The Book of Songs·Meng" is the first poem about an abandoned woman in the history of Chinese literature. The poem narrates the whole process of "I" (i.e. the abandoned wife) from falling in love, getting married, being abused to being abandoned. The emotions are sad and angry, and the attitude is decisive. It profoundly reflects the oppression and damage caused to women by the social marriage system at that time, and also vividly reflects the It shows that women in that era were in a passive and low position in marriage and family.
The protagonist "I" in the poem was a woman who was infatuated with love and marriage during the engagement process. Under the pursuit of the sanctimonious hypocrite small businessman who "embraced cloth trade silk", she accepted and believed in it. The love of the other party broke through the marriage system of the time of "parents' orders and matchmaker's words". In the hypocrite small businessman's pursuit of "trading silk and being a matchmaker", he took the initiative to "send his son to Sheqi". Although he was "an unscrupulous matchmaker", he still agreed to the "autumn period", and later "disloyal" "Lang" established a love relationship and made a lifelong commitment, showing "I"'s free pursuit of love, which was rare in such an era. But it was also because "I" was so infatuated with my pursuit of freedom of love that I forgot all about love, and did not have a detailed understanding and test of the hypocrite and small businessman, thus laying the root of the final tragedy - the marriage contract.
"I" is a woman who is very devoted to love and very emotional. At the end of the date, when the hypocrite little businessman left, he "took advantage of that treacherous wall to hope that the pass would be restored" and climbed up to see him off. I waited early during the date, and "if I don't see the return of the relationship, I will burst into tears. When I see the return of the relationship, I will laugh and talk." When I wait for a long time and can't see the man's car returning, I will "cry with tears" and burst into tears. Once she saw the man's car coming back, she burst into tears and laughed, and she was laughing and talking, and she was so infatuated that she forgot everything.
What "I" pursues is a kind of free and pure love, which is reflected in "I come with your car and move with my bribe", which is that I don't care about the poor and love the rich, and I don't pursue the betrothal gift. She didn't bring any betrothal gift, but she took her own dowry and got into the wedding car. When he arrived at the hypocrite's small businessman's house, "I became a wife at the age of three, and she worked hard at home. She worked hard and slept hard at night, and she had a court." In order to build a family business and create happiness, she gets up early and goes to bed late every day, goes out early and comes home late every day to take care of the housework, and never complains. She is a typical example of a virtuous wife with traditional virtues. But because the hypocrite little businessman is a heartless man who loves the new and dislikes the old, he was very infatuated with "me" when he was as young and beautiful as if "the leaves of the mulberry tree are still alive". When "I" have worked hard for many years to take care of the housework and become as tired as "the mulberry trees have fallen, and the yellow ones have fallen"..., the hypocrite small businessman "has no regard for the best virtues" and changes his original intention. He is erratic, even "having done what he said, then spitting on violence", being unreasonably rude to "me" and even abandoning him.
Not only did this ending not receive sympathy from people in the society at that time, but in the social system where men were superior to women, "I" fell into the situation of "my brothers don't know, but they laugh at me", which really made matters worse. For a woman, the blow can be imagined. If I were more vulnerable, I might be on the road to death, but "I" could still "quietly think about it and mourn for myself" and calmly treat all these heavy blows and misfortunes. The attitude towards the tragic ending is "it's enough to stop thinking about it". It shows the magnanimous, confident, strong and defiant spirit of a woman who is brave enough to go her own way. She is a very rare and valuable example of an abandoned wife. In this sense the typical sense of "I" is great.
In the beginning she was
a woman who was infatuated with love and marriage
Later
she was a woman who could move forward courageously and follow her own path. A woman who is magnanimous, confident, strong and defiant