Author: insight and pure fragrance
The road few people take writes:
"Self-discipline is a process of self-improvement. In this process, the pain of giving up is inevitable, and its intensity is even like facing death."
Self-discipline is really difficult, but if you dare to face difficulties, you will have the initiative in life.
The more self-disciplined people are, the more they know how to do these three things on their own initiative.
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I know a retired old professor who is over 60 years old, but still insists on studying.
He spends four or five hours reading books every day, taking notes carefully and trying to figure it out again and again.
Once I visited him at his home, looking at his room full of books and looking through his thick reading notes. I can't help but ask:
"There are so many books, can you recommend some you like?"
The professor smiled and said:
"When I read, I never look at whether I like it or not. I only look at the value.
Generally speaking, the more difficult a book is, the more I want to spend more time reading it. "
The old professor's words made me deep in thought.
I wonder if you have found this phenomenon?
When we buy books, we always tend to choose books written by our favorite writers;
On the bookshelf at home, the first books to read are always those novels that are easy to understand;
Because everyone is afraid of difficulties, most people like to read books with lower thresholds.
Because the contents of these books are within our cognitive boundaries, there is not much knowledge increment.
Because in the process of reading, we are more likely to accept the values that we have already recognized.
But as the famous writer Zhang Lixian said:
"Everyone has his favorite book, but don't be limited to it."
It is difficult to improve our cognitive level by blindly rejecting books we don't like;
We can only accept the same values forever, and we tend to become narrow and boring.
Fan Deng once said: "If you only read the books you can read, or read the books you are interested in, you will easily fall into the trap of stock skills."
People with high self-discipline will break the cognitive barrier and take the initiative to read valuable books that they don't like.
Reading a favorite book is of course a pleasure; Reading books you don't like can broaden your horizons and accelerate your growth.
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I have seen a saying that there are two doors in life, a wide door and a narrow door.
Those who choose to enter through the wide door will find that the road is getting narrower and narrower; Those who enter through narrow doors will find the road more spacious.
The right path will be difficult at first.
Workplace writer Kris shared her three experiences.
In the year of graduation, he experienced the dilemma of finding a job.
In an leaderless group discussion, everyone else behaved well, but he couldn't even say a word.
He felt very depressed after the interview.
After that, he carefully studied dozens of interview videos, read dozens of an application for a job books and constantly revised his resume.
In just half a year, he got an offer of 10, all of which are Fortune 500 companies.
From school to society, Chris, like many people, has changed from a thin teenager to a potbellied uncle.
Looking at himself in the mirror, he decided to lose weight.
He began to insist on running and strictly control his diet; I didn't have time to go to the gym, so I downloaded the training video and rolled it up at home.
A month later, he successfully lost 20 pounds and developed 6 abdominal muscles.
After working for several years, I earn more than 30 thousand yuan a month, but I deeply feel that my ability is not worthy of salary.
So I decided to take an in-service doctorate while working.
During that time, he had to go to work during the day and went to a coffee shop with bad business after work.
Drinking a bad latte is just to avoid the crowd and get into the learning state quickly.
He spends all his time reviewing on the subway to and from work.
Finally, I was admitted to the doctor of accounting with the first place in the professional course.
I think that if an ordinary person is abused in job hunting, he may be depressed;
If you are deformed, you may deceive yourself; With a monthly salary of 30 thousand, I don't want to toss about any more.
However, every time Kris was faced with a choice, she decided to take that difficult road and finally forced her potential again and again.
Read a sentence:
"Things that can make you better may not be easy at first, but as long as you persist, you can grow."
In life, many people start to shrink back when they encounter difficulties.
It's easy to watch a play and eat junk food in bed. However, it is difficult to keep studying, lose weight and improve yourself.
However, short-lived happiness brings endless emptiness.
The performance of a person's high degree of self-discipline is that he has chosen a difficult road before every choice.
Do the right thing, happiness may come slowly, but it is also more valuable.
Endure those lonely and difficult times, and you will eventually go home with a full load.
03
We will make many friends in this life.
Some people are willing to work with you, while others will only drag you down.
A truly self-disciplined person knows how to stay away from low-quality circles and vulgar happiness.
I once read such a story on the Internet.
During college, netizen @ Qingfeng went to a city far from home alone.
It is inevitable that a person is lonely in a foreign land, but fortunately, his roommates are very kind to him and take the initiative to pull him to play together every time.
In the first semester, he had a good time eating and drinking with his roommates.
In class, they occupy the last row for a long time, just to secretly play mobile phones.
I almost never go out on weekends. Order takeout when you are hungry, and you can play games in teams until dark.
The final result came out, and as expected, the whole dormitory was at the bottom.
Only then did he realize that a semester had passed quickly, and he had gained nothing but weight.
He made a decision: apply to the counselor for a dormitory change.
Almost all new roommates are top students, and they all have very clear plans for their future.
They go out early and come back late every day, and spend time in the library when there is no class.
Under the influence of his new roommate, he also began to set goals for himself, quit staying up late and playing games, and his work and rest became regular.
Whenever I have time, I either go running in the track and field or go to the library to study with my roommates.
In his senior year, he was admitted to a famous American school and won a high scholarship.
After reading such a passage, I quite agree.
"If you are in a comfortable circle, it often means narrowness. It is easy to see the outside world, and I don't know how many excellent people are outside the comfortable circle. "
Everyone is surrounded by all kinds of people.
Some people can only have fun together, and some people can take you against the wind and become a better self.
The top self-discipline of adults is to stay away from friends who make you happy but only consume you.
It can be difficult to live an ascetic life with hard-working people.
But you will eventually find that close to the circle of positive energy, you will unconsciously become self-motivated.
You'd rather be self-disciplined and shiny than waste your life eating, drinking and having fun.
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There is a saying that:
"If there must be a shortcut to success, I think it should be to do some useful little things every day, continue to implement them and maintain self-discipline."
Reading books that you don't like but are valuable can achieve a cognitive breakthrough;
Only by doing things that are not easy but correct can we constantly improve ourselves;
Only by staying away from friends who consume themselves can we integrate into high-quality circles.
Blindly immersed in the comfort zone, it is easy to become negative and decadent.
Only people with high self-discipline can get real freedom.
May we all keep practicing ourselves and making progress, and finally live what we like.