With the development of social economy and the improvement of quality of life, more and more students are found to be in "puppy love". At this time, parents must not punch, kick or exert heavy pressure, as this will only be counterproductive. So when a child shows signs of "puppy love" or has already fallen in love "puppy", what should parents do?
1. Let children develop the habit of being willing to tell their parents when something happens from an early age.
This can make children feel that you can understand them, stand in their shoes, and use their perspectives and ideas to analyze the situations they face.
Parents must adopt a democratic education method so that you can know what they really think. And this is very important for cultivating children's cheerful personality and creative ability.
2. Acknowledge the physical and psychological state of adolescence and provide necessary guidance.
When you have a harmonious relationship with your children, it will be easier to communicate with each other, and your children will also tell you their thoughts. Regarding the changes that occur during adolescence, we might as well "break through the peep show" and let children understand that their privacy is what it is. This will reduce the interference of intentional or unintentional embellishments on normal education.
3. Provide guidance on a correct outlook on life.
Love is always the theme of literature, but human life is not all about love. It involves the ideals and ambitions of life. Outlook on life will also be an important criterion for choosing your favorite partner in the future. If we strengthen the guidance of a correct outlook on life, it may be possible to suppress behaviors brought about by sexual needs that may not be in line with social norms. However, the education of outlook on life is a long-term accumulation process, and it cannot be achieved by digging a well when thirsty. In other words, education about puppy love occurs long before it occurs.
4. Teach children how to identify others, especially the opposite sex
People say that first love is wonderful and a game for boys and girls. In the eyes of children, the object of first love cannot be a perfect person. The reason is that the special feelings for the opposite sex obscure the reality. Therefore, teaching children how to get rid of the influence of subtle emotions to identify the opposite sex, and encouraging them to make more friends of the opposite sex will help to identify the opposite sex and control themselves. Education in this area seems to be best based on social knowledge and novels.
5. Understand society and marriage.
Due to the sensationalism of romantic novels and movies, children often lack understanding of real society and marriage. If you take children who are prone to puppy love to observe the families of relatives and friends, go to the civil affairs office where divorce procedures are handled to understand what real marriage is like, and then discuss it together, perhaps most of the children will escape from the beautiful dream. .
If children in adolescence look at it from the depth of their hearts rather than just from their behavioral performance, puppy love is normal for teenagers, and parents do not need to regard it as a heinous sin of rebellion. High pressure can have serious consequences.
When dealing with children’s early love issues, it is more important to guide them away than to stop them