Ten years of life and death are uncertain. If you don’t think about it, you will never forget it. Thousands of miles of lonely tomb, nowhere to say desolation. Even if we meet, we should not know each other, our faces are covered with dust and our temples are like frost. At night, I suddenly returned to my hometown with a deep dream. I was dressing up outside the small window. They looked at each other without words, only a thousand lines of tears. It is expected that the broken part of the intestines will be cut off every year, on a bright moonlit night, there will be short pines.
——"Jiang Chengzi·Ji Hai Remembers a Dream"
Many people are familiar with this poem. It is Su Shi's poem in memory of his deceased wife Wang Fu. Ten years later, in the sixth year of his marriage to his step-wife Wang Runzhi, one day was Wang Fu's anniversary. He was haunted by dreams, and he still remembered the way she was dressing up under the small window, and her deep affection was clearly visible.
Historical records indicate that Wang Fu was "sensitive and quiet" by nature. She was knowledgeable and memorized, and even if Dongpo occasionally left something behind, she could pick up some of it and harmonize with Dongpo's zither. Dongpo claimed that "there is not a bad person in the world before my eyes", and he also said, "I am careless in my words, I am not close to others, and I often write down my heart. If you don't keep something, you will spit it out, and people will spit it out." Maybe I’ll just forget it and think it’s a shame…” It’s easy to regard everyone you interact with as a good person. Wang's quiet and cautious nature perfectly complemented Dongpo's open-minded and free-spirited nature.
In "Anecdotes of Dongpo", there is a story about Wang "listening behind the scenes", which means that every time a guest comes from Dongpo, Wang Fu always hides behind the screen and holds his breath to listen. However, I think they must be some relatives, uncles at home, or unimportant official friends who came to ask Dongpo to do things and chat. They occasionally talked about new things during the conversation. This is naturally the open-mindedness of Dongpo. It was the Song Dynasty, and the entire humanistic thought had been tightened inwards from the external style of the Tang Dynasty. The world of women was getting smaller and smaller. Dongpo's treatment of Wang Fu showed that he was not an ordinary man.
But if a group of dignitaries came to visit and it was not enough to retreat to a secret room, how could it be a woman's turn to listen behind the scenes and interfere in current affairs? No matter how open-minded Su Shi was, he would not do such a thing that exceeded etiquette. He was a scholar-bureaucrat, and it was impossible for him to escape etiquette, even now. In fact, Chinese men, from ancient times to the present, have not experienced any drastic changes in their bones. In some matters, they are so persevering that people are frightened, and they remain the same despite the ups and downs.
After the guests left, she would always give soft words of persuasion. Her words were reasonable and proved to be valid, and even Su Shi was convinced. He found her as a truly virtuous wife and housekeeper, so Su Shi rose to prominence in his early years. In addition to the help of sages such as Ouyang Xiu, the power of "a virtuous wife and a virtuous husband seldom causes trouble" should not be underestimated. Even Su Shi's father Su Xun was extremely satisfied with this first wife.
I don’t remember when I read this song "Jiang Chengzi". It must have been when I was obsessed with Hong Kong dramas. In a scene from a TV series, a woman stands on the edge of a cliff, feeling miserable in the wind. After chanting these lines, she jumps off, wearing a red wedding dress, and looks back with determination to see Brigitte Lin's unbeatable grace. I started crying at that time. These few words had a sadness that made people's hearts sway. < /p>
In an instant, a few words came to mind: "Ten years of life and death are vast, without thinking, and unforgettable. Thousands of miles of lonely tomb, no place to talk about desolation. Even if we meet, we should not know each other, our faces are covered with dust, and our temples are like Frost." These are Su Dongpo's mourning words. Yang Guo devoted his whole life to martial arts and did not read much. A few days ago, he happened to see this poem on the wall of a small hotel in Jiangnan. However, he felt that it was deeply meaningful and read it casually several times. When he recalled it, he could no longer remember who it was. made. I thought: "He has been in limbo for ten years, and Long'er and I have been separated for sixteen years. He still has a solitary grave and knows where his beloved wife is buried, but I don't even know where my wife is buried." "Then I thought of the second half of this sentence, which is the scene where the author dreamed of his deceased wife one night: "I suddenly returned home in the dark dream, and I was dressing up in the small window; I was speechless, but I could only cry every year! The broken heart, the moonlit night, the short pine hill. "I couldn't help but feel sad in my heart: "And I, I couldn't sleep for three days and three nights, and I couldn't even dream."
No matter it's words! Still an image, this section always makes me cry, and it never fails. Looking back, I probably had an impression of it before watching "The Legend of the Condor Heroes", so when I read it later, it was like meeting an old friend again, and I felt an incomparable sense of intimacy. I remembered that there is also a poem in this book called "Maipitang" by Yuan Haowen, which starts with: "Asking what is love in the world?" It is also thanks to the promotion of Jin Yong's novels that it became widely known. It can be seen that there are good martial arts, it just depends on how people view it. For the same reason, most people in the world judge Su Shi as a bold and unrestrained poet. In fact, Zizhan's love poems written in Xiao Ling are also clear and elegant. Their softness does not give way to the graceful style. In their hard character, they are better than A River of Spring Water Flows from the East. No one can be dissatisfied.
He is as talented as Li Bai. Geniuses are not bound by secular conventions, and their experiences are described lightly, but even wind and rain cannot detract from their meaning.
Su Shi was devoted to love all his life, and he was also sentimental and generous. He had happiness and troubles that the tree wanted to calm down but the wind did not stop. Just like the current Uranus superstars and their groupies, women often show affection.
It was once recorded that when he was the magistrate of Hangzhou, one day he had a banquet with his friends in the West Lake. A colorful boat sailed from a distance. In the boat was an extremely beautiful woman in her thirties with light makeup. The woman arrived in front of Su Shi's boat and reported her family background: "My little girl has heard about Mr. Su's reputation since she was a child. I heard that you are visiting the West Lake today, so I came here specially. I am not afraid that my father-in-law and mother-in-law will blame me for not being a woman. I saw you today.
It’s such an honor for you.
There is nothing I can do to express my admiration. The little girl is good at playing the zither. Let me play a piece for you today. "After that, she played a piece, and the sound of the piano was like singing. Her noble and elegant demeanor and superb skills moved everyone present.
After the woman finished playing the piece, she begged Su Shi and said: "It is my little girl's great fortune to meet Mr. Su today. I just ask you to give me a little poem as a lifelong honor. I wonder if you can agree? "Su Shi could not refute her kindness, so he immediately wrote a poem:
It has begun to clear up after rain in Fenghuang Mountain, the water is clear and the wind is clear, and the sunset is bright. A lotus blooms in the sky. Where are two egrets flying? If you are interested, I heard that the mourning kite was playing on the river, and it was full of emotion. Who should listen to it? The smoke gathered in the clouds, and I wanted to wait for the song to end, but I didn't see anyone.
——"Jiang Chengzi"
According to Long Fu's "Nvhong Yuzhi" of the Yuan Dynasty, there was a woman named Chaochao named Wen in Huizhou who refused to marry until she was fifteen years old. When he heard that Su Shi had arrived in Huizhou, he said happily: "This is my husband. "He lingered outside Su Shi's window every day and listened to him reciting poems and composing poems. Later, Su Shi discovered Chaochao's admiration for him, and fearing that it would be inconvenient, he left Huizhou in a hurry.
A few years later, he left Huizhou. I revisited and heard people say that Chaochao was dead and buried in the sand. I was horrified and moved, so I wrote a poem for her called "Bu Suanzi·The missing moon hangs on the sparse tung trees" -
The missing moon hangs on the sparse tung trees, missing moon It's quiet in the beginning. I see lonely people walking around, but I look back when I'm startled. I pick up all the cold branches and refuse to live there.
Some people comment on the coldness of the east. Poe's "Bu Suan Zi" has unique advantages of "lofty meaning, ethereal writing, and honest words", which "are the unique features of Poe Immortal". The casualness of "You" is different from the majesty of "Nian Nujiao: The River Goes East", and different from the heroic excitement of "Jiang Chengzi: Hunting in Mizhou"
However, between him and Chaochao, it is like. Nowadays, the meeting between a certain celebrity and his fans looks sexy and charming, and it arouses the imagination of the person involved, but it just disappears like catkins fluttering in the spring breeze, and it never ends up in the painting hall after passing through the eaves.
To him, these women are just episodes in his life. They are not ruthless or unlucky, but we will meet many people in our lives. How many of them can really stop? Life will eventually be barren. Ferry, even we are passers-by. He could not retain Chaochao, let alone Wang Fu.
Su Shi died of illness at the age of twenty-six. I just think he is good, and the wife he married is also good. She is content and cherishes blessings. She is none other than Wang's cousin, also named Wang, and she is called "Twenty-seven" at home. "Mother". Runzhi admired this brother-in-law since he was a child, and he didn't feel aggrieved when he married him after his sister died. The twenty-six years she stayed with Su Shi were the most important twenty-six years in his life. Su Shi's career was ups and downs. After several rises and falls, she fell in love with him. When Dongpo was deposed again, she died in the capital. After Runzhi died of illness, Su Shi no longer married, leaving only Chaoyun to accompany him until his death.
Now we no longer stubbornly believe that it is commendable for a person to love only one person in his life. In fairy tales, the prince always only loves the princess. That is a fairy tale. The reality is that both the princess and the prince have gradually grown. When we grow up, people will gradually drift apart. The castle has withered, and the pink rose has already begun to fade.
Wang Runzhi must have known about Su Shi's "Jiang Chengzi" and was not jealous. And the heart of complaining. One person keeps his or her place in the heart, and no one can replace it. The images of future people should not overlap with those of the ancestors. Each has its own place.
Love must be so open-minded, bright, and tender. Therefore, ten years later, he still remembered Wang Fu dressing up under the window of Xiaoxuan, and cried silently in front of her grave, with nowhere to say anything desolate. He was not betrayed during his lifetime, but missed him after his death, and wrapped himself up in beautiful words. This kind of love is deep and pure. It has nothing to do with marrying several times. He can always say openly that you are mine. Loving wife.
Cherish each lover, there is no vague substitute for each other, clearly know who you need and what you need. If you only love one person when you love, don’t let side branches come in to entangle you. , this love is like a relic, precious and complete.
The man is not Yang Guo, and the woman is not Xiao Longnu. What qualifications do we have to demand perfect love? To guard for the sake of guarding, in the end the love will die and the heart will die. It is better to let nature take its course and leave three feet of room for each other to turn around and miss each other.
Reading "Jiangchengzi" will break Su Shi's mind.
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