I sympathize with you very much. In this kind of experience, there are indeed many things where mental illness is more frightening than physical illness.
No matter what, there are still children and there is hope. You must do your best to raise your children. This is the responsibility and unshirkable obligation of being a man.
Everything will be fine for you, as long as you have the strength and responsibility in your heart, and the happiness your child brings to you will slowly fade away from this pain over time.
Come on
First of all, postpartum depression is caused by the husband not taking good care of his wife. Don’t blame me for speaking more directly. Your wife’s postpartum depression is your biggest problem. You should take good care of yourself. Reflect on yourself.
Second, comfort your wounded heart, now that it’s over. I am sorry for your loss.
Third, your wife bought the child with her own life. Be a responsible father and raise the child.
Fourth, the road to life is still long and not easy. Children are the continuation of your and your wife’s lives. If you really love your wife, have the courage to cherish life more than before. After all, children You are the only person closest to me in this world.
Fifth, no matter how hard it is, never commit suicide or give up on yourself.
Finally, I wish and hope that the child will grow up safely.
When I saw this question, I felt very heavy and uncomfortable because this is a topic for us women.
Many women may experience depression after childbirth. Possibly during childbirth, pregnancy. After experiencing some unpleasant things, I feel very irritable and some are worried. Also, I just can’t think about it anymore and am always immersed in the past. This is called depression.
As for these, if the family members found out in time, they would have already provided psychological counseling and comfort. Some women have mild depression, while others have severe depression. In his mind, it is easy to get into trouble. There are some things that I can't always think about. If you can't think about it, you will end your life.
Judging from the questions you asked, you have deep feelings for your lover. Her spirit in heaven will be grateful to you. If you really love your lover and he is no longer here, then what worries him the most is. You have a baby. I don’t know if your baby is just born or how old is it? If you take good care of your children, you will gain affection.
Whether it’s just one person, find another suitable one. No matter who you are as a wife, it is your job to take care of your children and cultivate your talents. That takes money to raise children. You can leave your children to your parents to take care of yourself and work hard to make money. Fight for the children. Do your best to give your children a good education.
You have to stand up and take responsibility! That's what you should do now.
A woman’s life will be completely different after giving birth to a child
I gave birth to a child at the age of 21 (now 36). At that time, I could say that I was not sensible at all and felt that I Before I grew up, I gave birth to another child. After I got pregnant, my husband sent me back to their home. From the time I was pregnant to the time I was raising the kids at home, I didn’t send any money. I just went to someone else’s house and was pregnant and slowly adapted to life. I was young and ignorant and had to be punished by my mother-in-law. Bullying, I don’t even know how I got over it at that time (I’m glad I didn’t suffer from postpartum depression). Women need more care when giving birth to children. If I could do it all over again, I would not get married and have children. This process is really too difficult. , there are too many grievances, too much sadness, too much pain, and others may not appreciate it.
Your wife is gone, but life will go on. After all, there is still a baby who needs you. If you meet a woman who is willing to give birth to your child, you must be nice to her
Me I think life has to move on.
But we need to reflect on the past. Why did my wife’s postpartum depression not improve well? What was the reason?
Is it because the husband lacks care and tolerance, or is the wife herself suffering from mental illness before pregnancy? If the wife's mental illness is caused by family reasons, I think as a husband, he should repent, compensate his wife's family, take good care of the children, change himself, treat his family well, and be a responsible person in the future life. A responsible and caring man.
First of all, I am sorry to see this question and hope you can pay attention to your body. Of course, if your wife has experienced postpartum depression, please take care of yourself and try to make a scientific judgment about yourself to rule out the possibility of postpartum depression yourself. After women are pregnant, due to the influence of many factors such as psychological factors and hormonal responses, strong psychological gaps and various environmental influences, women may suffer from postpartum depression.
Let’s not dwell on the reasons for your wife’s illness. Please forgive her and accept her condolences.
When a loved one dies in the family, the family members will definitely be very sad. This is human nature, and it is normal for you to have difficulty escaping from the sadness for a while. Since family members are not able to calm down emotionally and may not be able to take care of the infants who are being breastfed at home, it is recommended that you contact your relatives or parents to help you complete the daily life of you and your child, so as to avoid secondary harm to you. Secondly, I hope you can come out of this as soon as possible, and I hope you can take the time to care about your lover's parents, because not only you have lost your lover, but a pair of elderly parents have also lost their daughter.
Give yourself a free period, and hope that your children can thrive. I hope this can comfort you, and please feel sad as much as you want, but please don’t hurt yourself, and indirectly hurt your family, you are still loved. I hope you are getting better and better.
My heart tightened when I heard this news; I told my friends a few days ago that we must pay attention to postpartum depression after giving birth;
Prenatal and postpartum depression is really You should pay attention; it does not mean that if you want children, you have to have children. Children are important, and adults are also important. The adults have passed away now. It is really a pity, hey! Another life;
Originally, it was easy to suffer from depression if I didn’t go out during the epidemic. I could die accidentally even if I stayed at home and stared at it every day. I don’t know how to put it, but it has already happened. Now I can only take good care of the child...
Life must continue. The child is still young, so don’t neglect the child anymore. The child needs the company and education of his relatives. I hope the child can grow up to be sensible and happy;
To expand children’s horizons and structure, we should not only care about their children’s grades, but also focus on cultivating their hearts.
There is a saying: "If you don't climb a mountain, you don't know how high the mountain is. If you don't wade in the water, you don't know the depth of the water. If you don't appreciate the wonders, how can you know how wonderful it is."
Children have never seen the stars or the sea. , myths, and sages, they can only live in a secular, immediate, and small world.
Mr. Lu Xun said: "There are generally only two ways to educate children in middle-class families in China."
One is to let them be domineering, to be a tyrant and overlord in the family. But when he got outside, he was like a spider with a web, immediately powerless.
The first type is to give cold treatment and scolding all day long, making the child shrink back, like a "minion" or a puppet. It seems to be obedient, but when released, it will be like a bird just out of the cage, and will never fly. , and will not jump.
"My Child is Not a Genius" says: "All the great truths about educating children and all the secrets of mysterious genius are contained in the most ordinary little things every day, hidden in every detail of life and study. . ”
As long as you are good at capturing life, there is education everywhere.
Only by being a role model for your children can your children go far in life.
Come on, your child will be fine, your life will be fine, everything will be fine!
My wife has passed away, please express my condolences. After all, life will go on, and your children still need you to raise them. It is very difficult for a person to be both a father and a mother. It is really difficult at this time. You need the help of both parents, because you have to work and take care of such a young child. It would be too difficult without anyone to help you. It would be best if you can get support from the elderly. After all, the elderly have experience in raising children. Work is also very important. Making money to support your family is your responsibility. As children grow up, their education cannot be ignored, because parents are their children's best enlightenment teachers. Only when you become sunny, strong, and full of warmth in your heart can it be beneficial to your child's growth.
When your work goes well and children are no longer a burden to you, if you can meet someone who is destined to you, you can also consider starting a new family. May you find your own happiness soon! come on!
Ah. . When I saw this title, I felt a little stirred in my heart. As a mother of a child who had a similar experience, I think it is really difficult to calm down from that kind of pain. If my mother and husband hadn’t constantly encouraged me, made me lose my temper, and made me cry hysterically, I don’t think I would have been able to endure it. Host, it’s really not easy for you, you still have such a young child to take care of.
The little life is your hope. His existence will prevent you from giving up on life, make you work harder, and learn to take good care of him.
I think, even if I have had a similar experience. You can't empathize with me. If you're in pain, you can cry or get drunk. Don't suppress yourself and miss yourself. Just let yourself miss. I think you need some time to heal yourself, but don't take too long. Little lives grow up too fast. He needs you, you are his only relative, so you have to be strong after healing.
Don’t avoid too much, give him everything about your mother, and let him know that your mother once loved him very much. I think children will eventually grow up and understand everything.
You're doing great, come on!
I hope you can cheer up and find an outlet for spiritual and emotional transfer. It can be faith or hobbies. Cheer up and take good care of your children!