The weak always like to live in groups to keep warm, while the strong naturally like to walk alone.
Sometimes, others just don't want to associate with them. When a person has a higher pursuit, he looks out of place in the crowd. Eagles don't stay with weak chickens. Some people are suitable to fight alone.
Lin Yutang wrote in "The Wind is Trembling": "No struggle is a great struggle; If you don't argue, everyone in the world won't argue with it. "
When a person lives a clear and transparent life, does not expect things that do not belong to him, and does not struggle for meaningless things, life enters another realm.
Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu are unsociable people. They don't fight for fame and fortune. They only work hard in their own fields, but let their lives be envied by everyone.
At that time, people didn't attach importance to women and thought that women couldn't learn much, but Mr. Jiang Yang was different. Not only was she admitted to Tsinghua, but she persisted in studying after graduation and eventually became a generation.
Her three of us tells an ordinary story of "life is not just chicken feathers, but also delicious shrimps" in extremely vivid language.
In books, you can see true love.
They have suffered a lot in life, but in Mr. Jiang Yang's works, time is not important at all.
Probably because they have never forced themselves to blend in, cater to anyone, and only live their own lives, time will be particularly gentle.
02.
In fact, gregarious means you are ordinary, because everyone has the same thinking and views when facing problems. This can be unified. Once there are different views in this group, they will be regarded as different.
But it is this different view that is needed in real life. Only by having different voices can we improve our society step by step.
Jiang Yang went through a dark period in China. At that time, many scholars chose to go abroad for refuge, but only Mr. and Mrs. Jiang Yang chose to stay at home at the most critical time to contribute to the rise of China. Such courage is our example. Without the selfless dedication of our predecessors, there can be no prosperity of the new China.
People should keep their own independent thoughts, and don't follow the crowd if they are not afraid of being gregarious. Sometimes the truth is in the hands of a few people.
Just as Zhao Gao called a deer a horse, he forced people in the imperial court to take sides and called a deer a horse in front of the emperor. Although everyone knows it is a deer, they still praise it as a good horse. This so-called gregarious, in fact, is to reverse right and wrong.
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As we all know, people are awesome, but it is also great to stick to your own ideas and not go with the flow in this environment. It is easy to choose to fit in, but it is difficult to find another way.
If you don't fit in, you should learn to endure loneliness and enjoy the happiness of the spiritual world in your own life.
As the saying goes, summer insects are not ice. People in two worlds don't need to talk at all.
Even if you lower yourself to cater to others, such gregarious will not bring you happiness. In fact, such gregarious does not make you a better person.
Even if people around you say that women are virtuous and talented, many good friends do live a life of taking care of their husbands and educating their children early, but are you satisfied with your life?
Everyday life revolves around children and the kitchen. Is this really the life you want?
It is better to choose not to be sociable and stick to your hobbies if you like reading. The world in the book is vast. Stick to it, you will find yourself getting better and better, and people will reach a new realm.
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There are not a few modern people who are forced to get married. Just after graduation, I was arranged by my family to go on a blind date, so I didn't have time to start my own business and realize my ideals and ambitions.
And the blind date is not the person you like, so hasty marriage has become an example for everyone, because if you get married, you can get married after graduation, and you will become Zhong Hequn. It seems that if you don't get married, you will be out of place with the crowd, so don't stay in Zhong Hequn.
Marriage should be with the person you love, not to cope with your parents, hastily entrust your life to the inappropriate person and finally divorce.
Be sure to stick to your inner principles, and the rest of your life will be long. Only with the people we love can we work together for life.
The same is true of Mr Jiang Yang's meeting with Qian Zhongshu. Before meeting Qian Zhongshu, Mr. Jiang Yang never thought about getting married, and Mr. Qian Zhongshu never thought about getting married before meeting Mr. Jiang Yang.
If you meet a lover, you should get married before starting a career. Marriage and entrepreneurship are not contradictory. As long as you are the person you like, it doesn't matter if you meet again.
It is precisely because Mr. Jiang Yang and Mr. Qian Zhongshu are "unsociable" that there are more topics between them.
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The world loves money, and gentlemen love money. Their attitudes towards this matter are the same.
Therefore, during his study abroad, the excellent Mr. Qian Zhongshu met many money temptations, but all of them refused, keeping a friendship with the people.
Even if life is rather embarrassing, I will never stoop for five buckets of rice. Others may look a little pedantic, but China's backbone is supported by literati like Mr. Qian Zhongshu.
As for Mr. Jiang Yang, she supports him unreservedly and trusts him. She disdains to associate with others, and is willing to wash away the lead and be a "maid under the stove" for Mr. Qian Zhongshu.
Life is a matter for two people, and has nothing to do with others. It is enough for them to know whether they are doing well or not, and there is no need to seek approval from others.
They are true soul mates, and they know each other best. They don't cater to others, don't smile at people they don't like, and just live a quiet little life with peace of mind.
This free and easy, this calm, enviable.
As Mr. Jiang Yang once said, "I don't argue with anyone, and I don't care who I argue with."
Probably because I have seen through life and have my own unique understanding of life, I will say such free and easy words.
As long as you are with the person you love, what else is important?
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In the end, the three of us separated. Mr. Jiang Yang wrote, "I miss the time when the three of us are alone."
The person who knows her best and can tolerate her most in this world is gone. Maybe no one can understand her unsociable, but so what?
As long as someone once walked into her heart, pointed out her indisputable, understood her unsociable, and tolerated her small temper, it was enough.
People's choices are always interfered by the outside world. If you have other ideas, you will be said to be unsociable, but it is difficult to make a big breakthrough because you always follow the inertia thinking.
So if you want to start a business or become an excellent person, you will be regarded as an unsociable person by others.
All "loners" are controversial, just as Mr. Qian Zhongshu insisted on staying at the beginning.
It is because of his persistence and his unsociable manner that Fortress Besieged was published.
"Being unsociable" means being yourself. Gregarious people will only disturb their true colors with noisy voices. From today on, be an "unsociable" person.