Don't say bad words to your parents. It's hard for parents to raise us up all their lives. As a child, don't hurt your parents with harsh words, because harsh words will hurt their hearts. Let's share the emotional beauty of not talking to your parents!
Don't be rude to your parents. I went to my cousin's house and saw my aunt sobbing on the table. I asked what was going on. My uncle said, "Your cousin got divorced recently. Your aunt told him not to divorce easily, but he told us not to interfere in their young people's affairs, saying that his affairs should not be ours at all.
Your aunt is angry. She cares about him very much and gives him the best. How dare you say such a thing to annoy us! "
One of my classmates recently failed to do business with a friend and went back to his hometown. The old mother at home didn't read any books, and was anxious and angry when she learned that her son's business failed. She also said that he was careless in making friends and was too honest to know that he was bullied.
The classmates thought that my mother had little knowledge and didn't know anything about business, so they said to her rudely, "He and I have been friends for many years. How can he bully me? " You have no education and have never seen the world. See if it's weird! "
In a word, his mother was in tears. Later, my friend kept recalling the scene at that time and felt very guilty. He said he didn't know how his mother, who had always been strong, became so fragile because of his sad words.
Sometimes children are impulsive and say nothing. How can parents be sad after listening? I always thought that no matter what I said, my parents would forgive me, so I said cruel words to my parents without fear, but I didn't know that my parents' hearts would hurt and I would cry for a child's words.
Pay attention to your discretion when talking to your parents. Parents care about you the most. They want you to be successful, happy, happy and happy. Some words hurt people, don't tell your parents.
Parents who have worked hard all their lives don't need their children to return, just need you to smile more and respect more. Be patient with your parents and speak softly, just as your parents treated us when we were young.
Don't be rude to your parents. In reality, have you ever seen such a family? They always say such vicious words as "Why don't you die", "Then jump off a building" and "I will spend some money to bury you when you die".
Although some people didn't mean it, they accidentally spit it out when they were flustered. The harm to each other, whether intentional or unintentional, can be big or small, and continue to make light noise until the family is restless; The heavy ones will go to extremes, and the family will hang an exclamation point from now on!
We have a couple here who used ugly words when they quarreled. Both husband and wife have bad temper. My wife will curse when things go wrong. A woman is small-minded, this wife is uneducated, and swearing is considered normal!
Recently, the same grumpy husband was impatient with her scolding, so he released such cruel words as "You don't want to live, just kill yourself" and "I can bury you with a little money when you die".
Maybe the husband didn't mean to say these words, but he really broke his wife's heart. She was so angry that she really wanted to kill herself. Fortunately, it was stopped by others.
As the saying goes, a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts in June. It is estimated that the wife and husband have had a long cold war. Although it is wrong for her to swear, her husband speaks from the heart.
A capable and cultured man will never use harsh words to his family. Women are small-minded, should men follow?
This will only make the family worse, and I don't want the future of the family, even so. The wife who used to swear was wrong, but when her husband came, the mistake was even greater. Many people always want to weigh others in their mouths before giving up, but after swearing, they are sad!
If there is something wrong at home, you can explain it to her and make her realize her mistake. Never start cursing directly. If the other person doesn't realize that he is wrong, there is no need to start cursing. Scolding each other can only produce one result, that is, no one will obey anyone.
They are all close relatives, and the result of scolding is that both sides lose, hurting the future of the whole family.
Don't be rude to your parents. My parents in my hometown are very worried about you and know that you are busy working alone. So always after dinner, after CCTV news broadcast, you think it's time to get off work. After dinner, you dial the phone carefully. Every time the phone picks up, maybe the first sentence on your parents' side will always be "son, have you eaten?" Eat more good food, pay attention to your health, don't stay up late, there will be heavy fog there tomorrow, drive carefully? "
However, we are always so careless that we say so many disrespectful words, which makes our parents laugh but not answer, and our hearts are very sad.
Remember, be filial to your parents and never say these ten words:
First of all, don't say a few words, you are still so nagging.
The so-called "children are worried for thousands of miles." Just like Yu Guangzhong's homesickness, when you were young, you were like a small stamp. I'm here and my mother is there. You are pinning your parents' unreachable distance and longing for the future;
When you grow up, you will become a kite in your mother's hand. They will always wake up in their sleep and pull the string from time to time to test the safety and height of their children.
Caring for a person is a kind of happiness, and the nagging of love is also like the rosary of a mage. The rosary never leaves, never forgets, eager to avoid disaster and get out of trouble, and live a safe life.
Second, is there anything else? It's nothing. I hung up. It's okay in the future. Don't always call.
Their awkward silence is unspeakable loneliness. Maybe they just want to talk to you, listen to your voice, and want to hear you call your parents more.
Maybe you haven't been "weaned" when you were a student, and you are eager for the love of your parents, like a gentle lamb nestling in the arms of a ewe and letting it comb its unkempt hair.
But gradually, your working hours are long, your personnel are complicated, and your work is not smooth, so you concentrate on your work. When working overtime, it is inevitable to prevaricate a few words, so that parents on the other end of the phone want to talk and have a busy tone, leaving parents with the psychological gap that "children can't help their mothers."
Third, if you don't have time to go home this New Year, I'll give you some money and buy yourself something delicious.
When you are single and not bound by life, go home as much as possible. Years are like stealing, he stole the youth of his parents, he stole their faces, but he didn't steal their love for you.
In spring and autumn, look forward to the stars, catch the moon, break your fingers, plan reunion days, and prepare your favorite ingredients early. But you let two old people silently hold bowls for the New Year and watch other people's families reunite.
Your desire to fly and travel has broken away from them again and again. Money can't buy back their lives, and it's hard to say when they can't hold your hand anymore.
Your parents are still there, and home is your way home after a long journey; Parents are gone, home is a distant hometown, and you have become a wanderer. Going home is like sleepwalking, and the tired heart wanders far away and can't find the direction to put it.
Fourth, say you don't understand, don't ask!
Home is the harbor of the soul, the destination of emotions, and your safe haven after the disturbance. The burden of life is firmly on our shoulders, just as painful as our parents' hearts.
My parents have experienced it and know how hard life is. So they are eager to enter the children's world, share their troubles, listen to their troubles and heal their spiritual grievances.
Parents are our most loyal listeners.
They raised us and made contributions to society. They are eager to know our present situation. Although it can't help, it seems more reassuring to know more.
Our little mood swings can always touch their hearts and ripple their hearts.
As the saying goes, "children's unhappiness is parents' sorrow." Our sentence "you don't understand" can't help but make him feel useless. I am chilling, but I want to participate in our future and contribute to our cause.
5. Can you have a rest? I can't always touch my things.
Busy work, let us run headless like flies.
A messy room, a disorderly life. Parents see your hard work in their eyes and hide it in their hearts.
They can't accompany you to the front, but they will always try their best to help you solve some practical problems, do something, make a room for you, take care of your clothes and meals, and look after your back garden.
Take control of your life, take care of your space and tidy yourself up. But don't disappoint your parents' kind help, not to mention their kindness.
6. How did you raise your children?
In married families, women can better understand women's hardships. As an experienced person, my mother has dedicated herself to you. She knows best how difficult it is for her daughter to have a baby and take care of her family.
They know your hard work and are willing to give up a comfortable life and go to the city to help your children. However, as a new mother, you have the concept of parenting in the new era. Instead of being flattered by you, the old people are suffering from your complaints.
The child is the mother's pet, "afraid to melt in the mouth, afraid to fall into the palm"; The child has a cold and fever, and the mother is very nervous.
When you are anxious to get angry for your child, have you ever thought that when you were a child, your parents took care of you so much? Don't embarrass your parents because they don't do well. That's how they raised you when you were a child.
Parents have the obligation to support our growth, but they have no obligation to look after the children. It costs thousands of dollars to hire a nanny to take care of the children in a month, but you can't ask them to take care of them.
They can't subsidize the pension like parents, consider the nutrition of their children for you, buy food and cook for their families voluntarily, and work as a part-time nanny.
As the saying goes, the idea of education can be exchanged, but it can't be exported. If you ask questions, you will be reprimanded, which will hurt your parents' dignity and heart. This is an act of filial piety.
Seven, you don't mind my business, your set, has long been out of date.
Young, busy growing up, I hope to escape from the bondage of my family and the control of my parents as soon as possible. However, after wandering in the society for a period of time, I found that the society was complex and the people's hearts were not ancient, which was greatly hit and cheated.
Parents' advice is sometimes unpleasant to listen to, but advice is least taken seriously when it is most needed. They are more distressed than anyone when you are frustrated. They said these words, one is worried, and the other is to give you some guidance on your way, so that you can avoid detours as little as possible.
The ever-changing times and fast-paced lifestyle have led to a large amount of information flooding into our minds, which has also greatly changed our concept of life.
Parents' suggestions may not adapt to the concept of the new era, but they will never change. The truth of life is the summary of experience handed down by the boss. The worldly wisdom, experience and truth taught by the older generation can always let us see the crux of the problem and grasp the essence of the matter.
Even if their suggestion doesn't work, we should change the tone and say "Well, I see, don't worry, I believe I will handle it" in a lighter tone. Let parents rest assured that they bear more power.
Eight, why are you so troublesome! Can you keep an eye on me and keep giving me trouble
Nowadays, social work is under great pressure, urban husbands have many children, and rural people also leave home to work.
If the elderly are ill, children will inevitably fall into the dilemma of going out to work and taking care of the elderly at home. As the saying goes, "There is no dutiful son before a long bed."
At this time, children are prone to psychological rebellion and disgust, so they regard their elderly and frail parents as their own burdens and troubles, preferring to spend some money, hire a bed nurse, and even send their parents to a nursing home on the grounds that they have no time.
You know, cows can run and eat grass when they are born; Chickens can walk and eat when hatched, but human beings, as advanced animals, are born unable to eat and walk, and have no ability to protect themselves. They are so helpless, but they are accompanied and nurtured by their parents, creating a small villain.
Instead of worrying them when you grow up, you have added more trouble to them. But they don't regard you as a burden and trouble, but try to raise us and regard us as their future and hope.
People always have moments of birth, illness, death and sunset, and the sun will not always be in the south at noon.
Old people in nursing homes can't feel the warmth of their children's families around their knees, and parents in front of their beds are unwilling to add burden to their children. If the old man dies because he is not filial to the old man, as children, do you really have no guilt and remorse in your hearts? Do you really not regret what you have done?
The old man in a family is like a treasure. Old people are the most respectable people in the family. They only live once.
Parents have only one journey, so why not give up the temporary worldly desires, cherish the kindness of parents, and practice "You give birth to my young, and I will raise you old", so that we can have a sense of security and inherit the most ideal family pension model in China.
9. Ask your parents: You are so useless!
You are super capable and talented, but life is hard for you! Those who are less capable and less popular than you can rise to the top with the help of their families. So you blame your parents for not being able to give you a bigger stage and help you at a critical moment.
But don't question your parents' ability! They raised you, gave you life and all the love he could give you.
If you have talent and ability, you should work hard, instead of blaming the setbacks that life has given you on being born in poverty.
I'm Hao xx. My mother is yin deficiency, strong, quick-tempered and angry, but she loves us very much. Dad is male chauvinist. If he doesn't agree, he will hit my mother.
In this way, maintaining a strong family, often fighting and making trouble. My mother is angry with her grandmother. Well, I really don't understand. How did this happen?
In the year when I got married and gave birth to my second daughter, at a relative's wedding banquet, my mother had a sudden cerebral hemorrhage after drinking, and it was useless to save 10 hours, so she left me. ...
Mom was only 49 years old that year! At that time, Huei-fang was getting married, and my brother accompanied Huei-fang to press the sedan chair. When my mother left, my six children left this world with their mother in their arms.
The sudden death of my mother made me very painful, but seeing that my brother was less than 20 years old and my father had been immersed in pain, I took on the burden of my family. Nevertheless, I still hold a grudge against my father.
I think the disharmony and misfortune in my family are caused by my father, so I don't go home often, just ask by phone, and I always quarrel with my father and don't know how to respect my father!
After learning from Mr. Tong, I realized that filial piety is the first virtue, and filial piety to the elderly is a blessing. Everything has a cause and effect.
Now I call my father every day and send videos to make his old man happy. I go home a few days a month to help him massage, massage, cupping and recuperate. My mood is getting better and better, and my career is getting smoother and smoother! Filial piety is a virtue, which makes the elderly live a long and healthy life. It is a virtue to promote filial piety and let more children learn it!
Parents' love and cultivation make you stand on their shoulders and see a vision far beyond their eyes. You haven't eaten the hardships they have suffered, the schools they haven't attended, and the clothes they dare not wear all their lives, and you dare not buy them.
What sheltered you from the wind and rain all the way was his ability. You can't ask him to do anything beyond his ability.
They are the cornerstone of your career, but they are not the ladder for you to rise. Every generation has its responsibilities. As a member of the family, you should find your own position and try to make your parents proud of you, instead of stepping on their heads and blaming them for all your unwillingness, incompetence, cowardice and fear.
You should be filial to your parents, set an example for your children, strive to be what you want, reach the height you can reach, pass on your filial piety, pave the way for your next generation, and make your children feel grateful for the family atmosphere you created.
Don't envy other people's rich second generation, you should strive to become a rich second generation and make your children an enviable rich second generation.
Ten, early know so, why did you give birth to me!
There is often a picture in life: because of one thing, mother and son quarreled, and everyone was justified. The more they argued, the more chaotic they became. They found out all kinds of "problems" in the past and stirred up a heated discussion. On impulse, the child roared, "If I had known this, why did you give birth to me?" Slammed the door and left.
The child's questioning makes me do it for you and you do it for me under the blood relationship. This selfless moment that never asks for anything in return will be aroused in Xie Sidi, and the hatred of flesh and blood will arise.
Mouth, like a sharp knife, rushes into hand-to-hand combat in front of family members, hurting loved ones, but killing people without seeing blood.
When we were growing up, our parents actually hated us a lot and even thought about why we gave birth to you. It is better to strangle your heart of stone, but after all, you are her child and her pride.
The power of a father's love for his mother can only be reflected in a few slaps when he was a child. But he blamed himself after the fight, and what was more sad was his own heart injury.
The tree of life needs pruning. They just cut off your side branches to make you take fewer detours and choose the right direction. And we adults, in our twilight years, how can we treat them with trouble and abuse?
Without God, no one can accept your prayers, and no one can listen to your heart and experience. But your parents are your paradise, your land, and let you stand tall between heaven and earth.
They are the source of your life. Father loves you like a mountain, and mother loves you like the sea. They are broad-minded, willing to listen to their dissatisfaction, pain and sadness, and can also bear the pain you give them every time. Just like children, we are cruel to our parents. Are we too cruel? !
It is not easy for parents to support us. Even if our parents make us unhappy, lowering our expectations and communicating sincerely are enough to move them.
I don't know my parents' gratitude if I don't raise children, and I don't know my regrets until I become a mother. A warm word and a comfortable companion are enough to comfort them in their lonely old age.