?The biggest enemy of improving self-control is laziness. Once you overcome laziness, improving self-control is not that difficult. Many times our lack of self-control is caused by laziness.
For example, the problem of staying in bed that many people want to overcome, and the inattentiveness in listening to lectures that many student parties encounter, etc. can all be attributed to laziness, but lack of self-control does not completely equate to laziness. , there are many reasons for poor self-control, such as lack of concentration, weak sense of responsibility, etc., which are all factors that lead to poor self-control, but laziness is the most important one among the many reasons.
? So if you want to improve your self-control, you must first solve the big problem of laziness. How to overcome laziness? I have tried many methods, but basically they all failed. Laziness is like an incurable disease that lingers on me. After many methods failed, I realized that I cannot solve the problem by myself. , so I thought of letting others supervise me.
? For example, a roommate and I made an agreement to run every day. If we were on our own, neither of us would be too lazy to get up, but it’s different if we make an appointment because we have this agreement. , we persisted in getting up early every day to run, and for example, going to self-study every day. If it were me, I would never persist. I always gave up for various reasons, but after making an appointment with my roommate to go to self-study together, I really I can persevere.
? So when you are unable to overcome laziness, the best way is to find someone to work with you, to supervise each other and improve each other. This is the most effective way. The same is true for improving self-control. Self-control cannot be improved simply by improving it. When you can't control yourself, you might as well ask others to help and supervise yourself.
? Slowly, we can persist in doing something. When we persist in doing it until it becomes a habit, we will experience the sense of accomplishment of completing it. This kind of achievement Feelings will encourage us to continue to do another thing, which will slowly form a virtuous circle, and self-control will naturally improve slowly.
Instead of giving up if we can’t persist, we will feel that we have no determination and perseverance, we will be very dissatisfied with ourselves and criticize ourselves, and then when we do the next thing, we will feel that we will definitely give up again. And so on, and then there is no confidence. If this continues, it will be a vicious circle. The less confident you are, the less confident you will be. The less confident you are, the less good you will be.
So it is very important to have a good beginning. From now on, you must try to control yourself and insist on completing one thing. Don’t blindly pursue quantity, but quality. Don’t be impatient and take your time. .
? To sum up, the key is to learn to seek help and supervision from others, and then establish your own virtuous cycle and slowly improve.