We wear masks to work hard in the workplace, walk in the society, be conscientious and tread on thin ice. If we continue to tighten our nerves and hide our vulnerability in front of our closest lover, in the long run, the two of us can only go further and further.
The highest level of getting along with your lover is relaxation.
In fact, behind relaxation is a strong sense of security. You are confident in this relationship, so that you can live a relaxed posture.
Fruit is extremely insecure in marriage. A high-ranking husband who thinks he will turn away at any time makes her live more and more tired and dare not relax.
"To tell you the truth, I have hidden a vacuum in my heart for many years; These days, I realized that there was a little air leakage in this vacuum, and a warm and happy fresh air seemed to leak in. Filling this vacuum, on the one hand, is great happiness, on the other hand, it also brings a lot of troubles ... I only know that I have been completely captured by you! Scared? -it is not easy to succeed. "
This disgusting love letter was written by the architect Liang Sicheng. However, the recipient is not his wife, the goddess Lin, but an ordinary-looking woman, his second wife.
Liang Sicheng, 6 1 year-old, married Lin in the seventh year after his death, despite the fierce opposition of his children, and revealed in his letter that he was not happy these years.
Liang Sicheng even said frankly: "I don't deny that being with Lin is sometimes very tired."
Liang Sicheng and Lin, in the eyes of outsiders, are a virtuous and like-minded couple. They, who are also engaged in architecture, once went deep into wilderness areas to investigate and measure ancient buildings and protect and publicize them, regardless of the harsh environment and conditions;
In addition, they also like to give each other questions and play the game "See who has a good memory". By investigating which sculpture comes from which grotto and which poem comes from whose collection of poems, life is actually full of interest.
However, Lin's light is too dazzling and her talent is too outstanding. The beauty of the poet and the rigor of the scientist are just right for her.
She understands her charm and enjoys being sought after by it. There are many admirers around her, from Xu Zhimo to Jin.
Living with Lin, Liang Sicheng is really hard. In order to keep up with Lin's active thinking, he needs to keep an agile mind at all times. In addition, he has to face a bunch of excellent admirers who have a headache for him. Therefore, he would comment on Lin: "It is not easy to be her husband."
This marriage has brought him more pressure than happiness, because he needs to be vigilant at all times and never dares to relax.