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Many girls are worried about how to get along with their mother-in-law before they get married. They have seen her misery on TV and heard many wonderful things that her mother-in-law has done in the mouth of married people.
However, after falling in love, I also heard my boyfriend boast, such as: "My mother is not a traditional person." "In what era, mothers-in-law like TV were performers." "My mother said that when I got married, she would not participate in our small family. I am happy and she is happy. "
When we talk about it, we feel proud and always declare, "My mother is the best."
And many mother-in-law will hold hands and ask questions when they meet a girl who may be a future daughter-in-law for the first time. They will say what they want to eat, and aunt will cook it for you. At that moment, her mother-in-law showed her true feelings, and the girl was warm and glad that she had a good mother-in-law.
But after marriage, it changed. The once kind mother-in-law somehow became a boring "tolerant mother".
As long as I do one thing for you, I will let you remember her kindness endlessly. And give her a chance, she will tell you directly what to do and integrate into your life. It's also very tactful to treat you as a daughter.
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The surface between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seems calm, but in fact there is hidden turmoil. Everyone complains in private. This is a problem that exists in many families.
It is hard to say who is right or wrong. It is also understandable to criticize and blame each other. Perhaps the last thing you should do is that your mother-in-law says that you are your daughter, so you are really rude and treat her as your own mother.
Everything she does for you is not because she loves you, but because she loves her son.
You know, except your parents, what others have done to you must be taken back.
I still remember such a gentle scene in the TV series "Double-sided Adhesive". Li Juan, a Shanghai girl played by Christina, married Yaping, a Phoenix man, and lived a happy life after marriage.
After her mother-in-law came home, she bought food, cooked, cleaned, stayed up late to make sofa cover for light-colored sofas, and even cleaned Li Juan's underwear, which brought Li Juan a full touch.
It just changed after a long time. My mother-in-law began to complain that Li Juan went to the gym without doing much housework and that Li Juan spent a lot of money. Later, only her son specialized in cooking at home, otherwise it was leftovers.
Finally, the contradiction escalated and the fight was raging.
The result may be that Li Juan took her simple and kind mother-in-law as her own mother at first, which caused her mother-in-law's dissatisfaction.
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As a mother, I have no regrets for my children, from my heart. Love for others may be true, but at least it needs to be returned.
Only in front of parents can you be spoiled at will.
We can't enjoy other people's love because we need something in return.
Only by keeping others' kindness to themselves in mind can the relationship last forever.
I watched a TV program to promote positive energy mainly in the form of "thanks and apologies". One of her mother-in-law explained that she looked down on her daughter-in-law from the countryside because she was a city dweller. I usually live under the same roof and don't even look at her.
Although the daughter-in-law was wronged, there was no conflict with her.
It was not until my father-in-law became ill and my daughter-in-law ran before and after that that my mother-in-law discovered her daughter-in-law's goodness.
Later, her mother-in-law changed her attitude towards her daughter-in-law, and they got along like mother and daughter. Although I experienced some unpleasantness at first, I was lucky to have a good day.
My mother-in-law sincerely apologized for what she had done before in the program. The daughter-in-law also generously said that things were not that serious, and they were all family members.
It's just that many in-laws and daughters-in-law have never crossed this hurdle in their lives. Some are like enemies, and some are superficial.
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Perhaps the daughter-in-law did not get warm feedback when she entered the door, and it gradually became cold. Perhaps the mother-in-law met her daughter-in-law who didn't know how to return, and she complained more. Two people never get along well.
Sometimes, the more people you don't like, the more it is, the more wrong it is. The longer time goes by, the more contradictions there are, and the harder it is to get happiness day after day.
If everyone is like the mother-in-law in the program, they will have an epiphany. For the sake of the person you love, do some retrogression and find the other person's good, and life will be much more harmonious in the future.
It is not the mother-in-law relationship of a family at all, and it depends entirely on the cultivation of feelings in the later period.
A mother-in-law wants to ask her daughter-in-law as a mother, hoping that she can really treat her daughter-in-law as a daughter. If she is only under the banner of being good for her son, it will disrupt the life of the young couple, and the loss will outweigh the gain.
Many mother-in-law crossed the line and took care of too much. After being refuted, she still has to pose as an elder. "I treat you as a daughter, can't I talk about you?"
In fact, everyone knows that if they were really treated as daughters, they would not complain so much.
If a daughter-in-law wants to be respected in her husband's family, she must first respect herself. No one should do anything for you, and all the efforts of others need your equal feedback.
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Many people complain that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not easy to get along with, but there are still many families with good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and in these families, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has universal similarities.
Whether the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together, first of all, the mother-in-law as an elder will not ask too much of her daughter-in-law. It is necessary to understand that young people nowadays have their own lifestyles and ideas. Secondly, she does not treat her daughter-in-law as the head of the family, nor does she pretend to be an experienced person to interfere in the marriage between her daughter-in-law and her son. Finally, a daughter-in-law is filial and kind to her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law should not take her daughter-in-law's kindness for granted, or even strut and dislike her daughter-in-law for not doing well enough.
Accordingly, a daughter-in-law should be filial to her mother-in-law, but not picky about what her mother-in-law does. It is normal for two generations to disagree. If you want to take care of everything, your family will be in chaos; Mother-in-law is kind to daughter-in-law, and daughter-in-law should be grateful. Even your own mother should be grateful for your kindness, instead of taking your mother-in-law's kindness for granted. A mother-in-law's temperament can't be like a daughter-in-law's mind, and a daughter-in-law should understand that after all, you are not a person who can do everything perfectly.
There is a generation gap between two women, because * * * fell in love with a man and became a family. It is inevitable that there will be contradictions and differences. As a middleman, the son and husband should play a role of lubrication, so that the relationship between the wife and the mother is getting better and better, instead of avoiding or blindly favoring one side when encountering problems, making the contradiction worse.
Finally, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not related by blood, so it is not easy to be like mother and daughter. Only when the two sides are in the right position can the family be stable.
This article originated from The Story of a Flower Shadow. Huaying story, the story in your heart, wakes you up at dawn and sleeps with you at night.