From this point of view, Ma Yili has never been used to being attached to other people's little women. The self-reliance and self-improvement in her bones will make the people who eat melons have the illusion that she can get out of any predicament.
Actually, it's not.
When we thought that Ma Yili was still calm and wise in the face of marital changes, in fact, her disguised heart was already scarred.
Recently, she talked about her life and her feelings after divorce in an interview. Only then did I find that no matter how powerful a woman is, she will be fragile in front of her feelings.
Ma Yili admits that great changes have taken place in his life. She thinks she suffers from procrastination. She is in a trance every day and can't lift her spirits. She once doubted whether she was a positive person. ...
Sometimes sadness is like this. When it just pokes into the heart, it won't react, but as time goes on, the wound will get more and more painful, and finally it will change from the inside out until I realize "Oh, I'm not who I used to be", and then I will feel weak.
On the other hand, is it a disaster for a woman to have a rough road? But in Ma Yili, I saw another possibility, that is, disaster, and maybe rebirth.
0 1 There is no denying that marriage is very painful.
Marriage is never a simple matter, it can quickly break a person's life. From then on, there are only two stages in life: "unmarried" and "married".
There is no doubt that when everyone enters marriage, they all leave with eternal thoughts. There is no marriage without love in this world.
How can you live under one roof without love?
What supports two people facing each other day and night and having dinner together? No matter how much interest there is, it can't hide the throbbing in my heart at a certain moment.
So the unhappy ending of marriage has obviously become the biggest disappointment in life. Even if the people inside are successful and well-fed, the harm caused by misfortune will not be reduced by foreign objects.
Ma Yili's marriage is not optimistic, because the article is not as famous as her, and she is younger. Traditionally, they are a very inappropriate couple.
Of course, every young person who is deeply in love has endless rebellious impulses. The article named the child "Ma", which was the culmination of this rebellion.
Unfortunately, impulse is just impulse. It can't stop the noise around it, and it can't cover up the speed at which loyalty collapses.
As a result, Ma Yili was pushed to the forefront. When the article broke about betraying marriage, people all over the Internet were waiting for Ma Yili's attitude. Will she choose forgiveness or divorce?
Everyone was stirred up by a trial called "Three Views" and all gathered on a weak woman.
It must have been painful for Ma Yili to be betrayed. It was hard for her to choose at first. After all, she has to take care of young children, so when the golden sentence "Do it and cherish it" came out, she won sympathy and goodwill in an instant.
However, her inner suffering is only known to herself. After all, every married woman doesn't want to suffer such a "catastrophe", and the pain it brings is bound to accompany her life.
It's better to scrape the bones and heal the wounds than to move forward in pain.
I watched the second season of the hit variety "Actor in Place" the other day. Yan Ni's daughter Zou Yuanqing cried when the director commented. She said that her mother was lonely and needed company.
There is no doubt that Yan Ni is divorced.
Life experience will inevitably have an impact on a person's personality, spirit and living conditions, but it is followed imperceptibly. The pain brought by divorce is not to say "I can forget", but to forget it immediately when it doesn't exist.
However, marriage is full of sores and pus, and patience is definitely the next choice. The correct way is always to scrape the bones and heal the wounds. I would rather be single with high quality than torture each other.
So, Ma Yili finally chose to part ways with the article, and she started shooting again. When she was a hostess, one hit after another, and people were willing to turn their initial sympathy into admiration.
Because what Ma Yili did was the representative of independent women, she never relied on others from beginning to end, nor did she cry and complain because of the unfortunate marriage.
After marriage, she can take off her combat uniform and return to her family. After the divorce, she can also go into battle in armor and stand up again. She can even admit her inner pain and loneliness at that time and accept her fragile self without avoiding others' eyes.
Because of my work, I can come into contact with many unhappy women. They are at a loss in their precarious marriage, resenting the other half, blaming themselves and taking it out on their children.
They vent their emotions in various ways, but they just forget or dare not choose divorce and encourage themselves to stand up and start a new life.
Life is so long, one more second to escape, one more minute to suffer, and one less second to be happy and chic.
Therefore, instead of moving forward in a painful marriage, it is better to scrape the bones and heal the wounds and choose independence. At least you are responsible for your own life, and you have a chance to get out of another world.
Women should remember never to look back.
Among many divorced female stars, except Ma Yili, I admire Yang Mi the most: If you can't get married, get married.
Yang Mi once said: "Never look back, looking back is a particularly meaningless thing".
I am convinced that the past is over. Looking back, except complaining and despair, it doesn't help the present and the future. What's more, marriage is something that one can't decide right or wrong. The more I look back, the sadder I feel.
Time flies, always moving forward, and what every woman should learn most is to look into the distance. Maybe marriage has brought you unacceptable pain, but you have to believe that in every disaster, there is always a chance to give you a new life.
As long as you are strong, brave, optimistic and positive, nothing can beat you.