Jealousy refers to people's apathy, disparagement, rejection and even hostility towards the corresponding lucky or potential lucky people in order to compete for certain rights and interests. Jealousy refers to people's apathy, disparagement, rejection and even hostility towards the corresponding lucky or potential lucky people in order to compete for certain rights and interests. Jealousy is commonly known as "red eye, jealousy, sour grapes" and so on. As far as inner feelings are concerned, the early stage of jealousy shows the pressure from comparison to disappointment; In the middle stage, it shows psychological frustration from shame to humiliation; In the later stage, it shows the venting behavior from dissatisfaction to resentment. Jealousy is a complex psychology, including anxiety, fear, sadness, doubt, shame, self-blame, depression, hatred, hostility, resentment, revenge and other unpleasant psychological states. Other people's natural figure, appearance and intelligence can be the object of jealousy; Other factors related to social evaluation, such as honor, status, achievement, property, reputation, etc. It is also easy to become the object of their jealousy.
Second, the reason analysis:
1. Jealousy stems from competition in the same field. Through observation, we can find that jealousy is hierarchical. Only two competitors in the same competitive field will be jealous and jealous. Fierce jealousy often breaks out between a man's multiple spouses, a woman's multiple suitors, two competitors for a position, classmates and colleagues who rank first in the exam, and two people who often come into contact in the same competitive field. People will only envy those who are better than themselves in the same competitive field, not those who are not in the same field, nor those who are weaker than themselves in the same competitive field. Zhou Yu was jealous of Zhuge Liang because Zhuge Liang was present with him and was better than him. Zhou Yu is not jealous of Liu Bei, Cao Cao and Sun Quan because they are not in the same arena. Snow White is jealous of her stepmother because she is more beautiful than her stepmother in the competition for who is more beautiful.
2. Jealousy stems from a destroyed sense of superiority. The stubborn love logic blog says: jealousy is a destroyed sense of superiority. It can also be called psychological reaction after the sense of superiority is destroyed. People are jealous only when they have a sense of superiority and are surpassed by others. If they have no sense of superiority, they will only show inferiority and jealousy, and there will be no jealousy. For example, we often see that children will be envious when they see other people's parents holding their children, but they will not be jealous. But when he saw his parents holding other people's children instead of himself, he was unhappy. Why? Because he has no superiority in front of other people's parents, but he has absolute superiority in front of his own parents. This is the most obvious jealousy of children. Similarly, a beggar who has nothing will never be jealous of the emperor's rights, status, wealth, and the opportunity to gain the throne, because compared with the emperor, he has never had a sense of personal superiority in these aspects, and he cannot be jealous. Only those who can feel superior to the emperor will be jealous of the emperor, such as the emperor's brother and powerful minister.
3. Jealousy stems from the combination of the Monkey King's psychology and revenge psychology. Each of us is born with a strong self-esteem, which is our most important, strongest and undisputed first. This is everyone's the Monkey King mentality.
Third, ways to overcome jealousy:
1, to establish a correct outlook on life, jealous people are short-sighted and narrow-minded. Therefore, we must have realistic goals, consciously get rid of narrow and selfish thoughts, jump out of the "self" Xiaotian field, and broaden our horizons and minds.
2. Look at the progress of others correctly. A mentally healthy or open-minded person should congratulate his comrades-in-arms on their achievements. He should find the gap in comparison with the advanced, at the same time, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, find his own bright spot, develop his own potential, and absorb the successful experience of others for his own use, so as to realize his own progress and development. Third, we should cultivate healthy competitiveness. The similarity between jealousy and competitiveness lies in that they are unwilling to lag behind and always want to be better than Fang. It's good to strive for the best in your work, but you can't be the first in everything. Nothing is perfect in the world. We should realize that unyielding is a positive attitude; Admitting failure is learning from others and a positive attitude; "You can, but I won't let you." This is the envy of morbid competitiveness, and "you can do it, I will try to be better than you" is the slogan of the strong. Only in this way can we maintain a positive and healthy attitude and overcome jealousy.