Both men and women should take care of their families and their importance.
A happy family needs two people to run it.
A man in love marries a woman in love and then gives birth to a child, and then it should be "live happily ever after", but the reality is not entirely like this. In fact, families also need to "manage" and "manage" with heart, otherwise there will be no happiness.
How should a happy family "run"?
The premise of family harmony is the love between husband and wife.
In the family, there are many types of relationships, such as husband-wife relationship, father-son relationship, marriage relationship and so on. Every relationship is important, but the main axis of all kinds of relationships is husband-wife relationship. Some people think that wives can remarry and husbands can remarry, but parents can't change, so they give up love for filial piety. But in the end, it may be your parents who suffer in the end, which is not wise. Some people do not hesitate to break up the husband and wife for the sake of their children's future, which eventually leads to family breakdown. This is even more stupid. In fact, the relationship between husband and wife is irreplaceable by any blood relationship.
Family is irreplaceable.
At present, the main reason why many families are unhappy is that both husband and wife do not realize the importance of family. Many people think that work is more important than family, and as a result, the relationship between husband and wife is drying up; Many people think that customers have priority over children, and as a result, the parent-child relationship is getting worse every day; Many people think that making money is more important than marriage, and as a result, family relationships are on the verge of breaking up. People who know the importance of family try to leave more time for their families, which may lose many opportunities to make money, but what they get is a happy reunion of the whole family.
Play their respective roles.
Western sages once said, "A wife should love her husband ... and a husband should love his wife ... and children should honor their parents ... and parents should love their children ..." These words seem to be commonplace, but they are all important principles for maintaining family relations. Of course, under this principle, we should also pay attention to some skills. More importantly, everyone should have the concept of "complementary roles". For example, a husband should be considerate of his wife, and there is no face problem here; And the wife should also learn to let go of her husband, which is the practice of smart women. It should be noted that when a person loves each other deeply and doesn't care unnecessarily, the other person will be more willing to play his family role carefully. These little truths include university questions.
Run the family with "heart"
A happy family does not come out of thin air, and it needs the joint efforts of all family members. Therefore, we should arrange time to communicate with each other, so that couples can open their hearts, speak their minds and have fun. In order to achieve this goal, it is necessary to consider making some "family rules", which we can call "ritual behavior" at home, such as having dinner with the whole family as much as possible; If there are family members celebrating their birthdays, they should try to be present. There is a fixed "round table" time every day, and the family sits together to eat fruit and chat. These "family rituals" observed and participated by family members can make the family atmosphere stronger and make people truly experience the happiness of the family.
Cultivate a good mood
The purpose of cultivating good emotions is not to prevent family members from losing their temper and getting angry, but to let everyone learn when to cry, when to laugh, how to cry and how to laugh. People with happy families usually live a relaxed life, but they are not presumptuous; Anyone can vent their emotions, but they can't become "emotional" because extreme "emotional" can easily lead to personal attacks. If there are contradictions at home, we can sit down and discuss them. Let one person speak for three minutes first, and then another person will speak again. If one of the parties is in an excited state, we should wait for a little calmness before talking, so as not to add bad words to the other party on the "fire head".
Avoid the problem of "right and wrong"
There is a couple whose husband grew up in a family with little money and lived frugally. My wife grew up in a relatively wealthy family, and her life is more exquisite. As a result, the two often have disputes over economic expenses, and finally their feelings break down. In fact, everyone has different values and consumption views because of their different growth backgrounds. There is no need to entangle who is right or wrong, but learn to coordinate and make concessions appropriately. When communicating such problems, couples should say, "I know what you think, but I have other ideas ..." We should calmly prepare the expenditure budget in advance and establish a correct consumption concept.
The above principles are conducive to the stability and harmony of the family. Both husband and wife should make their own efforts, communicate constantly and be polite to each other. I wish you happiness!