Feelings are like two people drawing a circle. If it is two people, no one's life is incomplete, but we are fully capable of talking about the circle of life by ourselves. Don't always believe that our other half is given by others. I think we are constantly making ourselves complete all our lives, and letting another person enter this world is the most hopeless way. Although we can't walk through the years alone, we can have the ability to face it alone.
You can keep looking for other ways to improve yourself in life, just as you know life in life. If you persist in learning, you will shift your attention and interest to other aspects. Love demons, inner demons are demons, I think we have enough energy to beat ourselves.
Amitabha, I'm afraid you have already asked this question with a reward of 65438+ 100000, and you may not find the answer, hehe. However, your question is very good and worthy of praise. Love demon, don't make such a fuss. To put it bluntly, it is lust, the messy things between men and women. Born as a man, it is estimated that few people can escape this. According to Dade, even if it is completed, it will only be forced to go down, and obstacles may be out of control.
So, don't force it. If not, problems will arise, leading to physical and psychological diseases. The real solution is to transform it. How come? The method I use is to talk about "who is chanting Buddha" and look at the place where ideas come from. As soon as the seeds of men's and women's desires appeared, they immediately turned into "Amitabha" in their hearts.
Some great virtues teach people one way, that is, to recite the paragraphs of the Shurangama Sutra in which the Buddha said "four kinds of pure and clear methods" and recite them often. It is said that the effect is good. You can try.
The question you asked is too good for most people to answer. Only people who know can help you. I am not a wise man, because my biggest obstacle at present is this, and I am still groping.
Finally, it is best to have the guidance of a wise man. I am afraid it can't be solved in a few words.
In the end, there is really no way, just be honest, don't break the law, don't be immoral, work hard, marry a daughter-in-law and live a stable life.
Finally, if you have nothing to do, you can say "Amitabha" without your mouth. The key is to read it in your mind. After a long time, you will feel it. Then, when chanting Buddha, carefully observe where the "Amitabha" came from. Everything is fake.
Everything is like a dream.
If dew is like electricity, we should look at it this way.
You are in a dream now, please wake up quickly. When you wake up, will you still be infatuated with the beauty in your dreams? Dreams are illusory, dreams are impermanent, and illusions will eventually be shattered. Knowing that you are obsessed with your dreams, you won't be obsessed with what love is. Didn't you write that word clearly? One heart, one acceptance, one love, can feel the needs of others with heart. I can't even let go of my greed. You can't understand how others feel. Again, if one can't love oneself, how can one love others? Will our young men and women love themselves now? What does it mean to love yourself? Being able to cultivate your kindness from time to time is really loving yourself, always knowing that "you will care about your loved ones when you are injured;" If you are hurt by virtue, you will be ashamed of your parents. This is called loving yourself. If you really do the Disciple Rules, you will love yourself. A person who can love himself will love others because he already knows how to make his life full of value and happiness.
To talk about feelings, we must first love ourselves and be wise. This is really endless. Just answer it directly with a math problem. What is one plus one? Two. Oh? Now let's look at couples and boyfriends. How much is one plus one? Less than zero? They are quite outspoken. Really, as the saying goes, men and women in love have the lowest IQ. This is not just a theory. I personally verified it, yes. How to love without worrying? It's simple. Without courtship, there will be no trouble, and courtship will be painful.