approval process. The application must state which classmate's house he is going to, what he is going to do, how long he will stay, and the name and phone number of the classmate's parents. After writing it, he will decide whether approve.
In order to cultivate a simple, frugal and frugal life style in his children, Xiao Baiyou stipulated that he was not allowed to drink Coke, blow the air conditioner, or open the refrigerator door casually. There is absolutely no pocket money, as children are not allowed to buy anything privately. Even if you get the New Year's money, you have to hand it over in full, and your parents will return it when you go to college.
As the children grew up, they also used the knowledge they learned in school to resist their father: "I have to listen to you in everything, it is so undemocratic!"
However, Xiao Baiyou was plausible. , holding high his banner of "Xiao-style democracy": "What is democracy? You are the people, I am the Lord, this is democracy!"
In 1998, Guangdong International Trust and Investment Company, where Xiao Baiyou worked, suddenly went bankrupt. , a family of six suddenly lost their source of income. Xiao Baiyou had to fire his nanny, sell his house and car, and his family moved from a spacious house to a small house of tens of square meters, and lived a hard life. Instead of complaining, the children all helped their mother with laundry, sweeping the floor, and other housework.
However, even if life was difficult, Xiao Baiyou never relaxed his children's study. He still lets his children take expensive piano lessons, calligraphy classes, and traditional Chinese painting classes. No matter how busy or tired he is, he will still take time to supervise his children's learning and communicate with their teachers.
One afternoon, Xiao Baiyou was doing market research for entrepreneurship in Shenzhen. When he learned that there was a parent-teacher meeting in Xiao Yao's class the next day, he rushed home overnight. When he arrived at the train station, the train was about to leave. When he rushed onto the train, he ran too hard and hit his head on the door, breaking his nose.
Xiao Baiyou has always attached great importance to the choice of school. When his children went to kindergarten, Xiao Baiyou chose a kindergarten organized by the Guangdong Provincial Government. It was a Yucai kindergarten signed by the famous democrat He Xiangning. The primary school they attended was also the best in the area, Chaotian Primary School. Its predecessor was the Guangzhou Tongwen School founded by the Qing government with the Boxer Indemnity.
In 2002, after Xiao Yao entered junior high school, Xiao Baiyou learned from a conversation with his son that a certain provincial key middle school that Xiao Yao attended was not as good as he imagined. Xiao Yao's class was undisciplined, and many students in the school fought, smoked, and even took drugs.
Xiao Baiyou, who broke out in a cold sweat, went to his class teacher to confirm the situation, and then wrote a letter to the principal, proposing a series of suggestions for improving the academic style. However, to his disappointment, the letter he asked his son to personally hand over to the principal fell into disarray.
One year has passed in the blink of an eye, and Xiao Yao's academic performance has plummeted. For the future of his son, Xiao Baiyou had to make a major decision in May 2003 - let Xiao Yao transfer to Guangzhou Foreign Studies University (Foreign Language School Affiliated to Guangdong University of Foreign Studies) to study in junior high school with his sister Xiao Jun, who was about to enter junior high school. one.
After Xiao Yao found out, he was unwilling to transfer to another school and repeat his studies for another year. Huang Tianshu also advised her husband, saying that now is a period of financial constraints. If the two children go to a good school together, the annual tuition fee will be tens of thousands of yuan. Where will the money come from? However, after communicating with the principal of Guangzhou Foreign Language School, Xiao Baiyou believes that this school can cultivate good children. In order to raise enough money for tuition, he resolutely sold the house and moved the family into a rental house...
After the children entered junior high school, Xiao Baiyou also made adjustments to his education methods. He stopped beating people because he felt that the children's characters and habits were basically formed. From then on, the way he communicated with his children was chatting and writing letters.
In 2006, Xiao Yao, who had just entered high school, saw his grades decline and fell out of the top five in the class. Xiao Baiyou was furious when he learned the news while on a business trip. He wrote a letter to his son. There were not many words, but it was powerful: Yao'er, I talked with the teacher on the phone, and your mother also told me some things. You will be 18 soon, and I don’t want you to still have your father angry at 18! Men should strengthen themselves! Please remember a few requirements: Cancel all extracurricular activities; prohibit playing on the computer and surfing the Internet at home; focus all your energy on reading; absolutely relax and face reality; do not fall outside the top five in the grade in the exam (this It’s my bottom line)
Fortunately for Xiao Baiyou, his efforts were not in vain. By the time he came back from his business trip, Xiao Yao had already caught up with his grades as quickly as possible.
Twenty years of hard work has resulted in the "One School, Three Peking University" that shocked the country
In order to prevent children from becoming nerds who can only read, Xiao Baiyou also based on several children The interests and expertise of students should be cultivated in a targeted manner.
Xiao Yao is a boy who likes history, politics, and economics. Xiao Baiyou trained him to write political articles and taught him chess, go and traditional Chinese painting. Xiao Jun liked piano, so Xiao Baiyou hired the best piano for her. The teacher would not hesitate to pay even 2,000 yuan for a lesson; Xiao Xiao was more heroic, so Xiao Baiyou asked her to learn calligraphy; his youngest daughter, Xiao Bing, had average grades, so he asked her to learn guzheng and enter an art school.
In order to make his children become talents, Xiao Baiyou always tried his best to bear the living and learning expenses of a family of six on his own. Huang Tianshu has never used cosmetics since she married into the Xiao family. Every penny they spend is spent on their children’s education.
In addition, Xiao Baiyou, who advocates the etiquette of filial piety and brotherhood, attaches great importance to etiquette education for his children. Honoring elders is the first rule of etiquette in his family. He stipulated that juniors must not contradict their elders. If they are with their elders, the juniors must immediately take over the heavy objects from their elders' hands and shoulders. If he sees that the elders are holding things in their hands, the children who are traveling with them must not to be punished. When guests arrive at home, they must be polite and courteous, and they must pay attention to etiquette when serving tea and meals. Even if you usually walk, sit, or lie down, you must have correct posture. In short, we must show the dignified manners of a young man from a wealthy family and a lady from a wealthy family.
In order to train the children's independent character, Xiao Baiyou also arranges for them to work in the flower market and in his aunt's restaurant every holiday, so that they can experience the hardship of labor.
Under Xiao Baiyou's strict education, all four children of the Xiao family are excellent in character and academics, and have excellent talents. They have their own strengths in music, chess, calligraphy and painting, and are well-educated, courteous and courteous.
In the 2009 college entrance examination, Xiao Yao and Xiao Jun were admitted to the School of International Relations and Law School of Peking University respectively.
In July 2011, when the results were released for another year, Xiao Baiyou received another surprise - his second daughter Xiao Xiao was also admitted to Peking University.
After 20 years of hard work, Xiao Baiyou was filled with emotion in exchange for "one discipline and three Peking University". When the reporter asked him to give some "Wolf Dad Reflections", he said: "Some people only care about making money to support their families. They leave their children to their wives, parents, or even nannies or put them in boarding schools. They feel that they can give their children the best." education. But they only forget that the father is the most important person in the growth process of the children and is the vane of their children’s growth. Only when the father devotes all his love, time and efforts can the children grow up healthily. ”
Xiao Yao said this: "Over the years, I have wondered many times, is my father's education method really right? I have wanted to prove him wrong more than once, but he failed once I have never failed. When I held the admission notice from Peking University, my father asked me if I remembered his reprimand. I cried and said to him: 'When I have children in the future, I will definitely give them to you to teach me.'"
When the youngest daughter Xiao Bing was 10 years old, she wrote in her composition: "If I were a mother, I would find a good husband like my father..."
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