People can't exist without society. People are social animals, and people need to communicate too much. If a person enjoys the lonely world for too long, he will lose his language ability and become like a tree, a grass, a horse, a fly and a mosquito. Didn't you lose the meaning of life? Wasted this terrible journey!
This trip is not only for you to see the scenery, but also for you to share. You must participate in the process of sharing, you must participate in it, and experience all kinds of joys and sorrows, even crazy depression, or manic silence and colorful, just like all kinds of flowers in nature bloom in spring, and all flowers bloom and show their abilities.
But after you enjoy the hustle and bustle of this period, when you are tired and bored, you can quietly hide in a corner, read a book, drink a cup of tea, watch others' happiness from a distance, quietly think about your next step, live a relaxed life, keep the pace of your life, and don't be a savage in a cave.
If you can do what I have said, you can follow your heart to the maximum extent and throw away everything that should be thrown away!
Still don't think so much, singing and dancing, laughing and unrestrained, how many times in history, how many wizards? Why care and arrange, get it right away!
I am enjoying it now.
My ex-wife and I have been divorced for almost half a year, and now I live alone in my own big bungalow. 1 15.
My son is 12 years old this year, but because he has lived in my mother's house since he was a child (my mother lives in 6 buildings and I live in 8 buildings), he said that my mother's house is his home, and I am just at leisure. Without this epidemic, I would drive him to school every morning, then drive to Wal-Mart to buy some food and go home for lunch. After dinner, I will naturally wake up and get up, and then wait until after school to pick up my son and send him to my mother's house. I finished my task today. You may ask, I'm not going to work? My answer is always "I won't go to work until I do something wrong." As my ex-wife said to my friends who used to work together, "we all have food when we don't go to work." .
What's more, now that I'm "single dog", I don't have to think about what she likes to eat every day, and I don't have to go to the towel counter to get the samples she gave me to buy menstrual towels during my menstrual period, let alone help her wash her bloody underwear for those days. Why don't I enjoy my own world? Just like when answering such a question before, someone said in the comment area that I was on a "low-key blind date", and I could only laugh it off. Why should I go looking for trouble and eat my own family without being hungry?
My ex-wife didn't eat eggs, so she didn't eat eggs much at home before the divorce. Now a person, eat two eggs a day to make up for the old. I am enjoying my single life now. After all, a 40-year-old man has lost his edge, his unruly personality and his goal of fighting for it (my son is now in primary school, and his grandfather prepared his college money and his future family's house before he was born), so as long as I can live happily every day, I don't waste money and I don't obey the law. After all, as long as I don't gamble, prostitute, poison or cheat, I just smoke a cigarette, and there is no big expense. You can live happily by eating the rent of a facade for a month. Why bother?
It is most important to live each day according to your own nature.
Before answering this question, let's take a look at the present situation of neighboring Japan, and don't shudder!
In Japan, 940,000 people were born in 2065.438+09, and 6.5438+0.4 million people died. On average, 1 in every five young men and women is unmarried for life. They don't come from fear of marriage, and many people are not even interested in contacting the opposite sex.
Because most of the wealth is in the hands of the elderly, the pressure of life makes them unable to buy a house or a car, and the welfare of the state is enough to ensure them to live safely into their old age, so young people are increasingly reluctant to have too many entanglements with society.
Therefore, they are also called "low desire groups"!
Do these people really have no desire
In fact, human beings have been desperately moving forward since the first day of their existence, which is also the fundamental driving force for social development. However, these young people see no chance of success. Because the whole society is serving the "old age economy".
Young people who are not concerned, except for going to work, eating and shopping, almost always stay at home and play with their mobile phones. Eating simple fast food, crawling on the endless internet, my body doesn't want to move.
To this end, Japanese social researcher Kenichi Ohmae lamented: "Japanese young people have no desire, no dreams and no motivation, and Japan has fallen into an era of low desire."
Japan's domestic economy has been in the era of low growth in the past 20 years. Although its overseas assets have been rising (it is said that the overall scale is equivalent to recreating a Japan), such a huge amount of assets cannot be accommodated in a smaller country.
Most of the assets are gathered in the hands of consortia and Japanese elderly people. Multinational companies prefer to hire low-cost foreign employees, and domestic young people have fewer and fewer development opportunities and low incomes.
Moreover, innovative industries are not supported by private capital under the control of conservative old people, and the Japanese government's own expenditure is also very huge. On average, the national debt of each Japanese is as high as 8 million yen, which is simply unable to support young people to start businesses. Therefore, young people who can't see the future and hope give up their dreams and become otaku and otaku!
Judging from the personality of men and women, men like to be alone only when they are thinking about important things, and at other times they are eager to be recognized by society and worshipped by people around them. Women, on the other hand, need more care from relatives and friends. Therefore, women need to participate in social interaction more than men.
From the perspective of birth, living alone is more conducive to understanding some truths and enriching the spiritual world. However, if there is no social tempering, no personal experience of joining the WTO, and no rolling in the warmth of human feelings, it is difficult for such people to achieve the perfection of the soul world!
Therefore, from nature to reality, no one will want to live alone for a long time!
People's physiological needs can be overcome!
As long as you are not tempted, you can't remember, and you don't feel sorry for yourself when you see those partners traveling hand in hand.
People can also quit family life!
As long as you can endure the neighbors' adults and children coming to visit you in the festival a few years later, as long as you don't cry with your pillow in the night with lights on, as long as you see other people's grandchildren around your knees when you are white-haired, you won't feel sorry for yourself!
If you can tolerate the above two emotional needs, you have to put an end to the ambition of dreaming in the middle of the night, and then you may really learn to enjoy the lonely world!
People's desires are never limited by the inner world, but depend on the role and influence of the outer world.
The current situation of young people in Japan tells us that the generation without development opportunities should learn to "enjoy" a person's lonely world. Getting rid of this "anti-humanity" social state requires not only the guidance of the government and society, but also more and more people to pay attention to this "lonely group" and reflect the superiority of the "humanistic care" social system!
Otherwise, the present situation of Japan today is the silhouette of our future!