After reading a breathing class, I feel that "Breathing Class" begins with a small dialogue between husband and wife and ends with a small dialogue between husband and wife.
Closing the book suddenly reminds me of a nursery rhyme? Why do you want a wife? It's really like this to turn off the lights and sleep. This is the most everyday life. When I think about it, I may not remember what I did this day. Anyway, I'm busy and not idle, and everything is fragmented. At first glance, I think it's exaggerated, but when I look at it, I feel very realistic. Exaggeration means that one day in this book is not the couple's daily life; Reality, but it feels unusual, but it's also unusual. Writing always starts with something a little special.
The heroine is typical and divergent, and all her remarks are illogical. The man is still dealing with her last question in a panic, but her thoughts have drifted to another planet that men can never reach. Men can never fathom a woman's inner play, no matter the beginning or the specific content. But men are obviously used to coping, and the so-called coping is absent-minded. This is what women can detect most, so another divergent segment dialogue begins again.
This kind of life sometimes makes you feel unbearable for a moment, thinking? Hurt my heart more today? But the next moment, at the thought of leaving or losing, I couldn't help feeling so sad that I immediately felt another unbearable life, and I wanted to leave or lose again.
This beauty is life, fireworks and warmth. After all, there is no ancient tomb, no cold jade bed, and no little dragon girl who has studied the Heart Sutra herself. So, in this world, I need this thing to simmer in my chest every day.
You don't have to sublimate too much, and you don't have to sit in the right position. There are always a few minutes in your life that coincide with this book.
After watching the breathing class, I feel that I need to breathe every minute of my life, but we have never had a breathing class. Just like our growth, love, marriage and later parenthood, these things are closely related to us, but we all seem to be used to self-exploration without guidance and courses. So there are always many bumps in life, and there are always so many regrets and helpless experiences. Ann? Taylor noticed the trivial and boring details in these lives, which always touched people's nerves but often made people give up, so a "breathing lesson" about ordinary married life was born.
This is a rare novel, and the protagonist in it makes me very bored. The novel revolves around Maggie's going to the funeral of her long-time friend's husband. Maggie began to argue with her husband from the beginning of the story. It may not be appropriate to argue because it has always been a common argument and explanation between the two people. But these common excuses somehow touched my nerves. I didn't like Maggie from the beginning. Then the journey deepened my impression, such as driving the car out and hitting it, pretending that the ostrich ran away. I forgot to bring my map, because my husband's whistle started another quarrel. She tells others what to do while driving and talks about her personal life and feelings with the clerk she just met. All this, Maggie's behavior is hard not to be boring.
But if Maggie was simple, stupid, ignorant and bad-tempered, maybe I wouldn't be so bored with her. What bothers me is not only her dissatisfaction with her behavior, but also her understanding and sympathy for Maggie. Maggie is a warm-hearted and kind person, so she has strong empathy, which is why she can always get to know strangers quickly. She is willing to help others, so on the way, that is, when she almost caused them to have an accident, Maggie found that an old man had driven them off the road and hurried back to tell him that she was just joking to express her anger. Although such behavior seems thankless.
Maggie is such a boring person that she can't help but understand a little. In fact, the real characters in life are so much. There is no black and white, and there is no big rape. Everyone has his own shortcomings and advantages. Every marriage has its own happiness and its own lament. Maggie portrayed in the novel is so real that people have too much sense of substitution and such a strong sense of boredom.
The main story line of the novel revolves around the theme of going to the funeral, but the time span of the story is not limited to this day. The author inserted many memories, but each memory was arranged just right. Maggie's memory of her and her husband Ella comes from a wedding recording played by a friend, and her memory of her son Jesse and her daughter-in-law Fiona comes from a visit to Fiona. Stories are deepened by memories, and the characters' personalities are fuller and more informative because of these memories.
But these memories also show us a constant fear. Maggie's past determines her future. She will choose Ella as a husband and a nursing home worker, all of which come from her kindness, empathy and naive stupidity. We like her, and we are bored with her. This is the contradiction that life brings us.
But life is like this, and so is marriage. I think some of my boredom comes from self-reflection and cognition. Novels let us spy on other people's lives, but in the end we spy on our own hearts.
After watching the breathing class, couples will have contradictions, disputes and opinions in their daily lives. Most of them are innocuous little things, such as socks lying about, things lying about, and the table not being cleaned up. Men generally don't care about these small corners, while women tend to focus on small details because of their delicate hearts, thus blaming their husbands for why they can't put down their socks and why they don't put things back. Men and women's concerns are often not on the same channel. The woman is more emotional and the man is more rational.
For example, when driving, there are some new female drivers around us. When driving for the first time, the husband in the passenger seat likes to point at your skills, accusing you of driving in the wrong way and accusing you of never stepping on the brakes. If the woman scratches the car carelessly, he will chatter about it for a while, and the woman who makes trouble will be very anxious and will inevitably quarrel.
Men's and women's brains are similar, but the parts that control feelings are somewhat different. Men and women express their feelings in different ways: men tend to act when they are emotional, while women tend to express their feelings. Women speak better than men and use more words than men.
Men and women have different attitudes towards love. If you treat love blindly from the perspective of one person in love or marriage, then such love will not last long. Therefore, many marriage and love experts remind men and women that they must look at love from each other's perspective. Many times, men pay attention to results and women pay attention to results. By analogy, there are always some subtle differences between men and women in the world of love.
Women like to talk about feelings. Men don't like it They prefer to talk about football or current affairs and politics. When women are dissatisfied with men, they often use the topic to go online. Men like to talk about things as they are, and they will never think of the tragic end of water shortage and thirst in the country just because you have taken a bath for two hours, so as to conclude that you have ulterior motives.
Breathing class is actually a family marriage class. Eller and Maggie's quarrel and bickering are staged in every family, but their personalities are different and the results are different.
Some couples regard quarreling as a pleasure in life. As long as they can quarrel, their marriage can continue to operate.
If there is no communication and no quarrel between husband and wife, it means that their marriage is in crisis.
Two people have been together for a long time, and gradually turned their initial love into family affection. The words and deeds of the other party can no longer be familiar, and they will gradually get bored. If you want to maintain a long-term marriage relationship, you should add romance, humor and interest. Will make marriage no longer monotonous, boring and boring. Try to do something for each other on Valentine's Day and birthday.
Traveling is something that many people yearn for. The feeling of husband and wife traveling is absolutely different. Especially for some challenging tours, two people in different places will naturally understand how to take care of each other and appreciate each other's advantages. At the same time, as long as there are more memories, we can know each other more clearly and understand each other, and the feelings between two people will be better!
In any case, how much fate has contributed to the formation of a family. So don't talk lightly even if there are contradictions, difficulties and quarrels? Divorce? . If you make a wrong choice because of a quarrel and divorce, you will really regret it for a lifetime.