How to look at a smart person? Smart people are always particularly liked. A smart person will be very popular wherever he goes, because he will be a man, will say that he will arrive, and is very comfortable with things and emotions. Let's see how to look at a smart person.
How to see a person smart 1 There is still a certain difference between smart and smart. For example, cleverness is mostly reflected in small things, and there is a saying that people have to accept a point, which is derogatory. Smart people are smart in small things and confused in big things.
Pay more attention to the immediate gains and losses. It is difficult for such people to leave a good image for a long time. People often say that smart people are not smart because they are easy to offend for personal interests or make others feel uncomfortable.
Smart people like to get the upper hand in everything. He knows how to pave the way for anything and not let himself suffer a little loss, but over time it is often easy to make people feel disgusted and lose the trust and alienation of others.
Smart is smart when it is used on a person. But if it is used in a person's way of treating life, people who live well are often smarter. For example, when decorating a house, they will be very careful in material selection and all aspects, and strive to achieve the effect of 50 cents 1 yuan.
Life is lively, life is lonely. It is better to dance alone in your own world than to lose yourself in the busy crowd. Learning to be alone with yourself is a compulsory course in life. To put it bluntly, those useless social activities can't bring any pleasure and progress to one's spirit, feelings, work and life.
If you engage in useless social activities frequently, you will only waste time, energy and feelings. Therefore, useless social interaction is something that can be discarded for smart people. There is no need to make yourself tired. There are all kinds of fake compliments, fake smiles and fake constraints every day.
After all, life is short and time is precious. It is better to associate with people with special abilities or resources than with friends. Smart people prefer to be alone if they can't find it temporarily.
How can you tell that a person is smart and doesn't have a heart-to-heart relationship with someone you just met?
Modern society follows the law of the jungle (often referring to the survival of the fittest and the law of the jungle), and the communication between people is not as simple as you think. Not everyone can be "sincere for sincere, you are really me."
People who say simple words are often inexperienced, just entering the society, and need to continue polishing to see the other side of human nature. Really smart people have long seen through this before they can gain a foothold in society. So for people you just met, you never say anything, and you don't wonder about other people's secrets. Only in this way can they better protect themselves from being calculated and used by some people with ulterior motives.
On the other hand, we see some people who confide in everyone and want to tell all their secrets to outsiders. Such people are actually very simple, have no talent, and are also the most vulnerable people. I suggest you don't be sincere to anyone in the future, and throw out your "secret" as soon as you come up.
Wolf tells you, don't tell the secret to your good friends casually, because good friends also have good friends, and those who can drag you down are usually the closest people around you. This is not to teach you sinister, but to tell you reality.
2. Strong understanding and communication skills
Are you a likable person? Can you talk? In daily life, why do some people like to deal with smart people? It is because smart people have no difficulty in communication and know how to communicate with you comfortably. You know, the essence of communication is the transmission of information.
In the communication between ordinary people, many people just stay in the state of "ditch" and can't get through, but when talking to smart people, you don't need to be too clear at all, and often you only need to say half, so smart people will understand what you mean.
Even after listening patiently, according to the key points you just said, express your own views or the same views as you, so as to know people and let them have the psychology of "you know me".
At the same time, the other party will be impressed by the smart people, and their goodwill will increase, thus promoting the next work, communication, negotiation, dating, eating and so on.
3. Have the talent of "concentration"
I have to admit that smart people have a gift for concentration, so what is concentration?
Concentration, also known as attention, refers to a person's mental state when he is absorbed in something or an activity. At the same time, concentration is one of the conditions for individuals to improve "self-discipline". But this does not mean that smart people are diligent and can arrange themselves in order every day.
In fact, some smart people are still lazy. The only difference from ordinary people is that when a smart person does something, he will mobilize all his attention to finish it, much faster than ordinary people.
So smart people at work are efficient and know how to solve complex problems in the shortest time, so as to finish their work quickly.
4. Reject useless socializing and be good at being alone.
Low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude. Marquez wrote in "One Hundred Years of Solitude": "We tend to travel in the eternal journey of life, run in the ups and downs, get nirvana in setbacks, be covered with sorrow and suffer everywhere. We are tired, but we can't stop; We are bitter, but we can't avoid it. "
5, in the face of people smarter than yourself, don't be smart.
You know, there are people outside, and one day, people smarter than you are everywhere. Be a man, don't always think about taking advantage. Especially in the face of some people who are bigger and more powerful than themselves, we should be more cautious.
Because, a really smart person will not show that I am as smart as you, I will control my cleverness, and then associate with others modestly, respectfully and decently, and ask others for advice. Only stupid people overestimate their own evaluation and express arbitrary opinions.
Even when others are fools, they don't know that mantis catches cicada and yellowbird is behind. Therefore, such a smart-ass person belongs to cleverness, which has offended many people invisibly, exposed his fatal shortcomings, and cut off the back road at the same time.
How to see that a person is smart and has the ability to understand and communicate quickly?
Smart people often have the ability to understand and communicate with each other quickly. No matter what concept or topic you talk about, he can always grasp the effective information quickly and have his own opinions.
It's not that some people are naturally insensitive and slow to respond. When you communicate with them, they don't know how to put themselves in their shoes and what you want to express. The communication efficiency between you is very low.
Dealing with a person who is not smart enough often requires you to speak very clearly and directly, so that he can understand or even explain that you are still in a state of "chicken talking to duck" for a long time.
When dealing with smart people, a lot of words is enough. He understands your implication and your intention, and you feel more empathetic, which makes you feel very relaxed in communication.
Smart people, whether studying or dealing with others, have good understanding ability and always occupy a favorable position, which should not be underestimated.
Natural "concentration"
Nowadays, people are often easily influenced by the outside world, but they are distracted and often get fragments of knowledge. A lot of things are only a little knowledge, which seems to be known, but if you dig deeper, it will be exposed.
Smart people, as if they have a natural "concentration", can immerse themselves in something or even reach a state of flow, which will make them more focused on what they are doing, and the whole person will become wiser and more insightful.
Lin Leier in Little Joy is a person with high IQ. We have seen him concentrate on his studies. When walking, he can immerse himself in reciting flight information, just to train his memory and even play chess with himself. Sure enough, the world of high IQ people is difficult for ordinary people to understand.
Concentration can make a person better accept new things and improve the efficiency of solving problems, while some people are always overstaffed, fidgeting and always in a hurry, while a smart person can make detailed plans and complete tasks quickly with high efficiency.
Have their own goal orientation and be able to manage time well.
If a man has no goal of his own, he is like a ship sailing in the sea. Without the guidance of the lighthouse, he will soon lose himself, become mediocre and live in fear all day long.
However, a smart person can always be independent. He can always look at himself from a height, look at the surrounding environment, find his own position, have a strong goal orientation, arrange his own time reasonably, and move towards the goal step by step.
Some people always fantasize about reaching heaven in one step and are unwilling to make corresponding efforts. This is actually a fable, and smart people are often more pragmatic and low-key, knowing that "opportunities always favor those who are prepared", and they are often more able to hide their talents and be more self-disciplined.
He can always arrange his work and life well, stick to his dream for ten years and save his strength. Such people tend to seize opportunities easily and make a blockbuster.
When some people worry and fantasize all day, smart people have found their goals and can make corresponding preparations around their goals. His life is always planned, full of hope and full of struggle.
Don't be willful, but learn to accept all rivers.
At any time, you must understand that there are people outside and there are days behind. You are smart, but there are many people who are smarter and more knowledgeable than you. It's just that many times, you will blindly think that this is the world.
Wayward people often come to no good end. Overconceit is the beginning of retrogression and is unpopular with others.
A really smart person is always modest and prudent, knowing that the world is infinite. Many smart people are always willing to accept teaching with an open mind when interacting with others, so as to gain more new knowledge, improve themselves better and go further.
Whether in reality or in TV series, those who are willful and arrogant often have no food to eat. When he thought he was number one in the world, his road was blocked.
Conclusion:
Everyone wants to be smart and capable, but no matter what your natural qualifications are, you can improve on the existing basis. Some people are naturally smart, but they are headstrong and often face failure in the end.
However, a less talented person can constantly improve his cognitive and understanding abilities, improve his concentration and grow into a smart person through acquired efforts.
No matter to what extent, don't give up on yourself. But through our own efforts, we should constantly improve and improve ourselves. More importantly, you should deal with smart people and squeeze into excellent circles. Your life will be really different from now on.