How to have a good relationship with superiors and subordinates?
The direct supervisor plays a vital role in our promotion. If we can establish a good relationship with him, our promotion will be much easier. Otherwise, even if you have all the skills, it is useless. Therefore, if you have a desire for promotion, you must get on well with your immediate boss. The boss is also a human being and wants to establish friendly relations with his subordinates. Every boss wouldn't say it was deliberately making things difficult for his subordinates. As long as you master certain skills and pay more attention to your boss, it is not difficult to achieve your goals. Be loyal to your boss. Every boss wants his subordinates to be loyal to him, to be loyal to him, to pay attention to his feelings, not to speak ill of him in front of others, and to go with him when he is in trouble instead of betraying him. If you attack and betray your boss at will, you will suffer. Maybe a series of unexpected revenge will follow. Therefore, if you are a natural "opponent", you must try to change it and learn to force yourself to remain silent. Take responsibility for your boss. When your boss makes a mistake at work, you should be brave enough to take responsibility. Although I was a little lost at that time, it would be a great blessing in the long run. The boss must know in his heart that you are doing this for him, and he will feel indebted to you. If you ask him for help in the future, he will do his best.
Respect your boss.
After all, the boss is your superior, so you should respect him and his opinions. When you disagree with your boss, you can't refute him and argue with him in front of everyone. This will make him feel humiliated and unable to step down, which will only make him dislike you. It's best to communicate with him privately, and use certain skills when speaking, so as not to make him feel threatened by you. This not only takes care of your face, but also has a good influence on yourself. Praise and admire your boss.
Everyone wants to be appreciated and praised by others, and the boss is no exception. If you can properly show your appreciation for your boss, he will be very happy, feel that you are a capable person and see his achievements. Praise is not equal to flattery, and appreciation is not equal to flattery. However, the appreciation and praise of him should also conform to the facts, and attention should be paid to the skills of speaking, not just flattering. If it is shot improperly, it may be counterproductive.
Ask your boss for criticism and advice.
Modesty is very important when dealing with the boss. Take the initiative to talk to your boss and ask him to give more advice on his work, which can improve his ability at work; If there is something wrong, accept his criticism with an open mind, so that he will think that you are an ambitious person and a willing son. Some people will look unhappy when the boss criticizes him, thinking that the boss is deliberately causing trouble for himself, which is wrong. The boss's advice to himself shows that he still cares about your performance. If he doesn't care what you do, that's the real bad thing. Keep a low profile and don't compete with the boss.
It is not good for subordinates to care too much about money and material benefits in front of superiors. As a subordinate, your task is mainly to help your boss. If you insist on coming out to please people, it will only make people think that you are overreaching and ignorant. So don't let your boss think that your existence is a threat to him or her. Remember not to take credit for the boss and "steal the mirror" with the boss, which shows that you are arrogant and don't know how to respect the leader. In the end, it will only be that the credit is not obtained and the name is not worthy of the name. The best way is to let the boss give it instead of robbing it yourself. You should understand that your boss always needs some loyal followers and supporters around him. Once he regards you as one of his own, it will pave the way for your future development. Seriously practice the boss's unintentional conversation.
When you are with your boss, you should remember what the boss occasionally confides and practice it at the right opportunity. This will surprise him and certainly make him feel good about himself. Maybe sometimes the boss's words have nothing to do with work at all, but subordinates should have the mentality of being at your disposal at any time. As far as possible, everything you say to your boss should be put into practice.
When the boss talks with a third party, as a subordinate, if present, he should always be alert to the other party's words and respond immediately when the boss is in an unfavorable situation. Having such subordinates is the boss's proudest and most worthy of showing off. When you give your boss such an impression, he will certainly give you a high evaluation.
Work wholeheartedly.
Every boss likes his employees to be single-minded in their work, and doesn't like those employees who always want to go outside to find better opportunities. In today's job-hopping, honesty is particularly important. Only by making the boss feel that you want to work hard here and contribute your strength to the company can you win the boss's good opinion. Some people work part-time outside to make money, which is a manifestation of inattention. Although they may not neglect their work, it is a sign of disloyalty to the company for their boss. If the boss finds out, there will be no good result. Even if they are not fired, their future development and promotion will certainly not be considered. Others like to handle personal affairs during office hours, and some even use the company's public phone to chat with friends during office hours. These behaviors violate the most basic professional ethics. When the boss finds out, there will be no good result, and he will be considered as disrespecting the company, not taking his work seriously and just muddling along.
Do you meet the above requirements now? If you can do it, congratulations, you will be promoted step by step in your work. If you haven't done it yet, keep working hard, and you will succeed one day.
Leaders and subordinates are two contradictory aspects, and they are the unity of opposites. If the relationship between the two is properly handled, a strong joint force can be formed to promote the rapid development of the cause. Otherwise, it will bring many negative factors. Now I want to talk about the relationship between leaders and subordinates.
First, the ideal leadership in the minds of subordinates
Throughout history, leaders who have made achievements attach great importance to the cultivation of their own moral quality and the shaping of their personal image. Because the image of the leader in the eyes of subordinates will directly affect the realization of the leadership intention and the success or failure of the cause. So, what kind of image should a leader establish among his subordinates?
1. spotless, giving people a sense of admiration. Under the condition of market economy, to be honest and spotless, we must control our hearts and not have greed; Stop it, don't criticize the police; Shut up, don't eat or drink; Take care of your legs and don't go where you shouldn't. As long as leaders can persist in honesty, they will naturally be respected by their subordinates.
Integrity gives people a sense of justice. Good health is the basic role attribute of a leader. First of all, we must be pure-minded, keep in mind the purpose, build the party for the public, and proceed from the interests of the party and the people, not personal fame and fortune. Secondly, conduct should be correct, and leaders' conduct is improper and unfair, even if their skills are great, they will lose their appeal. We should seek justice with our integrity and exchange justice for people's hearts. Third, be fair, not intimidated by power, not seduced by money, not carried away by debauchery, and be upright and upright. A leader's words and deeds are honest, and the work of the unit will be like a mountain.
3. Equal treatment gives people a sense of justice. It is taboo for leaders to be kind to their subordinates. "the leader is eccentric and the subordinates are chilling." Subordinates can understand the mistakes made by leaders due to inexperience, but they can't tolerate the unfair style of leadership. If you are close to one faction, alienate one faction, and favor one over the other, "one pot and two meals" will inevitably cause resentment within the unit, which will not only harm comrades, but also ruin your career. Practice has proved that people who engage in small circles will become smaller and smaller and cannot achieve great things. Only by bringing all corners of the country together can we unite people and achieve great things.
4. A promise as good as a promise gives people a sense of stability. Every word and deed of the leader has a wide influence and great significance. Once you make a mistake, it's hard to undo it. As a leader, you must keep your eyes open and speak slowly; Sensitive to things and cautious about words; When making decisions, we should be democratic first, then centralized, and discuss first before making decisions. Pay attention to the "five taboos" when making a statement: First, avoid recklessness and "make a move" when something happens. After three glasses of wine, I got carried away on a whim. Second, avoid arbitrariness and lack of opinions. Don't turn over the sesame seed cake with cotton ears and mother-in-law's mouth, but have the general demeanor of "a word from a gentleman is a promise." Three bogeys: fear of difficulties, fear of wolves before, fear of tigers after. When encountering major problems, dodge; Things involving offending people are ambiguous; Hesitant about risky things; It is wrong to put off the work in charge. Fourth, avoid favoritism and judge people. Nod close to the relationship and nod away from the relationship; Nod to the head, shake your head to those who have no backing; Nod to welfare, shake your head to those who don't "show" If we hold double standards on the issue of principle, it will not only give people an opportunity, but also bury hidden dangers for future work and fall into a dilemma that cannot be justified.
5. Relaxation gives people a sense of rhythm. As the old saying goes: "Zhang is not relaxed, civil and military can do it;" Easy and not open, both civil and military; The first is to relax, and the way of civil and military affairs is also. " Combining rigidity with softness and combining work with rest is an important leadership art of the top leaders. Only when the work is tight and moderate, life and rest are combined, and the rhythm is clear and orderly, can the group organization develop continuously and healthily. We oppose the lazy style of doing nothing and responding passively, the relaxed atmosphere of not writing a material and running several times a day, and the fatigue tactics that have been highly nervous.
6. Perseverance gives people a sense of trust. The deployment of leaders must have a basic idea, a basic view of people and things, a basic discipline in dealing with problems, and the historical inheritance and continuity of formulating principles and policies. Never have new ideas today, and there will be new patterns tomorrow; Today is flowers, tomorrow is tofu. Following such a leader, subordinates always feel very tired because they can't guess, can't figure out, can't keep up and can't do well.
7. Heart fragrance gives people a sense of trust. A poet in the Tang Dynasty once wrote a poem: "A sweet heart fills the room". He thinks that piety in the heart is like burning incense, which is a metaphor for a very sincere heart. Leaders should also be sincere, sincere and kind to their subordinates. Insist on honesty, openness and consideration. If you criticize the wrong person, you should be brave enough to review it face to face, so as to win the hearts of your subordinates. If you can help your subordinates, don't push them. This will not only help the growth of subordinates, but also help the unity of the unit. And those leaders who say nice things to their faces and gossip behind their backs are jealous of their subordinates. We should lead our subordinates to develop their careers and create brilliant achievements with a kind and generous heart.
Second, the leader's capable subordinates.
1. Be careful and don't make mistakes. In leading organs at all levels, accidents caused by lax management, self-discipline, mistakes and poor confidentiality are easy to anger leaders.
2. Be able to do things and live up to your mission. What leaders like to hear is the experience report after completing the task, but what they hate is the fear of difficulties and complaints. The subordinate was timid and the leader looked embarrassed.
3. Be good at pioneering and constantly adding color. This is a high standard requirement of leaders for subordinates. Any leader with a strong sense of professionalism and responsibility needs a group of "Wulin experts" who can break through the customs and climb the peak bravely if he wants to be first-class and strive to be the first. Every leader who wants to make a difference is a love for talents. For subordinates, they are not afraid that leaders don't like it, and they are afraid that individuals can't.
4. Advance despite difficulties, and don't shirk. Anyone who is a leader will encounter some thorny problems. At this time, subordinates will stand up and take the initiative to win the praise of leaders immediately. In particular, it needs the cooperation between internal functional departments, and it is even more impossible to kick the ball back and forth. Leaders hate subordinates who fight for success when they see good things and take a detour when they encounter difficulties.
5. Dare to tell the truth and don't cheat others. By the way, leaders can't say whatever they like. Hiding the truth may win the favor of the leader for a while, but if it leads to decision-making mistakes, the leader will blame you even more. Telling the truth may embarrass the leader for a while, but after careful consideration, he will thank you from the heart. It is a blessing for a leader to have several subordinates who dare to speak out. By the way, the banner of leadership should not be chaotic. Doing things under the banner, nine out of ten have to show off. Because the other party is doing things for the sake of the leader's face, so always try to reply. Banning the flag will inevitably damage the prestige of the leaders, and subordinates who often discredit the leaders will be "disgusted" sooner or later.
6. single-minded, not half-hearted. Some people are psychologically unhealthy, always like "reverse thinking", love to find fault with leaders, and regard confrontation with leaders as daring to speak and having backbone; Doing what the leader asks is considered flattering and worthless. We say that in dealing with the relationship between subordinates and leaders, we must first talk about party spirit, and we must not make unprincipled accommodation on the issue of right and wrong. But generally speaking, subordinates should unite with leaders to create brilliance.
Third, leaders and subordinates should support each other.
Leaders and subordinates only have different division of labor, and there is no distinction between high and low personality; In interpersonal relationships, we should form a strong atmosphere of mutual respect, mutual understanding, mutual concern and mutual support. This is an invincible magic weapon.
1. Empathy and mutual understanding. Generally speaking, leaders hope to provide more help for their subordinates' work, life and progress; When subordinates want to do their best to do the tasks assigned by leaders and try to meet them. But in real life, unsatisfactory situations often occur. Leaders have difficulties in leadership, and subordinates have difficulties in subordinates. If you think about it in another place, you can surprise each other.
2. Treat people sincerely and care about each other. Comrades from all corners of the country can sit together and work, which is a kind of fate. We are colleagues at work and friends in life. When leaders encounter difficulties, subordinates should take the initiative to help solve the problem; When subordinates are in trouble, leaders should extend a warm hand in time. As long as everyone can treat each other honestly and empathize, it will greatly enhance the cohesion of the unit.
3. Support each other from each according to his ability. Leaders should answer the questions raised by subordinates in time, not only hand in tasks, but also teach methods and try their best to optimize the working environment of subordinates; Subordinates should do things assigned by leaders with high standards and high quality, and doing a good job is the greatest support for leaders.
4. Honor and disgrace depend on each other. Leaders and subordinates are two contradictory aspects, which are the same fate, in the same boat, honor and disgrace and * * *. Wise leaders should strictly manage and carefully train their subordinates, regard their growth as their own achievements and their mistakes as their own faults. Clever subordinates should try their best to support the work of leaders, maintain their prestige, regard the mistakes of leaders as their own shame and regard the progress of leaders as their own glory. Only in this way can we form an invincible and powerful resultant force.