This sentence applies to any situation and any relationship.
Everything in the world should have a degree.
People who know how to be measured can do things smoothly and get twice the result with half the effort.
Because when they speak, when they do things, and when they don't cross the bottom line, they are measured.
Zhu Ziqing said:
People with proper limit won't talk about other people's shortcomings.
Wang Xiaobo once said:
Keep your word, that is, you can stop talking, which reminds others and won't embarrass others.
Wen, a famous poet in Tang Dynasty, is quick in thinking. He never drafts poems when he writes them. He just crossed his hands eight times and wrote a poem with eight rhymes.
Although he is very talented, he has repeatedly failed in the list because he is arrogant and does not pay attention to his own discretion.
At that time, I liked Bodhisattva Man so much that I secretly asked Wen to write the word Bodhisattva Man for myself and dedicate it to the emperor, and told Wen not to reveal it, but it spread.
Once, Xuanzong wrote a poem, the previous sentence had a "golden step", and the next sentence could not be corrected. The text uses "jade belt to take off" to correct it.
Hu Ling Xuan didn't know the jade belt, so she asked Wen about the origin of this allusion.
WenTingJun told him about the southern classics, and sarcastically said:
Wen once said to people, "General of Zhongshu Province", mocking illiteracy.
Linghuxuan hates him even more because of this. Last week, she said that he was talented, but immoral and should not be allowed to win.
The ancients said:
If a person wants a lot of blessings, he must know how to speak carefully and how to speak.
Because every indiscretion will ruin your character.
Keeping promise is a respect for others and a reflection of self-cultivation.
There is a saying in Zhu Jiaxun:
The general idea of this sentence is: leave room for everything, and things that are too satisfactory and smooth are not suitable for doing again to avoid troubles and accidents.
If you have too much to do, don't do everything. Is to leave a back road for each other and a back road for yourself.
Because things are done absolutely, and the other party can't retreat, they will fight with us for a larger foe, and in the end they will only lose both sides.
There is a place worth thinking about in Wolf Totem.
Every winter, wolves kill antelopes, forcing them to enter Zita Law and freeze to death in a snow pit.
In this way, when the snow melts in the coming year, the cubs will have enough food sources after birth.
Bi Lige is an experienced Mongolian old man. He will take away some antelopes' bodies, but he will also leave enough food for wolves.
Because herders understand that if all the antelopes in the snow pit are taken away by humans, wolves will attack herders' sheep when there is no food in spring.
Farmers who moved from other places tried their best to carry all the antelope's bodies away.
In revenge, the wolves drove all the horses of the production team into the cold lake.
The production team began to kill wolves, and soon there were no wolves on the grassland.
When the wolves disappeared, antelopes, rabbits, prairie rats and marmots lost their natural enemies and began to breed in large numbers, and the grassland was chewed into a desert.
It turned into a desert and the famine began.
In the struggle between man and wolf, man carried all the antelope's bodies away, leaving no way for the wolf.
The next spring, the wolf had to attack the herdsmen's sheep in order to feed the cubs.
Humans began to exterminate wolves, which eventually led to the grassland becoming a desert.
The book says:
Human beings have planted evil causes and finally harvested evil consequences.
As Wendu Tao said:
Don't do everything, leave some room for others, and have the opportunity to turn around when you are in trouble.
Flowers are not red for a hundred days, but people are not good for a thousand days.
We won't always have the upper hand, others will have their luck.
Today we leave a retreat for others, and others will leave us a step in the future.
The female writer Eugene once said:
When people get along with each other, the sense of boundaries and proper limit is a very subtle existence.
If you casually cross the line and pry into privacy, it will make the other person feel sympathetic.
If they don't keep in touch often, they don't know what to say when they meet.
Only by keeping a proper distance and not crossing the line can we get along better.
Schopenhauer once said:
The daily life of Zhang Guoli and Deng Jie is worth learning.
As husband and wife, they are independent of each other.
Zhang Guoli usually practices calligraphy at home, walks the birds and does his own thing.
On the other hand, Deng Jie likes gardening, washing clothes and cooking.
Most of the time in life, they are both in the yard, one reading and writing, the other mowing flowers and mowing grass.
Both of them have their own hobbies and will not interfere in each other's life, nor will they force each other to do things they don't like. They don't interfere with each other and are happy.
Finish your own business, cook and chat together, and share happiness.
If you have a good relationship, you will often have a clear sense of distance and know how to give each other a little space when you get along.
Murphy once said:
Everyone has their own secrets and secrets, and they also want some privacy.
Anyone who knows how to keep a sense of proportion knows that no matter how close a relationship is, you can't pry into each other's privacy at will.
San Mao once said:
What destroys a relationship is often excessive contact without discretion.
A relationship without discretion will make each other full of scars; Only by keeping a proper distance can the two sides get along comfortably.
Knowing how to keep a sense of proportion is the best way to respect each other and cherish this relationship.
Zeng Guofan once said:
Life should have a "degree".
A measured person can save face for others by talking to others;
A measured person can do things just right and leave room for others;
Only those who are measured can get along with each other at a distance and respect each other's lives;
I hope you and I can both know how to handle things properly, so that our life can get wider and wider.