If you use self-deprecation in the right way, your charm will double
1. Be realistic when making complaints
1. Scene
Once I met someone I didn’t know very well. I went to have dinner with my colleague. She is super thin. From a distance, she looks like a fat and skinny monk like the Living Buddha Ji Kilometer. When you see the reflection in the glass door, you can't help but say, "X, you are so thin, you have the figure of a female star."
2. Avoid: forcing self-deprecation and confusing "right and wrong"
eg. She may be a little panicked, and quickly said: "I am still thin, I think I am so fat, I have gained a lot of weight." It’s heavy.” It does not conform to objective facts and instead arouses resentment.
3. Yi: Find the harmless and real point of complaint
eg. "It may not be a female star, it could be Song Xiaobao. Look at me, I am short and I have tanned recently." ,Ha ha".
4. Benefits
She is indeed a bit petite, but compared to forcefully saying that she is fat, saying this makes her feel much more comfortable, and it immediately brings her closer, otherwise she will fall into a deeper relationship. Awkward dialogue cycle, "What should I do if you are still fat? "I don't think you are fat."
2. Self-consistent self-deprecation and self-deprecation
1. Scene
Once, when colleagues were having a casual chat at lunch, A said, "I found that children nowadays are quite tall. Now that their living conditions are better, they can go out to play ball from time to time." B said, "We could do it at that time, you are I didn’t go to that xx middle school..." In fact, no one cueC, this is what he said at the time.
2. Avoid: twisting the tongue, asking for emotional value in disguise/invisible rose attack
< p>eg. "It's not like my family's conditions were not good when I was a child. It was good to have food to eat. It's not like you all went to aristocratic schools since you were young. There's no comparison." "(He really makes people a little speechless).3. Suitable: Sincere and humorous
eg. "Don't complain about my height, or I'll jump up and hit you on the knee. "(This is what Wu Yi said, an embarrassment was easily resolved by him, and I really laughed for a long time).
4. Benefits
People who can accept their own shortcomings are often willing to do better. Describing one's shortcomings in an exaggerated and comedic way, because at the same time it provides happiness to the audience, and everyone's acceptance is very high. From the audience's point of view, I don't care whether he is short or not, I just think this person is very interesting. Very extra points.
3. If you are hacking, please only hack yourself
1. Scenario
Yes, it is still the same C. Once, the leader asked for help in the group. , who has a standard house rental contract template? You happened to have saved one before and sent it to the group. The leader was very grateful, but he came out and said it.
2. Avoid: avoid the important and ignore the important, force excuses, and take others along< /p>
eg. “Oh, gold shines everywhere, unlike us, a piece of scrap metal that gets in the way everywhere. "The group was silent, because the leaders were all in the group, and it was quite embarrassing. I don't know if he was embarrassed or not.
3. Yi: Demand yourself according to your own standards
eg. Later, a guy who had a good relationship with him came out and said, "Hey, don't do this, at least remove the word "."
4. Pay attention
What else is there. Age, standards for fatness, etc., everyone has different standards. If you ask others to use your own standards, it is easy to be criticized. After all, why do you represent me alone?
4. Tips for making fun of yourself< /p>
1. Generally speaking, you must pass the test and don’t be self-deprecating.
2. Respect the facts, don’t be falsely modest, don’t pretend when you are envied by others, and don’t let the other person talk about you in a flattering way. Repeatedly, standing on the opposite side and letting the other party vent their frustrations is also a way to maintain a balance between the two parties. Of course, the premise is that the relationship between the two parties is good.
3. There is a bit of non-seriousness in the seriousness. Being immoral does not affect being serious. Exposing one's small shortcomings does not affect the overall situation. Small shortcomings can bring people closer to each other and increase their goodwill.
4. It is best to laugh at yourself and others in the overall situation. After you have passed the test of good feelings, do it with the icing on the cake. At the same time, pay attention to propriety and occasion in the work scene.