Take the pulse first and find out the "problem" because the parties are fascinated and the onlookers see clearly.
As an outsider or bystander, before effective mediation, we must find out the main reasons for the divorce of friends and husbands, as well as their different ideas and views on divorce, so as to know ourselves and know ourselves.
The second is to distinguish the situation and find out the countermeasures. If divorce is caused by a matter of principle, mediation is relatively difficult.
However, as friends, we must speak, reason and do things with a clear conscience;
If it is a divorce involving family conflicts or trivial matters of life, such a "divorce" is much cry and little rain, and the face of "bluffing" is great, and the possibility of successful mediation is relatively high.
According to different situations, find out different mediation countermeasures.
Third, the focus of separate mediation breaks through marriage mediation, generally in the order of easy first and difficult later.
The divorce "strong desire, strong will" as the key mediation object, the implementation of key mediation key breakthrough.
The more such a person is, the more obvious his weakness will be exposed, and the more accurately he or she can grasp his or her "soft rib".
For example, the more people say they don't care about feelings and face, the more (right) they value feelings and face than anyone else. This is his (her) weakness or "soft spot".
After the ideological work of the key targets is done well, the ideological work of the other party will be solved.
In the process of mediation, as a mediator, we must pay attention to carefulness, patience and sincerity, and never be irritable or impatient; We must convince people with emotion and convince people with reason, so as to impress and move the heart of the mediated person.
The fourth is to seek external forces and unite and cooperate. If the divorce between a friend and her husband is complicated and beyond her ability, she should actively seek external mediation.
Mainly to seek the help of people who have weight and prestige around friends or respected people in friends' relatives.
With their assistance, we can get twice the result with half the effort and greatly increase the chances of successful mediation.
There are still many ways to mediate divorce, so it is necessary to analyze the specific situation and find out the reasons.