How to deal with the relationship between sister-in-law and sister-in-law?
People often say that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult, but some people say that the relationship between sister-in-law and sister-in-law is more difficult than the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In family relations, especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, sister-in-law is a decisive figure. As the saying goes: "A virtuous sister-in-law is like a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law; a virtuous sister-in-law will disturb her heart." This is exactly the truth.
In essence, the relationship between sister-in-law and sister-in-law should be very close. They are of similar age and are both daughters. It is in their interests to have a prosperous family and be harmonious and united. In many families, sisters-in-law often whisper to each other. Sister-in-laws in particular often say things to their sisters-in-law that are inconvenient to tell outsiders. They even discuss their own life-long affairs with their sisters-in-law. The "eldest sister-in-law is like a mother" and cares about her in every possible way. My sister-in-law's life, thoughts and studies are really the intimate person in the family.
Since ancient times, there have indeed been many touching relationships between sisters and sisters. For example, in the ancient Yuefu poem "The Peacock Flies Southeast", the feudal mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law very badly, abuses her, and even drives her out of the house. But the relationship between my sister-in-law and my sister-in-law is very good. The poem says: "But I said goodbye to my sister-in-law, and my eyes were filled with tears." This shows the depth of emotion.
However, in real life, there are many cases of discord between sister-in-law and sister-in-law, which need to be analyzed. Discord between aunts and sisters-in-law generally manifests itself in two aspects: first, the conflict occurs directly due to the problems of the aunt or sister-in-law themselves; second, the conflict between the aunt-in-law and a third party in the family and the other party fan the flames and expand the conflict. So, how can we improve the relationship between sister-in-law and sister-in-law?
When a new daughter-in-law enters a new family, she must first adapt to the original situation of the family. The original members of this family have developed a balanced interpersonal relationship after living together for a long time. For example, my sister-in-law has been favored for a long time and is relatively willful. Her parents and brother tolerate her and accommodate her, so they live in peace and balance. When a daughter-in-law just comes in, if she doesn't like it and wants to change the situation immediately and break the old balance, it will cause many conflicts. Of course, some unreasonable situations should be changed, but do so slowly.
Many daughters-in-law think that their mother-in-law is "partial" and treats their sister-in-law well and treats their daughter-in-law as an outsider. In fact, a daughter-in-law should have such tolerance and tolerance to understand her mother-in-law and regard this situation as a normal phenomenon. As the saying goes: "A daughter-in-law is connected by heart." After all, the daughter-in-law has a foreign surname and has just passed away. From the perspective of dating time, the length of time a person has been dating is one of the factors that determines the depth of a relationship. The mother-in-law and sister-in-law have been together for many years, while the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have only been together for a few months or even a year or two. , then, is it any wonder that the mother-in-law and the sister-in-law have a deeper relationship? In family life, sometimes the same words spoken by the sister-in-law will make the mother-in-law laugh, but when spoken by the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law will be annoyed. Because mothers-in-law generally do not suspect their daughters of having second thoughts, but it is different with their daughter-in-law. If the daughter-in-law can understand the above aspects, she may not be angry about her mother-in-law's "partiality". Of course, for the mother-in-law, she should also try her best to achieve "a bowl of water that is balanced" and not make the daughter-in-law worry too much.
When a daughter-in-law comes in, if she sincerely regards her mother-in-law as her own mother and her sister-in-law as her biological sister, she will not be jealous, but will actively care and take care of her sister-in-law. Today's daughter-in-law has an abnormal "reverse psychology": you love her, but I give her a hard time; you praise her, and I put her down. In the movie "Xiyingmen", the girl-in-law's boyfriend originally bought the pants material for her, but the eldest daughter-in-law Qiangying suspected that her mother-in-law was favoring her daughter, so she started to fight with her mother-in-law and deliberately got into trouble with her sister-in-law. As a result, the whole family was in trouble. Flying dog jumps. In fact, don’t say that my mother-in-law didn’t buy these pants material. Even if she did, this is human nature!
Sister-in-law has a special status and a special role due to this status. Playing this special role can increase the unity between families. For example, if the mother-in-law is more attentive to the sister-in-law, the daughter-in-law will discuss many matters with her sister-in-law. If the sister-in-law understands, it means that the mother-in-law understands 80%. If the mother-in-law misunderstands the daughter-in-law, the effect may be much better if the sister-in-law explains it than if the daughter-in-law explains it herself. On many issues, the sister-in-law must also start from the harmony and unity of the family and be considerate of the situation of her sister-in-law. If conflicts occur in the family relationship, she must play a good role in "complementing" instead of "breaking down". is the correct attitude.
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